Managing Your Anger - Amber Lia & Wendy Speake

Based on their book Triggers, Amber Lia and Wendy Speake discuss common external and internal triggers that can make mothers angry. They share their journeys overcoming their own triggers, like when their children disobey and complain, and when they have to deal with exhaustion. Our guests offer encouragement to moms and explain how they can prepare to handle their triggers in a healthier way.

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[ninam.]

Thanks God, FOF and ladies.This is truly an answer to a heart felt prayer.I need this to help my daughter with my granddaughter and I’ve learned so much.I’m sharing on all my SM and with family and friends.Father Renew a right spirit in our emotions to reflect your image of kindness, gentleness, grace, mercy, and self control emotions to every child Amen:Blessings to u and yours💜🙏🏾

[bupekabamba]

I have listened to this twice in one sitting already and will put it on repeat until everything is internalised

[faith_myopinion]

Thank you for this video. I worry everyday that I'm not doing a good job with my 4 year old son. The way I yell at my baby😢 but the way he's so forgiving 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Lord help me to be calm when I'm disciplining him🙏🙏😭

[mikaeladonegan]

I put myself in timeout. I say 'Mommy is getting mad and needs to go in timeout !' then I lock myself away and get calm

[chansolo]

I have been praying to God since my son has been born (which is 3 years now) for guidance. So often I get so angry with him. Everything is a fight and I understand he is learning his autonomy but idk how to handle it ALL the time. He was being so defiant to me I had no idea how to get through to him. I prayed that God would fix ME, help my heart to be compassionate and understand my son. This is an answered prayer.

[belenharris]

Our brains are hardwired for community - one thing we don't have anymore. I don't mean digital or long distance community (which is lovely!), I mean what our distant ancestors had, where they played together, parented together, ate together, etc. Not 24/7, but daily, or nearly daily, *being* together.

Parents now (in our culture) are so consistently disregulated and isolated. Parents in other cultures still have struggles, but without the high levels of disregulation and isolation.

[mrsbethanyelise]

Just had my third baby last week, such a timely message 🙏

[cozetteoconnor]

I want to add that i had to cut out coffee - COMPLETELY. The caffeine raised my cortisol and I would lose my temper so much faster. Moms if you are struggling, consider quitting caffeine. Read the book 'caffeine blues'.

[eraina_i]

Regret and wishing i could go back is something i feel every. single. day. 😢

[Tascountrygirl]

Thank you. I loved this discussion. I especially melted when one of the visiting speakers told of how the Lord told her 'I want you to hold your child while I am holding you.' 🙏♥️

[hokie]

Really needed this today. Thank you for sharing and being honest!

[smoothsailingmp]

So needed this years ago, But I'm 80 now....my daughter would be 60 years old the 27th of this month, but has been in heaven now almost 14 son who also is in heaven would've been 53 now...we do have another son out of state...he and his bride gave us two grandchildren who are both in college now and we see all four of them every 3 years. .The other grandchildren are grown and now we have 3 great grandchildren...(One almost 14 and in New Mexico....we are in California. ..the other two maybe twice a month at church...thanking God for approximately 30 minutes at pancake breakfast provided by our church after ea. Church service ...Nice, and can apply these principles now with them....PLEASE MOMS AND DADS AND ALL THE REST....Hoping and praying for your use of these wonderful principles....What we did was prayed alot, alot...mand at other times reacted with frustration, sobs and tears...and other times in love❤. God knows❤
Both that are in heaven very rebellious natures 😮😊God knows, He knows....one collapsed just about in his dad's arms sobbing and asking his dad's forgiveness about one month before he was on hospice in our home❤❤❤ that was a miracle...a real miracle. He said he wished he had listened to his dad on many levels....

[MomentswithTiffany]

Listen… God knows our struggles 😩. This video has encouraged me and helped me much! God knows i NEEDED this. Literally every word spoken was meaningful. Thank you ladies because this is REAL LIFE for parents. I love this!!

[amberdedeaux]

God showed me this video at the perfect time. I've been struggling with my anger with my toddler!

[amsells]

“They need you and they need you” that spoke to me, my daughter needs to see the God-given uniqueness as a mom. 💕

[Tascountrygirl]

I am a senior woman in Australia and I have found you again in my YT feed. Watching this episode, I learned so much. It has taken a long time to realise why my father had quite a bit of difficulty with his emotions. I had counselling and did research into his and his dad's life. His father was a lovely man but signed up for WW1 just after dad was born and was sent to France.
His mum had untreatable epilepsy so dad was brought up by his grandmother who was lovely. I'll keep it this length. Much more and I have grieved for dad and forgiven any of his mistakes.

[munachiso]

Today's talk was such a gift to me! And to have remembered single parents, God bless you, Jim Daly, and Focus on the Family.. Your podcasts and more are becoming my go-to resource for biblical parenting.

[bjemaja]

I love the question that Jim ask at 10:36 and the answers that followed.

[SarahSKM]

Practising outside of conflict. So good

[chasityrhoades]

This channel is such a blessing! Thank you!! Thank you!!!