Being Single in India

For years and years, the institution of marriage has been very important in Indian society. But in recent years, there’s a different trend that is being noticed- there has been a rise in the number of people who are opting to remain single. The reasons are many- some like the freedom that comes with it, some have decided to wait until they find the right person, no matter how long it takes and some have decided to stay single after a bad experience with a partner/spouse.
But Being single in India Sucks!
Singles are being discriminated against in all spheres- “Bachelors/Spinsters are not allowed” is something we very commonly see in housing societies
In this video, we discuss these forms of discrimination faced by single people and try to understand what drives the society to discriminate against them in this way.

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00:00 Intro
01:33 Stats on single people in India at present
01:53 Social Discrimination
03:31 System Discrimination
05:27 Family Pressure
06:50 Importance of Marriage
08:38 Religious Beliefs
09:04 Bad behaviour of singles
10:27 Why are people still choosing to remain single?
10:46 Conclusion

[adityarevgade]

Guys comments me hi match making kar lo dekho koi mile to

[harshitgarg]

Bipolar society. They elect unmarried 70 year old leaders but will not let a bachelor Tenant in their building.

[siddhantv]

The bad behavior is not limited to only singles. When I lived in mumbai, the married couple living in the flat below ours fought almost everyday.
Their screaming and yelling would always be audible to us from balconies and bathroom vents. Not only that, they would occasionally smoke in the bathrooms which would bother our family all the time.
It really depends on what kind of person you are rather than your relationship status.

[AmanKhan-bzjt]

Being single doesn't mean you're weak, it means you're strong enough to wait for what you deserve..

[gargharsh]

Yes, Being single is better than getting married and breaking someone's heart for physical relationships.

[Koba]

I am 34 Single who recently moved to India after 10 years in US and I can confirm life is very difficult in India for single.

[anuou]

Being a girl and single at 32, I stopped going out just because I don't want to answer "why am being single at this age". Why can't the society understand that life is not just about getting married and having kids. When I say that am not interested in marriage, people keep asking me "who will take care of you when you're old?". Doesnt that mean people are having kids, only because they want someone to take care of them when they are old. Isn't selfish to have kids and asking them to take care of us in our old-age? They must have other things to do. Why bother them with our problems at that point. It's better to have some sort of savings and depend on oneself rather asking others to take care of ourselves. If India had health care system like NHS or social security pensions like developed countries, then most people wouldn't be worried about all these issues of marriage and old age care.

[aboveaverage]

In India, people are judged on their Marital status, Caste, Color, Family background and having child or being childless.
The Qualifications, Character, Life choices, Ideology, Good values all other are secondary things.

[prithamandal]

As a 25 yrs old indian who doesn't wanna get married or have any children and who never did desire them either, im honestly worried about all the discrimination i might have to face. I believe this is one of the reason why many indian women desire living in foreign countries where women are given more choices and freedom. I love india but society really makes me believe otherwise.

[Abcdedcb]

Being Single in India is also difficult because nobody would let you live in peace! Be it your own family! The relatives who have not seen you in ages! Neighbours! The constant nagging question, "Shaadi kab karoge" "Shaadi karlo ab" "Settle ho jao" "Shaadi bohat important hai"

[Desanc]

I am a single indian woman living in Sweden. Trust me social discrimination for being single is also here. I, like many other single women here, don't get invited to family gatherings. There is no discrimination from government system per se. But married people or couples do have some more benefits. But socially one can get very excluded. People also keep asking if a single person is dating etc.

[nehashirodkar]

Trust me I'm single and all the above you said is true.. and this discrimination is pushing me towards loneliness, because everyone makes me feel like a misfit and i don't even feel like a part of anything. People who are married are willing to fake it for society even if they are not happy or not satisfied with their lives, but being true to one self and bring Frank is totally judged

[sadafshaikh]

Being single is a choice.
Being with someone is a choice.

If we can't think good for anyone we should not think bad as well. I'm 27 & single and never been in a relationship. Marriage is overrated. Always remember 'Being single won't kill you & being in a relationship won't heal you. Live your life the way you want just don't regret.

Thanks Mohit for making this video ✌🏻🖤

[millennialmind]

This is the discrimination we all should be fighting against

[chinmaychavan]

As living in Pune, I can confirm that most of the resdential societies have made rule to not give houses to bachelors and it has become common here

[s.r]

You may be happily single, but society won't leave you alone. They will pathologize anyone who is different/unique.

[zyrus__]

I'm a teenager and recently started attendeding college.... beleive it or not here it's like if you are single then you are doing something wrong....like nobody cares if I want to focus on my career right now or its just my personal choice to be don't understand why people take relationships as an stupid society we are living in

[peteck]

A lot of people don't realise that, after you crossed the 30 year old mark, the parents and relatives don't ask you about getting married. But this time, the friends you had start getting distanced since they have their own set of friends who are married. So the married people hangout with other married people. And at that time you basically start loosing friends or lost friends already. But you need to actively look for friendship by joining different activities and groups. Or you will more likely to end up becoming depressed.

[Akkisopinion]

Finally someone not only acknowledged our existence but also shared our problems in a respectful way. Thanks. This is my experience too. I did remember when I was trying to find a flat in Gurgaon, the owner blatantly asked me "do you have a boyfriend? If you do then don't search for property in this area, this is family area" I was shocked. Not because he said this, I am kind of used to these questions while searching property. I was more shocked because that whole area was full of PGs with single people, I literally found a flat just 3 houses away from his house in that cute "Family area". And this was just one of the struggles of being single. The society pressure thing is a whole another level of insanity. When you are single in your 30s, the only thing that comes to everyone's mind is that either we are hiding our relationship status or we have some kind of illness. My male colleagues also face the same judgements but it is more hard for women because society always associates it with your character (I mean they don't leave married women too, it is easy to declare someone's character wrong when you have big mouth) it is annoying. First of all I am not hiding anything. And second, if someone is in that situation, it is none of your business. They always say "you are getting old, marry soon otherwise you won't get the right partner". As we have a lack of people in this country to find the one. The family pressure, constant pokes from friends makes it hard to hang out with them. The relatives who I see maybe twice a year also poke daily saying "who will take care of you when you will get old", well NOT YOU for sure. Wow so much care! Where are these relatives when you need them? Probably busy in poking someone else's family I guess. My point is there is nothing wrong in keeping our mental peace as a priority. Maybe we are still figuring things out, maybe someone wants to focus just on their career, maybe they have family or financial problems, maybe they are still deciding, maybe they will marry in future or maybe they won't. Maybe someone doesn't have their shit together to take on new responsibility or maybe someone doesn't have any of these problems and still wants to be single. Who knows. You found your balance in marriage, I found my balance in being single. As simple as that.

[ashokseshadri]

People in the comments who are afraid of dying alone and want to marry citing that as one of the about it. When you're dead, you're dead. It makes no difference to your body if it is by the roadside or being given a state funeral. It makes no difference to you whether people remember you or forget you because you don't exist anymore. All these emotional connections you make about dying surrounded by loved ones or being remembered after death....all these are pointless attachments. They matter only in your imagination. Once you're dead, there is no imagination, no emotions, nothing. It will be exactly how it was before you were born.