THESE Are the Top 5 Hidden Dismissive Avoidant Turn Offs!

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In today's video, Thais Gibson explores the top five hidden turn-offs for dismissive avoidant attachment styles and why certain behaviors can push them away. Discover how high expectations, lack of personal space, and overwhelming emotions impact your connection with a dismissive avoidant partner, and learn practical strategies to foster a secure relationship. Watch now to gain insights into navigating this attachment style with empathy and understanding, as Thais shares valuable tips for building lasting intimacy.
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00:00:00 - Introduction: Struggling to Connect with a Dismissive Avoidant
00:00:21 - The Importance of Independence for Dismissive Avoidants
00:00:54 - Top 5 Hidden Turn-Offs for Dismissive Avoidants
00:01:17 - Turn-Off #1: Pressure and High Expectations
00:02:14 - Turn-Off #2: Feeling Criticized or Judged
00:03:39 - The Impact of Childhood Attachment Patterns
00:04:52 - Turn-Off #3: Lack of Personal Space
00:05:36 - Turn-Off #4: Intimacy Without Emotional Connection
00:07:02 - Turn-Off #5: Overwhelming Emotional Expression
00:08:30 - How to Foster Security in Relationships with Avoidants
00:10:05 - Setting Boundaries and Healthy Expectations
00:11:38 - Conclusion: Next Steps and Free Course Offer
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[b-six-twelve]

These videos are helping me understand why I was having issues in a relationship, but they’re also driving home to me how utterly imbalanced the relationship was and would continue to be. The avoidant must always hold the power, the other person must always accommodate their issues and do the emotional labor. I understand avoidants are the way they are because of wounding, but the problem is we have wounds too. We can see theirs and ours. They can only seem to see theirs.

[ilexopaca]

1:17 Pressure and high expectations
2:15 Feeling criticized or judged
4:52 Lack of personal space
5:36 Intimacy without emotional connection
7:05 Overwhelming emotional intimacy.

Thank you Thais!

[samanthav]

I like how you mentioned a timeline — so many just think that their partner will change. Sometimes they do, but usually only within a year or two— it’s not worth holding your breath for a decade

[chrisbent]

At the end of the day it does matter how good you dance around at DA if they don’t take ownership of their insecurities you’re best to move on straight away for yourself because they’ll never consider you at all!
Sad but true.

[littledevil]

Another vid about "how to dance around DA"

[LastEarBender]

Holy smokes - the timing on this one is impeccable. Lot's of stuff going on with myself (an FA) and my long-term DA partner. I've been doing a lot of work myself on all of this, because of course I have been, I"m an FA... I've been getting some clarity on a lot of things. It's an extremely difficult situation, as my DA has also been experiencing major health issues for the past year and I've been terrified of wanting to put pressure on her for anything, but I can't keep this up the way it's been going. I need to trust that I can approach her in the best possible way to communicate these things and allow myself to also trust her to accept the conversation in the best possible way and not just run/ shut down.
Thanks Thais

[sharnamajor]

The problem is, when they are given the safety net without criticism or judgement, they start to feel safe. But with safety comes trauma. They run. DA's will only hang around if they get everything they want on a surface level (obviously this is for those who don't work on themselves, which is majority of DA's). It's a lose/lose for anyone in a relationship with one.

[Fresh_Baked_Bread_Is_Life]

Great video!! There really is a specific temperature a DA needs in order to want a relationship to work. It can take a while as in months even going into years. As long as you don't show up too extreme in any area, they have a better chance of coming around. Reminds me of a cat. Lol You can be their peace without being a doormat. So many seem to think that you have to tip toe around them in order to make it work and that's the worst idea. Not only are they going to feel you not being authentically who you are, but you will be miserable in the process. It benefits no one. Show up as yourself and it's either going to work or it's not. If you're on a timeline like you want marriage or kids by a specific age, probably not a great move to try with a DA because they're not going to move on your timeline. If you have nothing but time and are fine flowing with a relationship and letting it naturally evolve into something deep and committed then it could be a good fit.

[FrankyboyFloyd]

Don’t care what they hate. They will never reciprocate the same concern you may have for them. Never… Impossible to have a conversation, even if you are considerate, put no pressure, empathetic…

[gamermum.]

I thought I was an FA, but after watching this, now I know I'm a DA. Thank you for the video. ❤

[alexandramaria]

This video is missing the brain chemistry aspect. Relationships with dismissive avoidants individuals tend to fall apart around the 6/7 month mark, because dopamine starts to fade away. Therefore, turns out vasopressin's and oxytocin production didn’t occur to bond the dismissive avoidant partner with you. Actually when dopamine levels start to decrease, cortisol rise… hence their need to break up, pull away or binging.

Self-care is really important in such situations… please do not hate people, but protect yourself while learning negotiation skills and tracking risk.

Hugs from Portugal,

Alexandra

[PeterRabbit]

You gave me some good ideas, thank you from the heart. 💙 That is, to do more tasks together during the day to build daytime intimacy, seeing if it bleeds into the evening arena.

[bulldogp]

basically being a human and living outside of the fantasy they made up of you in their own head to justify their own existence. We get it.

[Vanessa-gklk]

No thank you! Unless the DA is actively aware and healing. I'm staying the heck away!

[WrittenMysteries]

the biggest myth about DAs is that parents cause trauma and we mistakenly assume we'll be treated likewise forever. many DAs figure out their parents are crazy, and they look forward to life in adulthood, only to discover that adulthood works pretty much the same as high school. I remember when my physical symptoms began in my 20s, right around the time I realized it wasn't getting better. once a DA has lost faith in other adults, it's twice as hard to recover.

[RayLiotaToyota]

I poured in 💯, walked on eggshells, watched how I talked. She’s a mess!!!
I’m out. Can’t live life trying to figure out a person and their childhood trauma issues.

[RayLiotaToyota]

Yes being intimate was like being her personal toy. It only went one way.😢

[Healingpawsss]

Haha! I put my DA through all of these things. He ran! 🏃‍➡️

[RL.H]

Not sure the title matches the content in the video. A lil confusing

[stephaniepersin]

Why would anyone put up with this past one time, due to being naive?