5 Types of People You Shouldn't Date

Dating can be a mine field at times. To help you avoid some toxic relationships, here are some red flags of dating to look for.

It's a video on why you might attracting toxic people into your life.

Writer: Jade Hamilton
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Aury
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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0:22 emotional dumpers
0:58 over clingy people
1:32 the extreme perfectionist
2:00 the narcissist
2:31 the toxic communicator

[itsKochon]

"They measure your love by how much disrespect you'll take from them"

That was painfully accurate and was really hard to hear. It seems like every other day I discover another insidious piece of trauma from my previous relationship

[JazzTheChameleon]

I'm clingy as hell, and so is my boyfriend, & I'm constantly going on about my problems. Even though based off this video, we shouldn't be dating each other, we...are doing just fine, 8 years later. We're able to work through our problems together.
Remember, even if someone is struggling with an issue, it doesn't mean they aren't fixable. Work through it together, not alone, and you'll persevere. <3

[Dee-vqop]

Well people are flawed. We can't go about waiting for a perfect individual to land on us. The question should be, can we build a healthy safe and loving relationship together, if not, learning to walk away with least damage

[dyliera.velazqueznidoknigh]

Nice, my last 2 serious girlfriends were both emotional dumpers, it was exhausting. I’m a very positive and supportive person so I guess they thought I just had unlimited positivity to counteract their never ending cycle of misery, but I left because I couldn’t even take them out on dates without them ruining them by dumping all their emotional baggage and damage from the past on my plate along with the nice dinner I thought we were supposed to be enjoying. Some emotional dumping can be ok, but every day is just unattractive, exhausting to put up with and you come off as a buzzkill because you ruin everyone else’s good spirits, if you’re gonna complain then listen to the advice people give you, because if you don’t work on it yourself there’s no way I’m working on it for you.

[burritoandsalad]

You can never meet a person who isn't any of these. It's okay to have flaws...but when in a relationship both sides will need to communicate and compromise.

[mantecada]

I dated a guy who was like 3 of these, but the red flags started showing later in the relationship. I struggled a lot to leave him, but after eight months, I did it. These two weeks have been the worst. He’s been posting in instagram a lot of stories about khs, with the intention that I say something to him. At first I responded those, expressing my support, but ended up with panic attacks from talking to him, so I don’t respond anymore, but now I feel guilty af for not responding.

[superstargacha]

i feel like the first two could potentially be fixed with just communication and expressing you dont like their behaviour and how to fix it <33

[piercepatterson]

I consider myself clingy and overly dependent on others. I also find it difficult to communicate with others in general

[gtoyadhatagyab]

This is a good reminder.

Once, I wasn't on an official dating relationship, but I did experienced a close relationship with someone that had the first 3 types, and I agree, it's suffocating, confusing, and tiring.

I unfortunately have the tendency for the 5th type when I'm on a nasty mood, I led myself to believe that everything I do is right while in reality it's totally not.
I still hit the brakes everytime I realized it and apologize everytime I did it, and still figuring out how to control myself.

[wronglyright]

Well, i'm single and not ready to mingle :'(

[khalilahd.]

This is so important to share! The media has a tendency to show emotional dumpers as “they just trust you the most” and clingy as “you’re they’re soulmate, other half. Of course they always want to be around” and it’s nice that you guys show what real healthy love is supposed to look like. Thanks Psych2go!

[bakakaka.]

I was, or am, guilty of two of these. Its been some time since i last was in a relationship, and im a bit worrysome of dating in the future, because how do i know im better now? But at the same time, i want to believe i deserve to be loved. I think the key is to own up to your mistakes, but not completely disown your needs out of guilt if that makes sense. Because that is my struggle right now. For anyone else struggling with this, sending you lots of good thoughts and i hope you can work through whatever it is 💖

[scary-goth-mother]

Not dating wise, but I feel like a lot of the friends I made growing up were emotional dumpsters. I always felt like I had to play therapist and deal with my own problems on my own. I don't make friends like that anymore and steer clear of the ones now, but it feels like the majority I do befriend end up this way. Maybe it's just me?

[danicaprado]

A confirmation that I am not so mature and ready for a relationship yet. Thank you, it was an eye opener, saw myself somehow in each type.

[hamzahkhan]

clingy is SUCH a subjective thing. Avoidants would think texting is suffocation. They would think consistent communication is clingy….

[thatrunningirl]

The thing is, people don't want togetherness anymore. They want 50/50 with their independence. Sure, independence is important in a relationship but if it's getting in the way of a relationship growing and progressing, why are they even in a relationship? Also, there are a lot of men who just don't want to communicate. People who shut things down and don't have emotional intelligence are the worst. It's like trying to teach a rebellious teenager how to talk about their feelings and resolve obstacles together. There are always obstacles in relationships and life, it's how you work through them together that counts. But when one person doesn't ever want to put the work in and then it all falls on the other person, it's just exhausting.

[piegirl]

I've been clingy and an emotional dumper in the past. But I've been "de-toxifying" myself and it's going a lot better (these videos have been a huge help)

[sol-]

The clingy type. I'm guilty of that. I definitely want to work on it.

[strawberrysatyr]

Nice video! It’s a very useful thing to not fall into toxic relationships