11 Not So Obvious Signs Your Parent Emotionally Neglected You; Lisa A. Romano

#emotionalhealing #narcissisticparent #emotionalneglect Hi there, welcome to my YouTube Channel.Today, we're going to be discussing a very important topic that affects many people - emotional neglect from parents. "When we flee our vulnerability, we lose our full capacity for feeling emotion." I love this quote by Gabor Mate. This quote identifies the necessity for the exploration of pain, rather than the walling ourselves off from the experiences in childhood that caused emotional trauma.

In this video, I'll be sharing 11 signs that your parent emotionally neglected you, and how to start healing from this experience. So, if you're ready to learn more about this topic and start your journey towards healing, make sure to stick around and hit that subscribe button for more healing content created for you, the Adult Child from a dysfunctional home.

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Lisa A. Romano is a certified life coach, bestselling author, and top leading expert in the field of mental wellness, codependency, and narcissistic abuse recovery. With over 20 years of experience in the field, Lisa has helped thousands of people heal from childhood trauma, codependency, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, and toxic relationships.

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[soultrick]

OMG!
I was spending my time on those other million channels about narc topic and they was lacking smth.... but i came across this channel just now, and oh my oh my.
This one takes the cake, winner! Best on this topic hands down.
No unnecessary talk. No nonsense. Info is concentrated and on point. Perfect channel!

[laurel__]

Just a reminder to everyone - you are here DESPITE your childhood programming. You are trying to do better DESPITE what happened to you. That is amazing. Keep going.

[aliceinwisdom]

They’re cold toward you
They speak with an unfriendly tone
They do not respond to your emotions
They spend little time with you
They lack interest in your life
They consistently find fault with you
They are verbally abusive and critical
They do not encourage or lift you up when you fail or make mistakes
They are aloof, shutdown, & detached
They appear angry and unapproachable
They guilt trip you (Ex: comparing their childhood to yours and/or by sharing their sacrifices to shame you for feeling upset by their behavior.

[sandh]

I am in my 50’s, both my parents are dead and this is extremely hard to watch. I have blocked out a lot of my childhood.

[sugarandspice]

It sickens me how children are born to the wrong people and have to spend years in therapy to heal the traumas the parents did/did not do.

[juliemoore]

I realized I was on my own from 7th grade on. I felt like a burden, I wasn't taught anything about life. I turned to self help books at 6th grade and that's how I learned about life.

[lisadee]

You nailed it Lisa! I was mocked and ridiculed as a child. Failure was not an option. If you're gonna cry, I will give you something to cry about. And yes, no support, just multiple doses of criticism.

[brendathompson]

Yes to all of these. I was constantly criticized and mocked when I was little. My mom would even get my brother to participate. I learned from an early age not to tell them of the good things that would happen to me at school. I would spend hours in my bedroom just to escape.

[carolynkepler]

I wasted 25 yrs on therapy. Nobody ever said this to me. I was literally the 340lb elephant in the room. You are the first one to say this to me. I cried a lot and was afraid of everyone. I was shamed and ridiculed even though I was a small toddler. I got labeled as “too sensitive”. My mother was overwhelmed with her own grief and there was no one else who wanted the “job” of caring for me.

[annisechetelat]

My dad was mad that my mom got pregnant with me. When I was 30, my dad upset me and I slammed my bedroom door. I later walked into the bathroom and he came in and cornered me and put his fist up to my face like he wanted to hit me. He also told me that he loved me for the first time at my age of 45. I went to visit him after my mom died and the first thing he did was to put me down and remined me of all my faults . I left that night and slept at Walmart and drove 7 hours back home. They left me at the babysitter's house and all kids were picked up and I sat alone for 4 hours ...that hurt me and I've never forgotten. I told my mom 10 years after my rape and she changed the topic. Parents gave their cabin they built to my older siblings. I had bad relationships by looking for love. I married a man 15 years older. I have dealt with depression, and anxiety most of my life. Was told I was cl8se to being Boarderline. I'm 67 and still a survivor!

[_kyt_]

I was daddy's little girl until I hit puberty, then our relationship hit a wall. Mom was the parent who worked the most and needed her sleep when she was home. She was the provider, yes, but she was also wholly uninterested in me until I was in my late teens. The gap between being loved as a child and finally paid attention to my senior year feels like a black hole in my memory. And then I came out of the closet and what little was there already just lit itself on fire. I moved to the other side of the country on my own and it wasn't until I hadn't seen my parents cold turkey for a few years that they got really needy. The entire time its felt like too little, too late. I moved back recently. Now they're in their 70s and it feels like I'm only just now having the mother/daughter relationship I wanted as a kid. Makes me cry just writing this.

[carieyounginsurance]

They don’t touch, kiss or hug you.

They don’t tell you - you are loved- ever.

[danztosti]

we must look beyond our own childhood. & look at who our parents are. what childhood trauma they faced too. recognising the patterns of generational trauma enables us to really break the chains and truly heal.

[graveyardghost]

I was the product of my dad's first marriage, so I know to my mentally disturbed stepmom I was always "that other women's child." She and my dad "did their duty" by allowing me to be under their roof, but as soon as I turned 18 they kicked me out the door and expected me to never need anything from them again, no matter what. Certainly not any kind of emotional support. So I've done quite well in that I've always supported myself, but in times of trouble I have to look elsewhere for help. My stepmom would never acknowledge I had any emotional needs, i wasnt allowed to show anger or tears, or to express my opinions. For most of my adult life I had depression and wasnt sure what, but with the help of channels like this one, I've healed tremendously. Thank you Lisa, for all you do ❤❤❤❤

[kelsawalsh]

For years I told my mom that my childhood “wasn’t that bad” so that she didn’t feel bad. My step father was an alcoholic and my mother checked out emotionally.
When I finally told her that it WAS that bad she said, “Thank you for finally saying that, I really did have it bad.” 😮She didn’t even acknowledge what a messed up childhood I had!

[herbalina]

This is unfortunately relatable. People tend to say that our parents did the best they could but I often have doubts about that. Thanks for your videos, Lisa.

[Jes]

I at about 7-8 years old had daydreams of getting seriously injured or sick, in the hospital where people actually gave loving attention to me. I also had a real dream that I came home from school and my family had moved away and forgot about me. The only thing that made it better was seeing my dog running towards me.

[paulablair]

I was completely ignored, shamed, humiliated, beaten with a thick yardstick. If I had any feelings left, I would hate my parents.

[JenniferLybyerMarkunas]

My mother told my father on my 17th birthday that "nothing important happened today." This really spoke to me. It was a lifetime of this attitude.

[DNRG]

Yep...this is me. After a lifetime of healing, I'm finally enjoying my childhood in my mid 60s!😉