The Broken Picker Curse. Codependents (SLD's) Pick the Same Person With Different Face

This is an excerpt from my 5.5 hour video seminar, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (Version 2). In it, I talk about the reflexive tendency for people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependents) to keep choosing narcissists, over and over again, despite the consequences. I also share a bit of my own story, as well as the unique nature of SLD's/codependents.

Ross is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and author and is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment.

His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 120,000 copies and is translated into ten languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 19 million video views and more than 200K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.

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[Jpotts]

True healing starts with yourself; stop focusing on them or anything external. Change the only thing your able to change: yourself. I want to hear more about this codependence dance. Im getting this more on an intellectual level but my inner emotional world is still shattered.

[micheledupreez]

This is so true! I grew up in a narcissistic family. Was married to an overt narcissist for 20 years, had 3 children. I tried my best to protect and support my children emotionally in every way possible. But to my shock I discovered that my oldest 15 year old daughter is narcissistic. And the first thing that I felt was the that same person is back in my house! It's like they are clones of the same personality! I am terrified. It's like something killed off the real little person inside and took over my child. The same thing, a clone. And during the last 3 years of my recovery when I tried to explain to friends what these people are like, I remember telling them they are the personification of evil. I am not a superstitious person. I am a electronic engineer and software developer. But this is just too obvious to overlook. It' the same personality! They are like clones with different exteriors!

[ShellysSweetFinds]

Yes, yes, yes. I FINALLY took notice last year & began researching narcissism & why I was attracting those with the trait to me. It started w/my Mother. I can only speak for myself, but digging deeper into BOTH sides of the equation makes it easier to start down that road of forgiveness. Like all of us, the Narc. is reacting to others thru their own filter. Being an Empath, I can feel sorry for them....they desperately NEED help, but they will likely never seek it and I find that sad.

[jerrys]

I’ve done three narcissistic relationships in a row in the last 25 years and I must stop. I think I have the tools now with these videos to get off this train.

[TC-gvqh]

I know that my" picker " is flawed but it doesn't matter because I will NEVER marry again! I love being alone!! I wish I would have done this years ago, I would have saved myself a lot of frustration!

[dottyp]

I love the title of the video....I've been saying for years...I keep finding myself in relationships/friendships with the same people just different faces! How apt...ooh probs buy your book now :) Would love to see the whole video too :)

[roshimafair]

Well if they pretend to be someone they are not it's a bit hard to tell, all you can do is get rid sooner, know the red flags and be alert for them

[mudskipper]

My Experience 10 years with a bpd comorbid npd [fortunately no contact and Cognitive Processing Therapy has helped] has led Me to believe the problem is not when someone falls on the unpleasant side of the discerning appraisal spectrum rather trying to force them on the pleasant side

I don't know if all cases of fight or flight should be walled off from Awareness [but possibly] rather be a sign to return to self love and the other is doing something wrong

[Gloria_All_Day]

Why only 2 minutes ...please post whole video....thank you.

[danielc]

People keep saying in videos that it's me who is choosing to date narcissistic women. But, the truth is, a woman's physical attractiveness is the first thing I see. Every women I dated, I never knew anything about their personality before hand.

[treeseer]

I’ve had a broken picker - I’ve picked the same type of guy more or less. All had some form of narcissism. With of course exceptions with whom I lost interest in.

[Augfordpdoggie]

i understand why i stay with them, because i dont have many options. Why do i ATTRACT THEM?! That is my question

[bluntweirdo]

omg… i was told my picker was broken. 😅

[PaleHorse-a]

Dr Rosenberg - I live reasonably close to your practice. How can I find out when your next seminar is if I wanted to attend? Is there a calendar where you share this information, or are they invitation-only?

[a.b.hfrankfrt]

Free Tommy Robinson !
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Thank you.

[mmlangner]

We are shit magnets and it is our fault!