3 Traits of The Lone Wolf Empath

Empaths are deep feelers, mostly introverted and many are also lone wolves, meaning they carve their own path, are extremely creative and prone to loneliness and addiction. I'd love to hear how you relate to these three traits and how you have managed to balance your alone time and creative time so you can enjoy a healthy relationship with yourself and others.
#empaths #loneliness #addiction #traumabond

[Belluser-weuccbl]

Growing up being surrounded by narcissistic parasites. I embrace peace and quiet. Narcissistic people can not be alone. They panic.

[okanaganguy]

Once I was in one of the most remote villages in the NWT of Canada. I went for a walk alone for a few hours in the Bush and felt, once and for all the deepest and most profound sense of NOBODY AROUND.
Truly and utterly alone.
I relaxed for almost the first time I could remember.

I felt better.

[onlyjoetee]

I don’t feel any loneliness, I LOVE being alone..

[matthiaslangbart]

The difference between being alone and being lonely is that you choose to be alone but feel being pushed into loneliness (as an outcast).

The best advice I can give to struggling lone wolf brothers is:

“You have been marred,
you have been scarred.
That's not OK,
but YOU are OK.

You'll never heal
and always feel
the marring you got
and the scarring you got.
That's not OK,
but YOU are OK.

Now that you have them,
the mar's and the scars
that are not OK —
feel free to choose them,
feel free to use them
in stories you tell,
in songs that you sing
in paintings you paint
in music you play
And be all OK.

(Yes, I really just came up with this one!)

[hilariefortune]

You just described my whole existence. Im 46 . I am alone, im lonely. Im also safe from any more trauma.
Its a brutal cycle .

[paulballard]

My marriage was a trauma bond for 25 years. By year 12 I had become an alcoholic and addicted to drugs. I hated me, I hit bottom, I had kids and I needed to change, I got sober for me so I could be better for me for them. I went back to school, I started my own business, I pushed to be better and find the guy in me that I missed being, I was alone in a house full of people. We divorced five years ago and it was the best thing that happened to me unbeknownst to me at the time. I trauma bonded three more times until I finally realized what I was doing. I’ve been alone for four years, I drive truck, I have one amazing hobby I’ve always wanted to do. I totally enjoy being alone, I see my positive none toxic friends that I’ve kept in my life as I cruise around in my truck. Life is simple, life is basic, life is peaceful and trauma free. I’ve seen what I’ve done and I know what’s good for me.
I’ve been sober 16 years now and have a few very good friends. It’s all I need in life. It’s peaceful finally 😊

[jima]

"...and this loneliness won't leave me alone" - yes Mr. Otis Redding, we're slowly catching on.

[chrismcgirr]

The difference between solitude and isolation is an invisible line you cross somewhere in your mind, that then permeates through the rest of your being. The trick is being able to know where that line is, and how to find the right side of it to be on. And then being there. Thankyou Fraya, wishing you well 🙂

[silverdale]

Needed this. took me years to realise I wasn't weird for being a lone wolf, it's just how we roll, widowed young and working by myself I spend most of my time alone and need more . I'm starting to embrace being alone. My motivation died along with my partner so still trying to get that back and enjoy creating again. PS You have beautiful eyes, something my partner also had although hers were brown, she could make me putty in her hands just looking at me with her smile.Even a lone wolf can miss the company of that one person that was special to us.

[riverlove]

Hello fellow lone wolves. I felt alone so much more when I was younger and actually had a wide circle of friends and was pursuing relationships. As Ive aged, I have realized that I enjoy my own company (and fur family) more and I'm in a creative state more often. After being alone for quite a while, the thought of sharing my bed or my space with someone is not appealing at all. Yet it would be awesome if I could find someone like myself and we could have our own houses with a shared area. Close but not intrusive. Thanks for pointing out the addiction to wanting relationships and falling into patterns with much disappointment.. I'm past that now. A partner would be nice but is not required for my own contentment. Love n peace

[DADela-htux]

Most of my favorite moments have occurred when I've been out in nature miles from anyone else. That's the only time I feel uninterrupted. The older I get, the more I recognize my need for it as a healing and regenerative tool. Excellent synopsis! ❤

[IndefinitePoint]

I sometimes feel like my narcissistic traumas have ruined my life, but in retrospect they were lessons I had to learn, otherwise they wouldn't have repeated.

So, to my ex-narcs...thank you for making me wiser. Hope you get a chance to experience compassion some day...starting with yourselves.

[badpup]

This ironically and paradoxically came up in my feed. First off I'm cough cough a Male, but I consider myself to be a lone Wolf and sonewhat of an empath with a twist. The events of the last few years have consolidated my self propelled, universal calling and inner quest for the truth of all things hidden in the Matrix of things in this messed up World. So after many deep dives into hidden information, or really unraveling the disinformation of many things that I questioned.😮 There are many very dark things I've come across where Ive had to put my empathy on my sleeve and let the negative energy of these truths to go through me so to speak. Or I wouldn't be able to continue, or I would just get too affected by it. So I became stronger and that's where the Lone Wolf comes in.. So your message really resonates with me in so much as there are similarities as the Lone Wolf, in that I've come to really dislike society as a whole, but find it very hard to connect with people, because after doing so much research about many topics and hidden truths, I find people in greneral are clueless to whats really going on, that they're so distracted, so aloof, so shallow and so programmed by the negative media fear mongering and so I can't relate to the normies I like to call them. So just really trying to find myself and my pack, but its a variation of how you're describing the lone Wolf Empath. Its been a roller coaster ride, but hearing your message of inspiration came at a good time. Godspeed!!

[ryanphillips]

always shy away from "identifying" with anything [i.e. lone-wolf empath] because it forms a "me' that is decided by society, but what youre saying hit me in the core; intriguing.

[daveboise_]

Geesh, hits the nail on the head. Not sure how one becomes an expert on this topic, but I'm glad it's being recognized as an archetype. I've been living this reality for 60 years and have always just considered myself a freak and outcast. Thank you for the validation. At this point in life I'm not sure if anyone would or could have a relationship with me or what that person might look like. My former marriage and all of my relationships have been a struggle since alone time is so important to me. Would be a great topic for another video. Best

[genosmiles]

This describes me very well. I am a very creative and empathic person, but I also become unfocused, unmotivated, anxious and depressed at times. I feel other's feelings deeply. I dropped out of school, went on to graduate college with a 4.0 GPA, then a doctorate in clinical psychology and a long career. I was a dedicated musician. But still I need to learn. You've given me some clarity, Fraya, that I will now begin to recognize and work on in myself.

[KelJean]

I realize how much time I need and I really like spending time alone.ive been this way my entire life. Being around people wears me out so I don't have much longing to be social. I do enjoy attending church, but I leave immediately after service. I like to myself and enjoy my own company.

[mankind]

She described me in college, now that I’m married with kids, I feel more at peace, yet I still crave my alone time, and I love spending time with my wife and kids. I’ve learned you have to compromise, your time, it’s not always on your schedule, sometimes on someone else’s. That’s a bitter pill to swallow.

[daledesroches]

Oh my goodness! You are talking SO much sense that I feel like I’ve stumbled upon my holy grail. I’m 53 years and fallen prey to those trauma bonds way to many times. I can’t thank you enough 🙏

[fastbow]

I love being alone, I can have great fun with others but if nobody shows up I’m not disappointed! I don’t understand people who need people to be happy!