I'm in love with a non muslim man and I want to marry him, What to do? | Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

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[zim]

I fell in love with a Muslim girl, I researched and accepted Islam wholeheartedly, I thank Allah everyday for my Wife.

[danishji]

The way the girl accepted 'whims and desires' was very heart melting. It is easy to fall into this and difficult to come out of it. Many fail in this endeavour and lose their deen. I hope she's doing okay.

[livehabesha]

You owe your children a father who believes in Allah, may Allah give you a good husband ameen

[all-caps]

Boyfirends / Girlfriends are temporary. Allah SWT is forever!

[quatrz]

You'll never regret if you'll leave anything for Allah's sake.
May Allah help and guide the sister.

[zaze]

I'm Sure many girls/women who are in this situation are wishing that their fathers would talk to their daughters like this man. Instead of judging her and be rude he is very calm and speaks gently. He respects her painful feelings she has and at the same time he tries to "shake" her mind to get rid of these feelings which are based only on desires. One of the hardest things in a Muslims Life is to fight against desires who can lead us to sinful acts.

[hafidzahmad]

Islam doesn't sugarcoat things. Only the truth.❤

[guardianbook]

I'm a girl in my 28th. I decided not to date and only marry someone pious who prays 5x a day and doesn't smoke. I'm still waiting for the right man, my friends and seniors offered me to marry their relatives but they admitted that the men have issues with their obligatory shalah so I rejected the offer.

My friends said that I was too 'picky' and act like a saint because I don't wanna date or hang out with some random men. La hawla wa laa quwata illabillah.

I only ask Allah to give me a pious spouse. I also ask for help from my trusted relatives. While waiting for him, I'm trying my best to gain more knowledge about parenting, marriage and ofcourse the deen. Alhamdulillah I have memorized 2 Juz Quran. May Allah make my waiting benefit for me and my family. Aamiin.

Also, this is my advice from single men and women out there, use ur time wisely. Prepare yourself to be a good spouse, parent. Being "late" is not what you should worry but being "dumb" what you should regret.

[bernardodaniel]

I escaped 3 times from this kind of situations, I am not married and I am unhappy person in the world. may Allah grant me good spouse

[maryamabeer]

I became a path for my husband by Allah to come to Islam he was non Muslim before our marriage he accepted Islam after I explained the whole religion to him he worked with me before in freelancing and we were work partners he was always fascinated by Islam cuz his friends were Muslims after the conversion he proposed me and I accepted and we got married and I'm now in the 4th year of my marriage and living heaven on earth alhamdulila

[ArifToro]

What a sweet girl she’s being honest with herself and no doubt this is a test from Allah handpicked for her, truly Allah tests those whom he loves

[hudg]

The harder it is to leave them, the greater the reward you receive from Allah

[pritmb]

Claiming non-Muslims to be "dwellers of hell fire" and Shaitan! As a Hindu, we respect people of other religions and believe the path to God could be attained irrespective of which religious faith you adhere to. We don't decree non-Hindus to be "Shaitan" nor do we impose our faith on others..it is a personal choice afterall.

[Snowhite-txsm]

I can totally understand this girl as I've been there when I loved a guy so much(he was actually a muslim), i was feeling so high at that time, i was feeling so much love and desire for him but the thing is he never reciprocated and he used to ignore me. It was really a hard time for me as i cried for years for him, missing him after college but now as we say "time heals everything" he is now vanished from my brain, i don't even have any single thoughts about him now, i have fallen completely out of love for him.

I can still remember how much i got hurt when he used to ignore me despite knowing i love him very much but now, I'm thankful for it coz at that time if he have fallen in love with me, we would have followed our desires and I'm sure i would have done something bad, something haram with him coz i was immature ay that time. Thanks to Allah for saving me from it, it is only Allah who gives us patience to bear with all difficulties.

Sister, i hope you are listening to me. Please like he said, don't follow your desires as they are to end one day and we will regret. Small mistakes are made by everyone and we can repent but knowing it's bad and still doing that, is going against islam so please try to forget the guy you have feelings for and pray to Allah to give you strength to bear it. Inshaallah, he will make everything better and easier for you and i really really hope he will ❤❤

[sharmilamuhammed]

Dear sister.. Assalamu Alaikum.
I was in same situation 6 years before. I was madly in luv with a non Muslim boy. That time i was 18. I told my boyfrnd about Islam and also pointed out that he can marry me only when he revert to islam. He is gud human being and luv Islam but not ready to revert.
My relations caught by my parents and they put me into home arrest.
We didn't have any contacts to each other for 7 years.
That 7 years was vey hard years for Us.
Later, when i was 26 Allah blessed me by giving my non Muslim boyfriend As my halal Muslim husband with blessings of My parents, family and his family.
Alhamdulillah....
Now he is on right path of Islam. Ma sha Allah.
So pray to Allah for khair. Only he knows what and whom right for us.
He is the best planner. Merciful and great.
He is enough for Us.
Allahu Akber. Allahu Akber. Allahu Akber.

[FawadBilgrami]

These feelings eventually go away, but love for Allah is eternal.
May Allah Guide our daughters and boys to stay away from these desires. Ameen.

[JalikaTunkara]

This is one of THE BIGGEST challenges ANYONE can face.... but if you don't make space for someone else, you'll never realise you can feel the SAME and even more feelings for a Muslim

May Allah make it easy

[saifmd]

Sister is going through the toughest challenge, may Allah swt make it easy for her.

[iDirectionerPotterx]

the sheikh gave a very logical answer but the girl should not have asked the sheikh this question.
She states that she fell in love with a non muslim, realizes that it is wrong and that she must marry a muslim, but the problem is she is so in love with that non muslim that she cannot love another man.
This is a very painful situation for her to be in and while she understands the logic the sheikh stated, the problem is she already KNOWS it. That is why she is asking the question.
But her question is not about what should i do what should i not do, her real dilemma is how do i stop loving this man. And that will take time. This isn’t a religious issue, it’s an emotional one.

[Techbismillah]

In reality it's related to desire only..I left someone whom I was in love just for Allah if I can do anyone can do..I still love her but she is non muslim and Allah did not allowed that