Sadia Psychology: The Untold Truth About Attraction

Join Sadia Khan and Tom Bilyeu on Impact Theory for a revealing conversation about modern relationships, the psychology of attraction, and sexual compatibility. Learn why self-control is crucial, how impulsivity impacts relationships, and the role of experience in sexual satisfaction. Sadia and Tom discuss the importance of honesty, the pitfalls of promiscuity, and strategies for cultivating long-term commitment. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of love, desire, and maintaining a healthy relationship in today's world.

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[PspTomisi]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[oldscratch]

I've always thought that someone who has tons of one night stands is not better at sex than someone who only has sex within the confines of a relationship.

I've been with 4 women, but I've had sex thousands of times. So, who's really more experienced? The guy who's had 100 one night stands or the guy who's had sex thousands of times?

[seankay]

I watch her for a minute or two and always think ''what load of rubbish''. One day I might be surprised and she might say something sensible.

[chiragpatel]

What book are they talking about around 5:37 time. “Getting my kids”. I could not find that book.

[lesedimoitsheki]

Otherwise, this needs to be shared worldwide. Facts only!

[minutesdj]

I dont think guys sleeping with 100 women care whether or not those women were satisfied or not 😂😂😂

[LastNineBreaker]

Men want a good woman to have children with — a woman they can trust will be a good mother. That doesn’t mean that men will stop being promiscuous with women they have no intention of having children with.

Do we fight our urges to make sure the future of our offspring and companionship are secure? Yes, if you’re a good man. There are even men willing to sacrifice his own life for a woman, but sleep with other women. Wrap your mind around that.

There are plenty of men with multiple children from multiple women that don’t care about their children’s future or mental well-being, while also never willing to sacrifice themselves like previously mentioned.

[kennethedwards]

It's crazy this talk about sexual experience. Men value a woman who's sexualy compatible and has fewer experiences. I recently heard my favorite quote of the year: "Women are interested in a man's future, while men are interested in a woman's past." Body count matters.

[jcar]

There is no rule book here. You can have someone sleep around and be bad at sex.
Someone sleep around and be good at sex.
Someone have a handful of partners in a lifetime and be good at sex.
Someone have a handful of partners in a lifetime and be bad at sex.
This is utter BS.
Stick to the psychology of attraction and maintaining relationships.

[trerodriguez]

They don't say anything because it gives them an excuse to look for it somewhere else.

[Chubbs]

If I can say in my very limited experience with women, women seem to be more attracted long term, not to looks and not to youth, or even experienced, its the type of person the woman is. In a serious woman, who from youth look for guys, who are traditional, meaning conservative and family oriented, they are attracted to mature people not just youthful men. The more a woman is attracted to beauty, atleast in women of that type who love beauty and pure emotion, they are interested in the physical appearance, physicality, or sexual prowess. On the majority of youth in women starting out that choose the men they want and often the most desired women, with intelligence, purity, and above all beauty that men unconciously desire from an early age, those women before they are disenfranchised and filled with ideas beauty alone is all a man wants with a good time, desire mature men, and many just don't seem to see that and they base it purely on one aspect of a person, of what is attractive. Basically, I say most women, and women that are secretly the most desired, base their wants and needs not on appearance or sexual prowess as is popularly believed, but on intelligence, assuredness, and maturity. I guarantee you if you ask a woman, that is smart and attractive, namely the most desirable ones, they don't list sexual prowess, but intelligence and maturity.

[jamesrowe]

A promiscuous woman can still be a GOOD woman...just depends on your definition of GOOD.

[robertmiller]

I think the piece you are missing is that men employ both r and k reproductive strategies. That is both high quantity/low investment and high investment/low quantity. The former being "hit it and quit it" the latter being "LTR". For men, both are available, both are "successful" reproductive strategy-wise from an evolutionary perspective. The difference here being, for the latter, paternity certainty is critical vis a vis the investment. So I would argue the opposite. With "good sex" being proxy for promiscuity being proxy for LOW paternity certainty, that will actually be an "ick" vis a vis an LTR. But for the former strategy, it's about numbers and there isn't investment costs, so paternity certainty isn't an attraction factor one way or another, so "good sex" would be more alluring.
The point being, whether "good sex" is attractive or not is going to be a factor of the strategy in the particular circumstance.
The problem is when people assume a singular strategy, it results in wrong conclusions about what is or is not attractive.
This is why men will date 304s but want a "virgin" for a LTR. And why people don't understand this.

[Vbnklll]

Attraction is based on a pretty face and shoulders.😮

[TMMAAK]

Unbelievable, I'm I really the first to comment here?
The V or P obsession problem😂😂😂.
Humans are also animals, but they just have intelligence.

[jujubee]

Men do not fall in love with women through sex. I totally disagree.

[williamwallace]

The research is clear, virgin women are the most happy in their marriage. And every sexual partner after that decreases the chance of a happy marriage. 5 sexual partners indicates already an abysmal low chance of a successful marriage.

[deannawilliams]

So would you consider that a man that is married and promiscuous rather prefer a promiscuous woman rather than his wife and would say that the only reason he has a wife is that he's emotionally attached to her.

[agape]

I think something has been missed out here.
A woman’s cycle has a lot to do with the way she responds sexually.
I know for me, I’m super sexual right after my period and the next half of the month I’m more sensual.
My Husband and I try and keep in spicy, and throw in a lot of variety to keep it interesting and it takes work, from both parties.

[charoslian]

The whole reality can be determined by the biological evolution laws, technology level, established social structure and statistics.
The evolution necessity of women to show off and evaluate their own attractiveness via exposure combined with today's technological ability of social media give women thousand of possibilities of the best male to choose. But today women having thousand of choices of men makes women unable to decide who man is the best choice for sure. Too many choices paralyze. So today statistics indicate that majority of women jump from one man to another unable to make a final "best" choice. At the same time this majority of women looking for the "best" man hunt or open the "green light" to be hunted only by a small minority of men looking to be in the high rank of society's recognition. So statistics reality and biological evolution rules creat a today's reality that many men are deprived of women's company. So even if all men became supermen with great personalities women would still choose the best supermen of the best and thus leaving again the majority of men deprived of women's company.
Considering the above logical factors I think the best strategy for a man is to have a clear preference to a "good" woman being prepared to make a long relationship with her at any time he finds one. But due to this scarcity of these kind of women at the same time it is logical for a man to make relationships with women with lower perspective for a long relationship in order to not be completely without women's company for many years but being prepared to stay with one woman if she fulfils the standards. So that may happen with the 1st woman or 25th woman or the 125th woman. If it happens with the 1st woman maybe it is the best but you can't know, it can be with the 18th woman. As long as someone doesn't articulate false promises and commitments it is moral to have as many low perspective relationships cover his biological needs. Also someone should be aware of possible phycological crazy women that may do unprovoked attacks during having relationships with them.