Stop trying to change yourself | Ien Chi | TEDxBerkeley

Ien Chi dives into perfectionism culture and how it can impede your life.

[IenChi]

Whoa, I just found out my talk was released today!

It gives me so much joy to be able to share a sliver of my life experiences with the world in a way that can hopefully spark reflection.

To all of us: may we feel all things within ourselves to its full profound depth, talk back to those often ruthless inner voices with even more powerful acceptance and compassion - and illuminate the core of who we are underneath the chaotic noise of this world.

Wishing all of us continual un-learning and unfolding wonder at it all!~

Grace and peace,
-Ien

[__isixda]

"The reason I was trying to change the world was because I couldn't accept the world as it was. And the reason I couldn't accept the world the way it was, was because I couldn't accept myself the way I was" -- that is POWERFUL !

[eyeswideopen]

If you struggled with self love, the answer isn't trying to love yourself harder. Love isnt a matter of effort. Love is matter of awareness. it isn't a matter of trying harder, it's about letting go.

Powerful quote ... Ian

[thepieguylol]

I cried really hard watching this. I’ve been going through a lot lately and beating myself up over things. Trying to be a “better version” of myself. It just puts a lot of pressure on me and only increases my anxiety and insecurity. I think I’m gonna watch this video every day for a little while

[CC-spkl]

This is the TED talk I really needed today. I’ve been dealing with self hate and trying to change myself for years and years

[oneworldonehome]

"Accept the world today as it is, not as you want it to be. With acceptance comes love, for you cannot love a world that you want to exist. You can only love a world that exists as it is. Accept yourself now as you exist, and true desire for change and advancement will naturally emerge within you. Idealism justifies condemnation. Recognize this great truth, and you will begin to have a more immediate and profound experience of life and of that which is genuine and not based upon hope or expectation but upon true engagement."

_Steps to Knowledge, The Book of Inner Knowing » Step 55: I will accept the world as it is._

[hananqaddah]

" love is a matter if awarness and letting go of all trying "

That hit deep.

[crystalclear]

He created a good point. To accept oneself, flaws and all.

[gmuyccg]

"The reason I was trying to change the world was because I couldn't accept the world the way it was. The reason I couldn't accept the world the way it was because I couldn't accept myself the way I was. I had been projecting my desire to change myself to the outside world instead of looking within and seeing what was there. I had been running away into the idea of changing the world as a way to run away from my own feelings."

Whew. Thanks so much for this for talk. And for being so honest. You put exactly what I've been thinking and feeling into words.

[AnitaPerrine]

Len,
You just changed the World for thousands of people! God Bless!

[ethan.wroblewski]

I love the scene on 8 mile in that rap battle where he just calls himself out so they don’t have anything to say bad about him I feel like after listening to this I just think of that scene.

[kcmichealx]

Finally, a talk that has touched me deeply. Thanks, Ien for sharing this. You have reached the world, and I'm entirely grateful to have someone like you in this lifetime.

[manuchaudhary]

I share same thoughts, one thing i want to add, great wisdom came through such common people, not from people who are running market in the name of spirituality, motivation, psychology and self improvement

[skyetai]

If everyone aims to improve oneself, not looking at others with judgement, the world is a lot more peaceful and harmonious. Thanks for sharing!

[quantum_man]

You don't have to change yourself, you just have to 'Be Yourself'...and the only way to Be Yourself is to connect to your Real Self, Your Soul Essence, or as You call it, 'Your Higher Self' and be guided by that, Unconditionally.

[deefee]

It's taken me a long time to realise how destructive it is, but the mantra of the 1980's and 1990's was "you can change the world!" It's not sustainable as an individual but I thought I was supposed to change the world, too, all by myself.

[daviddevlogger]

If you are reading this, know that sometimes you have to go through darkness to get to the light.... So worry no more for the lord is with you. Amen

[ogeo.]

Aww he made Jubilee. I also grew up wanting to change things for the better. I made all this big plans that I imagined would be applied on a mass scale - detailed too - troubleshooting to find solutions to problems and refining them to make them better. I also realised one day I hated myself. Now I'm just in a weird place where I don't have anything I really enjoy. And my mind is not as occupied with 'changing the world' as it was before.

[ellenhendricks]

He has perfectly described the millennial/gen Z phenomenon of exhaustion.

[rubin-healmysocialanxiety]

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
― Carl Jung

Profound talk 🔥