Social Intelligence 101: How To Control The Frame

Social Intelligence 101: How To Control The Frame
How To Use Frame Control In Social Situations
How To Have Social Intelligence
How To Have A Strong Frame

I was recently reading the book "Pitch Anything" by Oren Klaff, and in that book he talks about the power of using FRAMES in any social situation.

It doesn't matter if you're pitching an idea to a board room of investors, selling a product, or approaching women in a bar...

No matter the situation, there will most likely always be conflicting "frames"

For example, you could view YOURself as the prize, whereas a women in a bar views HERself as the prize. So what happens when you approach her then?...

This is what's called a "Frame Collision", and the stronger frame (aka the High Value frame) will always win.

The way you know if your frame stronger is if the OTHER person with the conflicting frame starts REACTING to your frame.

In this video I teach you the exact exercise I make all of my top clients go through to always have the stronger frame.

Take action immediately... And be careful.

As the old guy from Spiderman once said, "With great power comes great responsibility."

-Patrick James
America's Charisma Consultant For Men

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[albertofrancese]

Whoever is the first to crack and reacts to the opposing frame will have the weakest frame. Increase your odds of success by sticking to your frame with confidence. Very nice summary. I read this book last year and it is a game changer! Cheers

[abdul]

so it's about knowing (/intuitively knowing) what is and isn't a part of your frame and not reacting to what isn't a part of it.

[vishaljain]

Before going for anything in which you can be rejected, visualize yourself in the scenario you want to be with the person you are approaching, like if its a girl at a bar then before actually talking to her see yourself in enjoying with her, see her having an amazing time with you as you are the source of energy and she is feeding on your infinite energy and then approach her!
If you are selling a product then see yourself having already done multiple sales and even if this guy does not buys to it it will be his loss! So before going in any difficult situation, see yourself already conquered the situation!

[Desrayyy_]

I get everything I want. People always help me because I’m so open and charismatic, I can easily make people feel welcomed and even let them talk about their experiences. I see the world as futuristic and striving to make good changes that will impact lives positively and I see myself being a chameleon and doing my own thing, people asking me questions and supporting me. People telling me I can reach higher. I can be trusted and I can trust others because they’ll show me. Deeply caring I the people around me because it’s good to care. Showing vulnerability is good and showing interest in others with firm eye contact without being scared of future events or getting hurt. Truly believing good people are there and they’ll see me and no drama or gossip

[JazTheStarkid]

I’ve came to a similar conclusion on how to more confidently control social all on my own and it falls in line with this perfectly. I’m definitely interesting in learning more about this perspective

[kirk]

Great advice and greetings from a fellow Arizonan! Your point about reaction is exactly right, when I was younger I didn't realize how much I reacted to people instead of the other way around. It really makes a difference.

[EsotericHighway]

One of the best explanations I’ve seen on this subject..

[betsssf]

You explaine it well the concept of frames and the example you gave was perfect.

[Colinagill]

Great summary!
Guess a definition of frame could be ‘the intention to shape the Perception of the interaction’ type thing?
I’ve also been wondering about the link between setting an intention (eg before a business meeting or approaching a girl) and a frame.

[fornavnefternavn]

I understand what you mean don't act so the person think they were right about you what they thought of you in the first place and don't give into their frame of mind so you prove to the person they were right about you

[businesswealthstory]

You have really summarized this well. Good job man!

[machembe]

I enjoyed this perspective. Especially on the picking up a girl from a club part.

[deboyskyswuzzz]

Patrick Thanks for the exercise. I did it but I dont think I understand it complete. What did you mean by giving value to other people? P.S Could you give an example of one of your frame control texts and what is a self image ? Thanks

[eydaimon]

Homework (4:17): write down your ideal self image

[HouseAddictionz]

I understand that we have different frames, but how does it work? Does it mean that you have to expect and understand the other person's frame/ perspective to a certain situation before going up to them so that you can relate to them easier. Please let me know, I'm not quite sure I understand but I Really want to!

[terencechau]

I like the part where, "if something doesn't fit your frame, leave"

[mowtoegee]

You want to get really good at this? Practice meditation . You will naturally become more grounded and centered as a result and when that happens you become much more solid in your frame of reality and that is reflected in your speech.. Which is much less reactionary

[RYGReachYourGoals]

Well said bro! I'm reading Pitch now.
Subscribed.
What's your market?

[jaredprice]

But can two people have equally strong frames? Would that result in a stalemate/tie/truce? Or could it sometimes result in a mutually beneficial cooperación between the two frames that is harmonious and balaned? Is a power struggle really an unavoidable occurrance or can two parties each learn to re invent their own frames to compliment each other and still validate themselves simultaneously?

[achrafnajih]

Man, I really needed to hear this, thanks brother !