Helping others makes us happier -- but it matters how we do it | Elizabeth Dunn

It's being selfless, caring, compassionate, and unconditionally kind. Like love, it takes practice to understand and feel it. We share love with others through kind acts such as a smile, a nice word, an unexpected deed, or a planned surprise.
It would be an act of kindness—not wrecking. My remarks are intended as an act of kindness. It may be that that act of kindness to him, because of his great quality, deprived him of his allowance. He did that as an act of kindness because the boy was not feeling well.