INFP + ISFP Relationships - My Experience

I thought we should take a brief look at INFP-ISFP relationships. What do you think? Do you know of any ISFP literary figures? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

[donna_tran]

Oh my goodness. I am an infp woman married to an isfp man. We actually mistyped him for an infp for most of the 8 years we have been together because we are so similar! And that created a lot of conflicts and almost broke us apart. But recently we discovered he is truly an isfp and now we are working together as a team much better.

I can really appreciate him for taking me to the gym (although I cried the first few times and always feared my finger would get chopped off by the machines but now look at me.. I’ve lost 25lbs and I have a healthy routine/goal that gives balance to my chaotic life). Which btw he was a machinist for many years and then lost interest. As an isfp he lost interest in jobs easily and I was always afraid of his “carelessness” which was just him not being happy, not finding something passionate. I was always worried when he brought a new instrument home because I thought he was distracted by random hobbies instead of pursuing a career. But now I know how badly he just wanted freedom to find his art. And do things he cares about and can be recognized for.

Compared to me, he can blend in to any crowd (while I blend into the wallpaper in fear of social interaction). He takes my scrambled eggs of a brain, admires me for it, and then helps me turn it into something less scrambled.

Never take your isfp partner for granted, always support their free spirited mind, thank them for grounding your infp ditziness and teaching you how to better use Te. Be extremely patient and hear them out, they also need to express themselves since they are creative too.

Its amazing how much we trust each other, catch each other’s mistakes, but in the kindest of ways… we take turns falling into space and giving reality checks. It’s really fun. When we laugh it hurts. Ironically our biggest issue is that we are too kind to each other, to the point that it is hard to give criticism. We are working on communicating better, resolving our conflicts instead of shying away, and trying to be more responsible as it is very difficult for us to focus sometimes. We have fun doing nothing which could also be unproductive. But making to-do lists and grocery lists and sharing a calendar together to split up tasks has really helped!

That’s my ramble.. I was so excited to see this video as I love your sense of humor and insights! You’re right when we go hiking I can forget I am there, he’s always leading the way and is cautious of every step I take (although we still get lost most of the time).

[anthonyhansen]

I like ISFPs a lot. I just really don't care for Ni always wanting to give you unsolicited advice constantly. So kudos to the ones that tone that down a bit.

[TheSimplelifemama]

Hi, nice hearing your positive thoughts about ISFPs 😊. I’m an ISFP woman and I’m married to an INFJ man. I don’t really have a lot of experience (at least that I know of) with INFPs. I’ve always felt a little bit jealous of INFPs though. I just always think they are so cute and quirky and sweet. I think they are more naturally empathetic and I think they pick up on things quicker.

I hate when someone is telling me something and I’m supposed to “read between the lines” and I’m literally always like what? I have no idea what you are talking about. Tell me straight up or not at all lol. Sometimes I strain my little brain so hard to decipher the deeper or hidden meaning of what intuitive types are trying to say. My brain is going, “is this a joke 🤔 is this sarcasm? Am I supposed to laugh? If I laugh and they’re serious then they will think I’m an insensitive jerk but if I don’t laugh they’ll think I’m too uptight. So I usually just smile and nod and say, ” really?”😂. Just saying “really?” Or “for real?” Or Has gotten me so far in life when I didn’t have a clue what somebody was talking about.

Anyways I’m pretty sure my son is an infp and I love him to pieces! I do feel like I can understand him well. He’s emotional but very guarded with his feeling just like me. So yeah INFPs are great.

[MysticalCooking]

YES!!! Pretty much exactly like you said: when people ask for the differences in creativity of ISFP and INFP I say that a simple way of looking at it is that INFP are the lyrics and ISFP are the music!

Also another point as an ISFP and one true to the stereotype of being an artist, I find one of the main reasons I make art and spend a lot of time learning about other peoples art is that I can initially struggle with understanding abstract concepts by just reading or hearing about them (I also have dyslexia) so studying art and seeing it laid out, albeit often in weird and unorthodox way, but also a way that is “concrete” in its metaphors and visual, I find I am able to process concepts a lot easier and think about them a lot deeper and expansively. I think many people confuse me for an INFP because I like and make very “weird” art and people who are just getting into MBTI think of Sensors as being uncreative “normies” and Intuitives as being the creative weirdos but thats not always the case.

[cjclementine]

I still can’t seem to figure out which of these two types I am…

[nassimux]

I do not feel the emotional connexion with isfp but I have always been fascinated by their mastery over SE

[JamesTaylor]

Robert Greene is an INFP writer - and apparently Shakespeare & Tolkien were INFP's too

[Recep]

Wish I knew more isfps.

An isfp girlfriend would be totally great.
Even conflicts with them feel comfortable.

Yep isfps are good people for my being.

[ann-kristinkinn]

Listen to Michael Patrick Kelly. An amazing ISFP! He's great at both writing, singing and performing. The best concerts ever!

[pugninja]

I'm a entp, with 2 sons infp & isfp ! And I will say as fi trickster, these have helped me in personal finding my values..isfp son hates that my Ne/Ti don't shut up.. hes like GET TO THE POINT !!!! 🤣😅🤣

[ethanlynch]

Some thoughts on your video:
As an Fi dominant, I have some basic issues with the video I wish to bring up.
1) Introverted Feeling is a function based on personal values and feelings. It is not in any way shape or form interested in the feelings and values of others UNLESS they are directly shared with said Fi dom.
2) Your description of Fi - you saying that the core of the function is to read other people’s feelings - is incorrect. That would be roughly more akin to Extroverted Feeling (Extroverted Feeling, to simplify, is a function pertaining to reading the external emotional environs, and again Introverted feeling deals with internal emotional environs).
3) As you mentioned in a previous video, Fi doms CAN read facets of the external environment, but oftentimes directly clash with the external limbic environment. As a matter of fact, Extroverted Feeling is an Fi dom’s greatest source of tension - having to focus on and conduct activities pertaining to the general external limbic environment rather than activities which bring gratification to the Fi dom is among the most annoying things an Fi dom will ever go through.
4) Reading people’s emotions well, intrinsically that is, almost requires an intrinsic employment of extroverted feeling - which is not something Fi doms are particularly happy to use.
5) Why are you praising Fi doms for immediately vomiting up their entire life story in the first interaction? That would be like giving you my credit card info, social security info, and all my passwords and you calling me a good person for doing so. Where exactly is the logic in this???
6) Your definitions of Ne and Se aren’t that great. Ne is simply mental ideation and perspective formulation - in oversimplified terms it allows you to develop new ways to look at, view or approach a singularity. Se is simply consumption of the physical world.