Are you SURE you're an INTJ....

The INTJ personality - the mastermind, the visionary leader, the productive sage. I admire INTJs relentless pursuit of continual growth. Of the 16 personalities, the INTJ is the one that most effectively balances the left and right sides of the brain, the head and the heart, the efficient and the woo woo.

COACHING/PERSONALITY VERIFICATION

Note: this video is almost a duplicate of my previous INTJ video "INTJs aren't the masterminds they think they are unless they do these 2 things..." and it's the video that inspired the format of this 16 personalities series. My original plan was to not make another in the same format. However, because it was done months before this series, many people were requesting I do the INTJ video, and to make it more cohesive long-term I decided to basically remake the video with a few more added touches and different examples. This way all 16 types are in one cohesive block of videos chronologically.✌️

0:00 Intro
0:29 INTJ brain regions cognitive functions
4:37 INTJ common mistypes
7:03 INTJ dominant strength Ni
12:28 Why you need extroversion
14:47 INTJ growth point Te
20:40 INTJ common weakness Fi
26:27 INTJ stretch point Se
31:41 INTJ unique gift to the world

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[maniacallyhappy]

I think an important aspect to look at that for INTJ's, it may not have a single thing to do with, "Fear of not being accepted" - most of the time we don't care about other's opinions, but we can be our own biggest critics and before we give ourselves a chance to be seen by anyone else have already scrutinised or own products and made the decision it isn't where we want it to be even though others may think our technical abilities are great. I've had that problem A LOT. It's hard to accept compliments from general public because I am looking to increase my skills and am CRAVING constructive criticism because I don't know what I don't know and need a different perspective to continue to catch blind spots, but the only criticism that I'm getting is, "Oh wow, that looks/tastes/is great!". It doesn't fit my criteria as great and I don't know what to change to achieve my version of great... and it's frustrating. I have completely given up on art and music because I caught myself doing the same thing... over and over and over again, trying to achieve my desired outcome, and receive nothing outside of what comes off as platitudes on opinions that I care about. It's frustrating especially when you run into teachers and professionals who continue to give you sound like they're stroking my ego.

[roisinnigcrainn]

INTJ here.

When I was a kid, I never used to understand happy tears/crying at movies. As soon as I reached about 17-18, all that changed (Fi began to develop), and I'm so glad it did - I'm now on a journey to become an actor and playwright, because this media is able to move me in the way most people never could. Whoever says INTJs lack passion and creativity may have _met_ an INTJ, but they've clearly never _known_ one.

The "unproductive critic" really is a great description of how I felt in college last year. I was studying law and it felt way too restrictive; there was no room for debate or imagination. It defied my expectations. It didn't allow me to be the Elle Woods character, like I had imagined. In my country (as I'm sure is true for most), the legal system is filled with corrupt, nasty, money-grabbing, self-interested, unjust individuals. My feelings were hurt, and I didn't want to do the work. I became lazy, depressed and I felt worthless. I quit that course a month after I came to this conclusion. I had tried to force myself to continue but it just wasn't working. I'm so proud of myself for making the change. It was terrifying, but simultaneously exhilarating.

When I feel depressed, I often turn to Se with food and alcohol. When anxious, I fidget a lot. I've learned to manage stress by going for long walks and exercising in a healthy and controlled mindset and environment. I find walking in nature can really inspire me creatively, and I'm getting into better shape too. I used to sit inside the house all day, cooped up in my own head, to the extent that I didn't feel the need to leave the house because there was so much I was busying myself with internally. I didn't even notice that my environment never changed. I still struggle a lot with personal hygiene, but I'm dead-set on fixing this.

You've really assisted me today. You've brought my attention to things I never knew about myself. Thank you.

[swiftmk]

Your Ni analogies are the best I've heard! Going through life with Ni like "a drive you can't remember doing" is sooo relatable. I often feel really disconnected and weirded out by my mind because of this, so it's nice to see that I'm not alone :)

[BobVisMo]

Intjs after reaching 18 as they develop their Fi,
*beat theirselves for having emotions
Or maybe just me

[DIAvs]

Ouch, that last segment hit me very hard. I'm wasting my life, I already wasted my youth, my teen years because of fear. Fear of failure, fear of judgement. It kills me to know that I let down so many people. There were so high expectations of me after high school. The teachers, my family, everyone thought I would succed in life and instead I'm just here blaming myself for not being able to do that, watching Youtube videos and Netflix all day. I don't feel capable of stepping out of this comfort zone, I'm only doing things I know I can do right, because I can't accept not being good at something, I can't accept failure. But you're right, if you manage to do that, that's real freedom.

[emillyazevedo]

OMG, THIS IS SO TRUE!!! when i was a little bit younger i used to despise emotions and be more rational, but i was only like this bc i wasn’t very mature. so, i grew up and then i realized how important emotions actually are for our society, and that in fact we need a balance between feeling and thinking, not only thinking as i used to believe

(sorry for my english, i’m not a native speaker :/)

[Jack_L]

I've been questioning if I'm an INTJ the past few days, but your videos have been reaffirming my belief that I am one. Some reasons I was confused (and why I'm not now):
- INTJ's are always presented as very put together, but my space is a mess and I don't care that much (Se grip)
- I don't feel very productive, I spend a lot of time consuming content and not much else (Se grip)
- I don't make very specific plans - that is a complete lie, I just didn't realize how much I was doing it since I don't make them actionable/take action (Ni/Fi loop and Se grip)
- I feel like I have Fe sometimes, I tend to offer my time to listen to other people talk about their emotions and I was good enough at helping people that I nearly went to school to be a clinical psychologist (I definitely have Te though, I love useable information and optimizing systems - ended up with a degree in computer science)
- I don't relate with most INTJ's I see in YouTube comment sections or on Reddit, I don't see my flaws as strengths like they do and I see the value in Fe (probably because of my ESFJ sister and INFJ best friend)
- I don't relate to most INTJ's I see in YouTube videos that act like they have it all figured out and don't talk about their bad days (I do relate to you though, so thank you for talking about the less healthy behavior we can exhibit)

[dwsvlogs]

I agree with you 100% my friend. My son believes that I'm an extrovert but the truth is that I'm more so of an introvert. Over time I've had to learn to be an extrovert because of my work and that's what he's noticing. I still grapple with the freedom that extroverts feel as opposed to the Comfort that introversion gives me.

[frsjepi]

I've watched quite a few "are you really an intj" videos and still wasn't sure. After yours, not only I related almost entirely to what you said, but also gained some insights to how to practically get better to the things I'm lacking the most (Te, Se: staying in the present and perfecting Te). Thank you for the video! Continue the good job! :)

[erossutra]

Working on my extraverted thinking right now. This is the message I get a lot, "you have a lot of potential but not using it". Thanks for the video.

[tony]

For a long time, I questioned whether I was an INTJ. Largely because I felt like I lacked direction for my life. Everyone says INTJs are smart, have grand plans and goals for their lives, and they take action instead of procrastinating. I was stuck in a depression loop which convinced me I had mistyped and was an INTP. I only wanted to read and watch YT but couldn't get myself to implement anything.
I got a new job which forced me into my Te more and led me to start working out and taking walks Se and man I feel amazing, fulfilled and more purposeful.
Until watching this video i couldn't put it into words, I didn't know I was optimising my functions. 💡 light bulb moment
I've noticed I do love withdrawing into my Fi but when I draw it out too long, it's easy to slip back into feeling moody, unproductive and depressed. So whenever I have too much time on my hands, activating my Se helps keep my spirits up. Thank you for explaining things so well.

[zelluscious]

My father is an INTJ and a mathematician. He doesn't have the need to talk about his thoughts with anyone outside of his work necessarily because he has found his niche in maths and his community is maths and everything else is something he just tolerates. This has become all the more clear when he had a stroke and couldn't continue with his work sadly. He still kept up with staying busy but it was very obvious that it bothered him that he could no longer be involved in his math projects like he had been for 60+ years and his ability to respond to people when they talked to him faded away. He can still talk clearly he just had no motivation to respond to outside stimulus especially when people talked to him. Before the stroke he could follow a conversation for awhile but then there was a cut off point where he would obviously drift off and sometimes he would just get up and leave the room without warning to write down something in his office like on his chalk board about a math problem/theorem he had been working on. What also became obvious after his stroke is how he no longer recognized how to do every day routine stuff like putting on his shoes. He had always been reliant on my mother for a lot of the basics in life but now even more so as he seems to sit and think that everything happens by magic lol... thanks to my mom.

[toothdecay]

I'm an INFP dude and I dated an INTJ woman. We're both MBTI nerds, so when we discovered our respective types, it made us want to pursue things even more. An INFP male is very rare. An INTJ female, also very rare. The likelihood of the pairing, exceedingly rare.
She was very interesting and our conversations were next level. She was also funny AF, with a himor style that didn't shy away from the transgressive or dark. Honestly, she made me laugh.
I hadn't looked at her cognitive functions, so I wasn't expecting this person who said she loved logic so much to have a rich emotional side. But one day, I was holding her and "What's this? Well, it's Fi. I did not expect encounter you here." She cried and let me hold her some more. I kept it between us and didn't bring it up. She was a successful tech manager with a tough persona. But I got to see another side to her.

[jaftemx]

12:00 This is very true. As an INTJ its hard to find people who want to talk about things you're also interested in. But not all hope is lost. As an engineer, I've found that I heavily relate with people in STEM and that I can't connect with people who aren't. So for other INTJ's out there, this might be a career path you might want to consider taking. Generally speaking, people in STEM love new ideas that can progress individuals or society, love talking in systems, love talking in data, love talking in terms of science and improvement, and love talking about trends or things happening that are under the surface of the public consciousness - basically what's next, and love talking vertically or going very deep into 1 subject.

[livingdiystyle]

I love the advice you gave for Intj's at the end of the video, both practical and helpful!

[antistaticandi]

You are doing amazing work, getting the real truth out there about INTJs - the good, the bad, the helpful, and the chronically underrepresented and misunderstood. Thank you.

[apoorvsom]

What a great way to finish 2021. I made notes all through the video, noticing my weaknesses, and my accepting my strengths. Some of the things that I overcame and made me confident were things I did to come out of the Fi. That, was my biggest weakness. I am now more confident, but still working on it. Now I know exactly how to put it in words. Thank you for making such an amazing video, Alexis. What a day it has been, 31 December 2021 - gave me one of my biggest realizations/learnings. What else could I've asked for. 2022... here I come!!

[siunkii]

Never have I ever heard a video that I resonate with so much. I mean, there's been multiple MBTI videos of different types with what I went "That's relatable, sounds like me", feeling quite giddy with some of the findings, but never for the whole picture. I was always projecting my idea of "who I was supposed to be" into these other types, thus one major point for a type would over rule the lesser ones that indicated otherwise. Thank you so much for getting the hang of your Te and showing your findings to us.

[calebm]

Really phenomenal job. I watch hundreds of videos and you have a special approach and superior ability to communicate in a way that resonates.

INTJ 8w7

[chrisulianna]

MAAAAN! I stay "in the ocean" so much that it feels like my life happens without me. I am so focused on my inner dialog that everything outside of me just goes blank. The worst part is that it is so natural that I don't know its happening so I go long stretches, months, years, without progress. It's like I am listening to the music to my favorite song, and it's wonderful, but it's only the music. When I hear videos like yours, it's like I'm reading the lyrics, and it is so much better. Thank you. Keep going Alexis. We need more like you!