Should you attend your son's gay wedding?

Some parents are really struggling with this question. This is not something to take lightly. In this video, I share my thoughts about it, and Frank Turek joins me to remind us of the very words of Jesus that can shed light on this matter.

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[loiscarteaux]

We are facing this and told our daughter no. God created marriage it is a covenant. It is also the foreshadow of Christ and His Bride. 2 scriptures that helped us are when Eli knew the wickedness of his son's, including sexual immorality and did nothing, the Lord said to him "you honor your sons more than you honor me." And eventually the Lord put them to death. The other is when Christ says whoever does not hate his fathers, mothers etc more than Me is not worthy of me. Christ comes first, we weren't nasty about it but spoke truth in love to her. Would highly recommend Rosaria Butterfield's book 5 lies of our anti Christian age. Very helpful.

[judidevere]

I have to say while praying diligently for wisdom on whether we should attend our daughters gay wedding we wrestled with this very issue. We knew that our daughter knew we could not affirm this union. The Lord spoke to me that he went to the homes of sinners and others living in sin but was not there to affirm but to pour out love. He spoke to me about being present as an act of love not acceptance of sin. So we went. We did not cheer or toast but we did a lot of hugging and loving grandchildren and left well before the festivities began. I do not feel that we in any way affirmed their union by witnessing it. I know many will disagree and you must do what your conscience dictates to you and I support you in that but I also felt a peace about the difficult decision we made and have not second-guessed myself. I pray daily for my prodigal and believe that it is the love of God that brings us to repentance. She knows we love her unconditionally but that she must repent to get right with God.

[whosoever]

That a Christian would even ask this question always astounds me ... We can love and support the sinner, WITHOUT the sin.

Replace the words "homosexual marriage" (term is an oxymoron btw), with any other sin - theft, slander, adultry, pedophilia, etc. - and no one would ever suggest we should go-along-to-get-along.

We are to FLEE from sin, not celebrate it.

[CharlieKraken]

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
I.e., Our bonds with fellow Christians are infinitely more significant than familial bonds. People have this weird societal conception that a family member of a Christian living a sin lifestyle is some "gotcha" moment that means said Christian should approve of it, but in reality it is utterly insignificant in the face of the eternal glory of Christ Jesus. I understand that it can be heartbreaking to see a family member live in total sin, and I am praying for everyone involved in the situation in question, but temporal sorrows in no way change eternal truths. God bless you and your ministry as always!

[dolladebruin]

I am so proud of our daughter (23yrs) She was at her boyfriend's house and his mom said: " let's go to the pride march " our daughter said, no way that I will do that ever!

His mom said: " really?! We just going to see "

Our daughter said: " I don't want everything to do with it, It is sick and wrong!"

[TexasVagabond]

I wonder if there is a similar equivalent to attending a second or third wedding. The Bible is clear that once marriage vowels are taken, they cannot be undone. And it is adultery to be with anyone else, so are Christians in error if they attend a wedding after a divorce? I remember my mom struggled with my sister getting married to her first husband because she believed they should not get married, but a pastor and mentor called her and told her not only to attend the wedding but to help plan and pay for it. That marriage ended in divorce, so was that a false covenant?

[markrichard]

If my gay son loved me then he would not want me to attend his gay wedding. He already knows what I believe so to expect me to attend a ceremony that he know goes against those beliefs is not love. Kids have a responsibility to love and respect their parents, gay or not.

[TempleofChristMinistries]

Where do I find the full video of this video not another video.

[moglimogify]

Just out of interest would you go to a non christian hetro wedding i.e. Muslim, Hindu, Non religious etc? Or would you attend weddings of previously divorced people (assuming no adultery was invlovled). If you would Im curious to know the difference between that and Gay weddings. I ask because I have a number of gay friends where this issue will become important. Thanks.

[waytehdawn]

Ugh, pray for me. I’m going to have to refuse to attend some “weddings” soon. Hopefully they understand my absence.

[Yashuahservant]

He said it perfectly in Matthew but there is more. Thanks be to God I left that lifestyle after 45 years in 2019! To Holy God the Father all the glory, amen! ❤🕊🤍♥️🕊

Matthew 10:35-39
[35]For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
[36]And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.
[37]He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
[38]And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
[39]He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.

[dualscreengrant]

I don't have any kids because I'm childfree, but if I did have a son or daughter who was gay, I would go to their wedding. Why not? Gay marriages are just as valid as straight marriages.

[timp]

You never condone what God has clearly condemned.

[swebilbo]

Wow! you people are scary! As a non beliver im realy scared that someone would choose religion before there child... wow

[benjaminofperrin]

100% It's not loving to affirm sin. It's loving to try to persuade people not to sin and to follow Christ.

[elisaboyd]

We did not attend our gay son’s wedding.

[larry]

My father wants to skip the part where they get married in church, but wants to attend the ceremony celebration after they are done in church, he argues that attending the celebration is the same as having dinner by them the next weekend because they are married at that point. I feel that attending the celebration at that night is celebrating the marriage directly by being there, so i wont be attending, so any thoughts? This will look very confusing to my brother if some attend and some don't. Tnx

[suzanneyorkville]

Hi Alice, love your channel. Fun fact, your Zoe CD made the trip from Canada to Europe 11 years ago when we made the big move. I only realised a couple of months ago, after listening to your channel for at least a year, that you were in the group. Have you seen Becket Cooks interview on his channel about not attending a gay wedding? It was excellent. Perhaps you can interview the guest with whom he did this interview.

[pastorofmuppets]

0:44 always bringing in the so called "founding" ... Let's ignore those who were originally on the land and who were killed often in the name of God

[SDscrch]

answering without watching... "no"
now let's watch...