How to REALLY know if you're transgender

Are you actually trans? 3 tips that will help you..

Chapters:
00:00-002:37 Intro
02:37-05:35 First tip (my story)
05:35-06:49 Two helpful exercises
06:49-08:45 Second tip
08:45-09:49 Third tip

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[FSH_BG]

I just saw the thumbnail and ive never seen you before but i thought ron weasley was trying to tell me how to know if im trans 😭

[aylavandenhoed]

Within the first 20 seconds you already had me crying. I live in the Netherlands and here the waitinglist for medical care for transgender people is 3 years. I'm already waiting for over a year now. Sometimes I feel so lost. Even though I already know I'm trans videos like these and your other content still help a lot. Thank you Benji :)

[Cherry_Strs]

As a genderfluid person I mostly do identity as masculine/male. But I still feel like I can’t call myself trans. I fell like it’s not fair to call myself transgender if I’m still a woman 40% of the time. I don’t feel trans enough. Or masculine enough, I always love makeup and doing fun looks no matter what, but it always has people calling me a woman.

[infiniteimal]

my best advice to eggs questioning is: GIVE IT TIME!!! Time will show you the answer
I started questing at 7 years old. I socially transitioned at 14 and lived as a man up until 21!
I decided that transitioning isn't the right path for me after 6 years of living as a man and that's okay also! don't rush it, and experiment experiment experiment! with your hair, your name, your clothes, everything! You'll find your true path that way
Feel out what's right for you. I loved my life as a man. I loved being a boy it just isn't compatible with my life journey.
It's okay to make mistakes and IT'S OKAY TO BE WRONG and it's okay to take a step back, readjust and keep going. Enjoy your transition and your experimentation and your milestones
You're not alone.

[moofwe_]

When my mom calls me "daughter" It doesn't feel right. I'm not like "You should call me 'son' 'cause I've already came out to you" but even when I think about her calling my "son" I think like " It would be weird but still felt great". There's a fact that my mom started calling me "daughter" more and more and It feels she's doing it on purpose 'cause she thinks it's just a phase that I feel like a boy. I can't explain to her, she'll never know what I've been through... EVERY SINGLE CLOTHING FEELS WRONG when I wear, It doesn't look good on me and make me feel more dysphoric so at the and of the day I end up buying no clothes although I try endless clothings from many shops... I try clothings from men's section but it also doesn't help 'cause all the tops from men's section are oversized for me even the smallest sizes... I can't order from the internet, there's possibility that clothes may not fit me well or don't look good on me and so on


Edit: It's touching to see you guys sparing your time to read my story, thank you!

[allegedchicken]

Okay you definitely mirrored some of my own experiences. I was flip-flopping so hard on whether or not I was even trans. I went for nb pronouns and kinda gave up because I never thought I'd have the money or courage to get top surgery.
The things that really solidified I might be a trans man were:

1. Smiled like a loon when someone asked me to imagine being intruduced as a brother and not a sister.

2. Frequently daydreamed about someone just giving me testosterone because they had extra or didn't need it. (Literally made my heart race with hope).

3. Idly daydreamed about what it would be like to be a guy in whatever bland or normal activity I was doing. It made me insanely happy. Also very sad because I wasn't a guy.

4. Pretended to be a guy online every chance I got. And when I was a woman in the previous few times I decided to be honest, THAT actually felt like I was lying for some weird reason.

5. My attraction to women felt normal. My attraction to men felt gay. Did NOT put that together until I hit 29.

6. Yearning to be a cool older man. I want to be a weird grandpa. Not a grandma. Same goes for wanting to be an uncle and not an aunt.

7. Someone asked me and a group of cis women, (I was 23 at this time), if they had a pill that could make me into a guy, would I take it. I said YES so loud. Everyone else was horrified at the thought. I had to play it off as a joke.

[theotheraccount]

Your voice sounds DIFFERENT! Love it. Arthur’s video really made the biggest difference to me too. Thank you for making this video and paying it forward. I am sure it will help someone x

[ombrenightcores]

A way I’ve seen relatively helpful (although definitely not THE determining factor) was to think about yourself as an 80 year old and think “would you rather be an old man or an old woman? Would you like to be something else entirely?” And it kinda, at least for me, puts my life in perspective and makes me think “how do I want to live my life/how do I want to be perceived in the future”. If you feel comfortable with the idea that you’re going to live the rest of your life as a gender other than your own, you’re probably a little trans

[rob.adam]

watched this in the lobby of planned parenthood waiting for my 3 month t level check

[runst]

1:29 that's exactly how I am. I've always seen trans people talk about how as a kid they always shifted towards presenting as the opposite gender than they were assigned at birth, and I kind of felt left out because I never had that experience. Although I am still questioning

[matyasigazszagos]

Im still a teenager in Hungary, homophobic & christian parents and classmates and catholic school ofc. this video helped me alot.

[Akihikobtww]

I am a closeted 14 year old. There were many signs throughout my childhood, and I was certain of my identity when I was 11-12. Seeing myself in the mirror feels terrible, and I realized I was making up a whole different world in my head aswell as online where I am a boy. Not cis nor trans, just a boy. Despite all of this, I always jump on this type of videos because I am unsure of myself even though I've always known what I am. This is by far one of my favorites (honestly, I sobbed). I semi-socially transitioned (told my closest friends, thankfully most of them are queer) and yet I never feel "trans enough", like I don't even have the right to assume what I am because I don't suffer as much as others do.
Anyways, basically I'm just scared, but I think we all are. Thank you for posting this.

[TinaMey]

Great video. Especially talking about insecurities and doubts is so important imo. Like fear of transitioning and then regretting things or other valid questions to ask yourself. Thanks for sharing this :)
Over the past years, ever since my teen years i've been asking myself whether I am trans but after finding out about Non Binary identities and learning more about it I am more and more sure I really am NB. Like I don't want to be a man necessarily but I really don't want to be passing as a woman either. This middle ground is where I see myself - not too much labels, just being me and being a human is all I want.

[justalilben]

Sorry for the long comment, but I’ve recently been questioning being trans, and I keep convincing myself that I’m just being influenced by the things and people around me because that’s probably what my parents would say, and I’ve been going back and forth questioning different gender identities because I feel uncomfortable being called ‘she’ or ‘daughter’. Most of the time whenever the thought of potentially being trans crosses my mind I tell myself that I don’t actually want to be a guy, or that I’m just annoyed with being a girl, even though I’ve felt more masculine recently and I’ve been wanting to cut my hair short, but my parents would get mad or bother me about it if I did cut my hair, and in some ways I do feel like I would regret cutting my hair because everybody loves my long hair but honestly it kind of bothers me. When I was younger I would dress and act like a ‘normal’ little girl with skirts and dresses and stuff, but in a way I felt as though I was supposed to be a boy. And as I got older, I’ve hated wearing feminine clothes, and one time I had to wear my dad’s old suit to a costume party and I felt so much like myself, but I’d just tell myself I was insecure about thinking I was not pretty rather than about gender. Anyways, I’ve got a lot going through my head, more than I could ever type, so I just want to thank you for this video, it really helped me, so I’m going to take it one step at a time starting with journaling :)

[protodroidstuff]

OMFG IM GUNNA START CRYING YOUR STORY IS SO SIMILAR TO MINE IN SO MANY WAYS I even started journaling recently and your story sounds so similarrrr I like couldn't sleep, I thought what if I was just faking it, but every day I just kept coming out as "Being a girl feels good". I spent all of my time talking to trans friends, trans people, and felt this overwhelming excitement but also anxiety as I realized the more I wanted to change about myself. I set some short term goals for myself too that helped a lot, I just recently got rid of my facial hair and I've been voice training!!

Love from Wisco !!

[Cristin]

I feel so called out with that intro. It felt like Benji was literally talking to me because every single thing he starts with hits way too hard right now. How dare you be so right (but genuinely, this video was incredibly helpful, so thank you 💛)

[cosmicbrambleclawv]

Coming into this I wasnt sure how helpful it would be but when you mentioned "I was scared about medically and socially transitioning, and what if I didnt like it and couldnt go back?" that hit the nail on the head

Like.. if I could test run life as a woman with a button press Id try it yeah, but the idea of going through all that footwork is already stressing enough without the added weight of "but if you dont like it then what?" which is always lurking

Thanks Benji ❤

Sidenote: I also got a little bit of a laugh because we look very similar 😂 I had a brief moment of doubting my ability to appear as a woman because I look a lot like you (a guy) and then realized that might be kind of a compliment and it made me laugh at the irony 😂

[imagineme]

Not me thinking the thumbnail was Kit Conner at first glance! Love the hair!

[LaceTheSeaSerpent]

My mom always thought that trans people only knew that they were trans when they experienced it at a young age. When she told me that, it made me feel less valid of my identity, and made me feel like I was lying to myself. But I thought about it more, and realized that even a YouTuber I’ve seen talked about how when they were younger, they didn’t have any “trans signs” and were just a kid playing. Just thinking about that one YouTuber helped me a lot and made me feel valid again :)

[JustMeReal]

your experience is the closest i saw any trans person having it to my experience, and it helped me realise that indeed i am a trans girl since with you i just saw a lot of similarities, and everything just fit perfectly so thank you, well now the coming out part since im over the questioning.. THE ONLY THING THAT KEEPS ME MOTIVATED SO FAR IS THE IDEA OF HOW I WILL BE IN 4YRS ugh so yeah tysm ba byeee