THIS Is What Happens If You DON'T Chase An Ex

In this video, I’m going to dive in to the psychology of what happens when you actually DON’T chase an ex.

We are going to look at the pedestal effect
How it can change over time
The biggest mistake our clients make
Why you can’t pretend to move on from an ex

So, buckle up because this is a good one.

[Duncanexgirlfriend]

Very simple, if my ex doesn’t chase me, I’m off chasing someone else!

[magdadrague]

He left me brutally 4 months ago, saying we will never ever meet each other again. After 3 months NC he called me at 8 am begging me to come back bc he suffered with nightmares and he "was going to die".... we talked, he promised he will do anything to make the things as before...and then he dissapeared again and now i am suffering again...

[beloved]

I haven’t begged Or chased my ex boyfriend for 4 months. I’m slowly moving on. Some days are good others are bad. My ex hasn’t tried to make contact with me. We were in a relationship for 6 years. I don’t think I want him back.

[canelinhaoslo]

This thing with the pedestal doesn't quite make sense to me. Is this perhaps more how men relate to partnerships? I have never thought that a partner or ex have been "above" me. But I can sometimes hold on to someone even after it ended because I simply feel I finally have found a match, which is really rare.

Most of my (ex)partners have usually put me "above" them. Is it perhaps once we turn more equal things changes for them? Maybe they "need" me to be kind of above them to want me?

And hey I would chose you above Brad anytime 😊

[kimberlyburke]

Hi, is this theory relevant when the breakup was almost a year ago? I initially chased, cried and did everything that I should not have done. He has blocked me and unblocked me. Now we talk occasionally but that urge of me having to get him back as dissipated.

[kaylamills]

I’m from Rochester, NY where the U of R is located and hearing “Rochester” pronounced from someone that isn’t from here … I can hear how nasally we sound now when saying it and our little accent. 😂😂 We usually say it with a hard ‘A’ sound like “Rah-Chester”.

[tweedybird]

Chris you are simply amazing! Your videos are amazing. And that is correct. My ex and I work together. I don’t talk to him unless he says something first. I did do the chasing, but slowly getting back out there and I have actually went on a couple dates. I still want my ex back, but I know chasing isn’t what I want to do and I don’t want to look desperate. So if I’m still single or maybe couple months or even years down the road when we both aren’t in relationships and he reaches out then I’d consider it again.

[ladyenfamouz]

With respect to your wife, Chris I'd choose you over Brad lol

[cs]

Can you make a video on how to "play hard to get" the right way??

[OcAirsoft]

Broke up a month and a half ago… she called me 31 days ago to work it out ( two weeks after break up) scheduled to meet up that evening and then she blocked me…. 3 1/2 years is hard to move on from but I’m just lifting and trying to battle me missing her.

[Hangrytaco]

Loving this new content style Chris! & this was very relevant & helpful to my current situation. Thanks 😊

[manutdmadlad]

Hi there,

I’ve been single now around 3 months from being in a long distance relationship.

My question is when me ex broke up with me and said she wanted to break up. I agreed there had been some issues and things weren’t correct. I didn’t put up a fight and just thanked her for the honesty etc.
I was initially thinking the break up was a good idea and I may have vocalised this to her. However, I now think strongly I want her back.

I’m concerned no contact won’t work as I’ve not said about if she changes her mind she should come back, and that I agreed to the break up.

Do you think no contact will still have the impact I want of getting her back?

Many thanks

[dudaygaming]

i did no contact but i got drunk and texted him 😭

[llea-eb]

My ex broke up w me just shy of a month ago, neither of us have talked to each other since. He moved out and I'm staying at our place and his stuff is still here. Not exactly sure what to do in this situation.

I have a question about the no contact rule. Mainly if he will ever reach out?

I also have a pride issue and I don't want to be the first one to reach out.

Any advice.. please I feel very stuck and confused.

[HealWithJess]

What if they told me to move in with my life leave them alone but when I do they run back?

[Janani.G]

I had a strange experience. She already engaged in a relationship. Also accepted me too. She is fine with me unless until I know about her character. Once I figured out her character, she slowly move away from me. One fine day she decided to breakup. Even though there is no single fault from my side, she blamed me and dumped me. Initially I begged and did all my efforts to convince her. My ego was deeply hurted and I started completely avoiding her. Recently I met with an accident. She called me to enquire how it was happened. I simply replied " iam fine and thank you" that's all. To forget the pain iam frequently associating with my friends and going to gym for weightloss. Now iam posting the best places i visited, conference i attended, weightloss targets achieved in the gym etc., She don't have the habit of posting her updates in social media. Now strangely she is also posting. Please let me know Chris what is happening?

[jeffreykadriu]

Why does my ex keep reaching out / saying she missed me then after a couple of times hanging in a group with her friends she left me on read..

[hazelhuss]

What about if they are a dismissive avoidant?