12 Reasons to Divorce

Entitlement and instant gratification
Unrealistic expectations
Intimacy cloud
Wealth transfer (transactionalism in late onset marriages)

Communication issues
No love
No intimacy
No partnership
Premature commitment
Addictions
Domestic violence
Infidelity
No succor
Exhaustion
Financial problems
Loss of sense of self

[pinkierural]

13.Laziness
14. Compulsive Lying
15.Emotional Immaturity
16. Self-hatred from hearing your own complaining voice hit a brick wall
17.Stonewalling
18. Lack of domestic help

"Substance abuse" can also be porn addiction and addiction to the internet in general ie. perpetual escape from commitment

[aliciaserrano]

Such a painful realization that divorce was the only way out of the perpetual cycle. Now it’s as if I never existed in his life. It’s ok, I’m happy to finally get off the rollercoaster. I wasn’t crazy and now I have peace.

[sumeyraara]

I had exactly 11/12 reasons, still wondering if it was right to choose divorce. I definitely knew after a short while, after some distant time.
Sending you lots of love

[robinday]

All of your videos are filled with truth. The problem is once you realize all of these truths, rather than being set free, I have found that they lead me to a point of feeling absolutely no hope. Total despair, and hopelessness for the future. I don’t see a world where my life will ever maintain any state of happiness, given the awareness that I now have of both myself and others. So much for self-help…lol. The truth has officially broken me.

[brainchildabacustt]

I started watching your channel when i heard about BPD from the Amber Heard/JD case. I was confused as to what I was experiencing in my marriage and why. I have learnt so much from you. Today this video will help me outline my divorce petition because I honestly don't have the words. Thank you so much...

[sandragalloway]

Think I have all twelve of these.... so depressing. So informative thank you.

[melbaT]

“Burdened” for sure… which stemmed from being controlled and isolated in some ways. Broke free from my own unrealistic expectations and now live in peace.

[pjmrees]

Funny, the wealth distribution went to my narcissistic ex. He abused me so badly I left to preserve my sanity and physical health. I'm guessing that was his plan.

[kkneebone]

Very timely, very good insight and advice Sam.

[cnunex]

What a wonderful talk. Thank you very much. I’ll watch it several times.

[sicobain]

I've been married for almost 5 months and communication is hard sometimes because he is a Finnish person and I'm a Brazilian, so we speak in English which I'm an intermediate speaker.
2) he is alcoholic and he says it is part of his culture and I have to accept that. It hurts me
3)he can not have sex with me, if he touched me 4x was much and when he was drunk so it didn't work.
4)he is unemployed but he the most problem is not searching for job because the gov. Keeps him financially.
5)he sleeps very late because of insonia and he wakes up very late as well, when he does, no energy for cleaning the house, going to bike or anything.
6)addicted to games, he plays a lot, I almost can't kiss him, talking to him is a hard task because he gets annoyed easily.
For all this, I said I support him, but he needs to go to the doctor to check his hormones, vitamins and decide for a change.
I am really confused about his feelings towards me, even he says he loves me. I think his rage shows more how he doesnt respect me or have any consideration with me, even after all i spent to come to his country. When I brought the divorce as solution, he said he should throw me out of the house until the paper is ready, I could sell myself to survive in an expensive country or kill myself. Those words are very painful and I'm trying to move on because he was drunk and said it was my fault to let him angry complaining because of his drinks.

[solguld]

I don't have unrealistic expectations yet I feel I'm never going to get married, let alone be divorced.

[uweellinghausen]

When a wife leads a parallel life with her brother-in-law and carries his wedding band (normally concealed next to another ring and difficult to see), does this give sufficient reason for a divorce?

[pvc]

Phubbing. I can't speak to men - haven't dated any 😂 - but a challenge to find a woman under 50 who isn't conjoined to her phone. No partner can compete with the internet and psycho-engineered social media attention traps.

[BoopAngel]

I got divorced due to the Lying to my Face.

[leslieberclaz]

Not so easy to divorce an A hole, they block your every move !

[JohnSmith....]

i know couples that have more than half of those and are married, it makes me wonder, in what kind of relationships people stay

[pseudoastrologer]

I'd like to share some additional insights regarding the topic of intimate relationships. The following insights are subject to continuous update. In my current opinion, intimate relationships can be arbitrarily classified into 3 categories based on the predominant influence that forms the core foundation for the relationship:
1) based;
2) love/feelings/emotions/belief system/heart based;
3) mind and heart based.
Within each of the above categories the ranges are from absolutely mismatched to partially (mis)matched to well matched. The mismatched relationships evolve in the direction of compounding damage over time despite all the (resource) subsidies they manage to secure in order to sustain their disintegrating/dissociating union. Next, excessive emphasis on biological reproduction led to an oversight regarding the vital/morbid role of the intimate partner in the development processes of view/sense of the world. Finally, there follow consequences of scale.
P.S.: Don't take my word for it, please, check for yourselves if the above insights are somewhat representative of your case or not as much/at all/yet.

[CJFCarlsson]

The ability to negotiate in marriage. If it is not there you should not marry. You are already ugly and selfcentered so when you partner you should look at your ability to express needs and prioritize them. If it is all "I want" with no "we want" "my partner wants" you are not marriage material. You will die alone and ignored. People will not have time to dislike you, even, and your children will NOT visit you in the old age.