LOVE won't be enough to SAVE your Relationship!

Love won't be enough to save a relationship. Atleast not the way MOST people demonstrate it (I would know from my own failures). Love is all about humility and mutual respect, it's about service and sacrifice. Everything breaks down in a relationship; intimacy, connection, friendship; everything falls apart when one or both partners don't get Love right. This is what I believe Love requires of all of us to have a healthy, safe, mutually fulfilling relationship.

How to Stop Fighting in your Relationship

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
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[christiedecker]

Love is changing adult diapers and telling them you are grateful they are there so you can do it. Love was caregiving for 24 years after a major stroke...love was holding hands as they breathed their last...Love wasn't just about me, love was doing all in my power to make their life as easy, sweet, and gentle as possible for as long as possible...

[sharicoburn]

If you put your relationship on autopilot and become lazy the plane crashes"
Perfect analogy Jimmy.

[xdmztryvsvedine]

When you’re hurt by them, it’s so hard to set aside ego and speak from a place of love.

[BarbaraLinton-kc]

Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.

[Aire]

My husband always tells me that we don't talk about our problems, but every time I try to talk to him and tell him how I feel, he gets defensive and starts yelling. So yes, I don't talk to him anymore about my feelings. He's definitely not a safe place for me.

[JacobGarcia-xfgk]

I was a part of a 3 year engagement that ended because of my actions. I felt it in my heart that I loved her more than any other partner I've ever had. But my actions were not in harmony with my heart. Due to my past mistakes, weaknesses and immaturity, I failed her. She put forth so much in the relationship and I'm now seeing how I failed. How I was improving and serving her, but missing the big spots and the more important needs she had.
She has a golden heart and still shows me love but my turn to care for her and be her Partner is over.

If you read this, please do what i didn't do in time.
Listen to them, hear what they truly want to say, and then CHANGE. Do it for them before you lose them.

[td]

Actions speak louder than words, nice to have both but actions are more important

[PaintingandExercise]

This is fantastic. Most people would prefer to just say I love you and then be done with it. I have learned that most of the time I am just playing a bit part in someone's life and that, if I walked away, they would be annoyed because they have to work to replace me but not annoyed because they lost me. Once a person reaches a point that they are alone in a relationship then they might as well go be alone by themselves rather than face daily rejection.

[VictoriaLambe]

Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[N_Daileda]

In 20 minutes, this video has answered questions I've been asking my entire life & no one has been able to come up with an actual answer. Best video I've ever watched!!! Thank you Jimmy!!!!

[lindaratzel]

So absolutely true! I always said communication is key! Sadly you are totally right about narcissists…better off alone! Being lonely in a relationship is WAY worse than being alone!

[nwng]

Commenting because I think this guy's channel should be more popular

[karenletwinch]

This guy has an incredible gift of communication and bringing clarity with his choice of words so thankful he is using his talents to bless others

[BarBara-jm]

Great video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him*

[querida]

Thank you Jimmy your video comes the right moment. My ex bf asked for another chance. However, I told him he needs to prove to me that he is the man for me. By putting the effort in the "relationship". It is on him now. He has to earned my heart again, I told him that. My heart is in a safe place. I realized if it doesn't work out, I am going to be fine.

[AudraJ]

My husband won't even watch these videos. I sent them to him and asked if he watched them, and his response was "Of course not" and "Why should I have to." He thinks I'm the entire problem. Zero desire for self-reflection. Doesn't want to even learn what validation and reciprocation look like. I have so much resentment built up from this relationship that I don't even know what to do with myself. I'm so sad and so angry. I'm tired of being dismissed and ignored. At this point, I'm only still here because I can't afford to leave.

[Alltagundso]

💯 I felt seriously loved by people that just didn't work at the relationship.

Just because we love somebody, we shouldn't get into a relationship with them.

[angeladogagis]

These principles apply to all relationships. Including friendships. Constructive feedback is supposed to be spoken in love and not in a mocking type of way. Or a judgmental tone.

[saggie]

So beautifully expressed Jimmy.
I’m at the end of a 20+ yr relationship and I’m done.
I look for the parts of me that contributed to this ending, but to be perfectly honest I have begged for communication from him for years.
He shuts down and walks away, which as you said just makes me angry.
He is an unconfident EI son of a grandiose Narcissist.
He’s never worked on himself.
I worry for his future, because he’s clearly in denial and can never apologise for anything.
Why did I stay so long?
Kids and finances basically.
He’s moved home to his mothers and basically abandoned me financially, but he was never a willing provider anyway.
I’ll survive. I’m doing all the work to sell the property and then I’ll be free.
Why am I telling my story?
So that ppl younger than me can recognise that ppl with these traits rarely change.
He’s all in his head and doesn’t talk to me about anything. 10x worse than before.
There is nothing I can do for him expect look out for myself. I’d hoped because of the grown up kids we could be amicable, perhaps that will come in time?
Considering we have lived like house mates for so long, his reaction to making this decision has quite honestly surprised me.
I guess he would have gone along like that forever.
But I want more out of life.
No more asking for “permission” and being held back, scared of his reaction to something I want to do.
Just putting it in writing here is therapeutic.
Again thank you Jimmy.

[veronicaf]

Every negative response, reaction is 100% in my marriage. My husband is a narcissist & never asks or wants to listen to me. My "thoughts are stupid". How do I leave a 16 year marriage & 3 children. I am exhausted from trying my best to please him. I am worn & alone. 😥