Are You SIMPING For Your Wife? w/ Matt Fradd

[BartlebyHiggensworth]

Men who simp for their wives are people pleasers - just try to keep her happy and won't assert themselves or their own needs, can't tolerate unresolved conflict. "Happy wife, happy life." When I found out that that statement was a terrible lie, my life actually got a lot better and happier.

[aenigmatica]

This is so spot on! Affection is a wonderful thing if it’s coming from the right place.

[jackieo]

Some men are terrible about standing up to their wives!!! And some women need to stand up to their husbands!

[manda_musings]

Men you simply do not agree with are not “simps”; women you find disagreeable are not “feminists”.

People are people. Imperfect. Men. Women. All. This kind of rhetoric does not help. MAYBE give real advice on how people can seek introspection or, god forbid, counseling to work on being healthier versions of themselves?

[fujikokun]

I think the problem with this arrangement is that being the head is extremely hard, and most men absolutely recoil from it in one way or another. It means doing everything a leader does, but also doing it without recognition or reward. For example if your wife doesn’t respect you, you still must lead, and with charity. If you get into fights, you must lay down your pride and apologize first, forgive first. Leading as Christ is the hardest thing in the world to do. If the wife is the Church, then her job is to obey, but even if she doesn’t, Christ continues to forgive her and draw her. The wife’s “job” is really to receive the good gifts of the husband, and respond with thanksgiving. Mostly when this issue is discussed, it forgets, or leaves out entirely, that a marriage is supposed to symbolize Christ and the Church. Not God the Father and the Church, but Christ and the Church. And Christ sacrifices, he humbles himself, and he gives of himself. And the Church responds. That is how a marriage is supposed to work.
Also, this should make it apparent why you should not enter into a marriage unequally yolked. If both people don’t understand what marriage is, and both don’t enter it wanting to achieve it, it’s going to be an absolutely twisted and miserable affair.

[coldzero]

Dipping while smoking a cigar? Get some gum man, good grief

[crohunter]

It’s not out of the fear of sex
Rather the fear of DIVORCE

[jennas]

So what is a woman to do in the case of the lukewarm husband? It's her responsibility to get her children to heaven too, and if her husband refuses to lead them there?

[RaineInKS]

Boy, would I love to hear an extended version of this conversation on gender roles.

[laraluna]

I think it’s commendable that Matt is trying to reach these young men who think any man who disagrees with them are simps. Matt needs to keep in mind the men who talk this way are majority not Christian. The ones Ive talked to online that are catholic, are very disturbed. They do not go to a traditional parish yet want a traditional wife, they think issues with watching unchaste things online is ok, they do not go to daily mass or adoration. They remind me of the crazy liberals who call everyone racist except they call all men who disagree with them simps.

[baron_of_dirt]

you should really get Thrsdy/Josiah a mic haha

[heythere]

Frankly I see most social dynamics including relationships to be signs of the fall. Its weirdly laborious to have a decent interaction with many people. Things tend to go well until I try to extend empathy verbally, people seem to prefer to brush things under the rug and never address any issue. People are very uncomfortable in their own skin, if they get empathy, they want a tiny bit, bite sized. Kindness can throw many people off, I dont wake up trying to over power the person I am with, nor do I take out my baggage on them or pre emptively judge them.. This seems to be a rare trait? Its like reverse psychology, they can see this level of kindness and then assume there must be something wrong because you are just decent to them lol. Some people seem to want to bait arguments, like they rather let things crash and burn than dare to pre emptively address overt issues that create confusion.... I rather not deal with that.

I think many women get used to toxic dynamics, so when a guy is confident, nice and stable, they think he may be a simp. I also think many guys are insecure and trying to play games and be distant to draw in women. Iv never been a simp with anyone but I feel a couple might have thought I was being fake nice atfirst, then they get shocked when they realize they weren't my Idol, but I infact was just being a gentleman. Typically they only realize that once its too late though✌

[tateharrigan]

Tim Gordon has said something simular. I wish you'd have him back on.

[thatblissguythatblissguy]

simp comes from to "sympathize" with someone.

mainly used against people "over-sympathizing"

society adding a negative connotation, by using it as a "short"

[szklanyy]

Love is not selfish .. i bombard her with love and tell her when shes wrong or something but shes the most catholic woman ever .. love her till death does us apart

[DaynaRathman]

I would really like to hear full episode of this short but the link provided goes to a different interview.

[jeffreyfernandez]

Lol, I thought I was the only one who spits on a cup while I smoke cigars.

[awsambdaman]

Christian men simp so hard sometimes. I am a Christian but am so annoyed at how unwilling we are to call out women’s sin. Vanity in social media, immodesty in dress, pride in relationships

[Kerrathlol]

Something to remember is that simp is an acronym, and if you know what the acronym stands for, it’s not just a man who overextends himself for a woman who doesn’t reciprocate, it’s a woman whose interest isn’t of particular value.

[nicholascollins]

If I may offer some advice. I always take care of my wife’s needs emotionally and otherwise so that she can trust me to lead on most things. For example: I’m definitely the spiritual head of the home but it’s because I know how to support my wife emotionally and spiritually so she knows that my ability to support her comes from my faith. So even when there are times when she doesn’t want to go to do religious things she trusts that the reason why I can support her spiritually is because of my religious practices.