Problems When You’re A Good Listener

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[ddarrasmith]

To be honest I think the hardest part about being like this, is that no one ever listens to you. Like I'm the "therapist" friend because I always listen and give advice but I've kinda noticed that I never get the chance to talk or rant. I think that might be a common thing between good listeners.

[kt-xyzo]

I'm a good listener but I hate the fact that whenever I need someone to listen to me, no one does. Like I have this one friend who will come to me with a problem and I'll give advice or just listen to her rant about it, but when I come to her with a problem she doesn't care. It's like if the conversation is about anything to do with me, she doesn't want to talk.

[Dan_Mk]

''I know more than I say, think more than I speak, notice more than you realize''

[rbx]

I can totally relate to this. I'm usually the friend that will let you rant for hours and give you advice whenever you need it. Unfortunately, it almost always mean the conversation will be about them. It sucks having news to share or if you need to vent about something but you never have the right person to do it to. I have a coworker who is also a good friend of mine, and she will go hours just talking about her life. And then just today I tell her about how my manager screwed me over and she goes, "aw that sucks." As she's in the middle of walking away. Like OK COOL.

[desperandos]

Basically how a conversation with my family goes:
Me: So yea, after that I-
Member: Ohhh! I got an awesome story to tell you!
Me: *listens*
Me: Alright, so about that thi-
Member: BLAP YAMMER BLAH BLAH

[clotildebesson]

My problem is that I can't bear seeing anybody upset so I ask them to talk to me but sometimes I get really affected by their problems and it ruins my mood for hours :/

[Samwised]

I actually love being a good listener, there's a satisfactory feeling to, like after someone has got something off their chest.
Most of the time I don't need to say anything, people resolve their own issues, sometimes by talking through it with someone else.

[nlove]

I actually enjoy listening to people who need to vent or talk about something that is bothering them, I love helping out as best as I could and it feels nice..but it's almost one sided though because whenever I want to talk about my problems or anything in general, those same people don't bothers to listen to anything I have to say. It's always just about them..

[x.casper_thibeault.x]

"hey can I talk to you for a minute"
turns into an hour long conversation almost every SINGLE TIME

[kyleebrubaker]

I relate to this so much! I'm that person that will laugh at your joke just because nobody else did and I feel bad for you. I'm that person that will always listen because I want you to feel okay. But does anybody do the same for me? Nope

[Gregythegregstortyfl]

I came to the comment section expecting 'CHRIS GOT A HAIRCUT', but nothing.

[arazakkahin]

I listen to them when i even don't want to listen to them, in my head i scream shut up!
 and when i start to talk No one listen to me. 
that's why no one knows me good, i'm just the nice guy who listen.

[benissecretlyacat]

i wish people would just talk and i would listen but it normally ends up in awkward silence because I'm terrible at keeping a conversation going FML

[MysticMilotic]

I like listening to people, so they can shake off their problems. But my problem is that i struggle to find the right words for helping them, so i basically stare at them listening, but they think i'm not paying attention. This thing made me look weird in school and many times the teachers got mad at me because they tought i wasn't listening... i hate it.

[reginaricketson]

this is me like all the time but it makes a difference when you can find a person that cares enough to listen to you i am so blessed

[WhisperingKitty]

This is so accurate. It's sad though because when the listener needs someone to listen, no one is ever there.

[niltiac]

I was waiting the whole video for him to say something about how no one ever listens to your problems in return, which I feel is the most true factor about being a good listener.

[uncFANno]

Avoid public bathrooms
Avoid awkward car rides
Avoid bars
Never leave your house
*Problem solved*

[alidiaz]

This is literally me. I joke around and pretend to charge them for my therapy services.

[donut]

I feel this on such a deep level. It's even worse when it's someone you know and the only time they ever talk to you is when they want to complain. Also, when you want someone to listen and then no ones does.