5 Reasons Why Smart People Suck at Dating

Just because you're smart doesn't mean your love life is easy. In fact, the smarter you are the harder dating can be. Here are 5 reasons why...

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Are you smart, or do you just THINK you’re smart?

Well, if you’re struggling with these five dating challenges, then chances are... you’re a genius.

If you’re like yogi and are smarter than the average bear, dating is going to be much more difficult for you.

In my latest video I break down 5 reason why this is the case.

#1 and #4 on the list are worth watching right now, and are likely the biggest reasons most intelligent women can identify with.

Hurry up and watch so you can join the conversation happening in the comments below.

Your Coach,
Adam

P.S. - Speaking of intelligent women, you probably understand an awesome deal when you see it…

Summary -

Ernest Hemingway said:

"An intelligent man is sometimes forced to be drunk to spend time with his fools."

To quote myself, Adam LoDolce said:

"An intelligent woman is sometimes forced to be drunk to sleep with a fool."

If you're smart, dating might even be harder for you than for others.

Here are five reasons why:

Reason #1: You Tend to Over-Analyze Everything

Every other problem you have in life, you'll be able to think through.

Not so with dating.

When it comes to love, it's definitely not that cut and dry.

It's not a formula.

If you find that you are constantly over analyzing every single thing in dating and relationships…

It might be time to just learn how to go with the flow just a little bit more.

Reason #2: Everyone Expects You to Have the Perfect Partner

If you're an overachiever in every area of your life, you can work through anything and make it happen, except for finding a suitable partner.

You might work hard to be a doctor or a lawyer, successful business woman, but you know what?

That doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to have success in your love life.

Have patience and understand that you can be happy now being single and anyone who puts pressure on you to find love is an energy vampire.

They don't understand that you'd rather be single and happy than married and miserable.

Reason #3: The Men You Meet are Usually Less Intelligent Than You

Let's say you're in the top 30th percentile of IQ.

A lot of men will really annoy you.

They will not understand you and they will easily get intimidated by you.

Finding love and happiness is important and maybe you won't end up with someone as smart as you…

... but you'll find someone who's just really compatible with you.

Maybe they are the fun to your serious.

Maybe they are the relaxed to your stress.

Maybe they are the simplicity to your complexity.

Finding love doesn't mean finding another you. It means finding someone who completes you.

Reason #4: You May Have Less Experience With Love

Smart people tend to have spent more time on their achievements than on relationships when they were younger.

Let's get real here.

It's pretty rare to be the valedictorian who's also the prom queen.

Now, when you were younger, you might have spent all of your time going to college, going to grad school, getting your first job, finding a really high paying career.

Other people may have spent time really working on their social skills and building relationships with people.

Now is the time to really make this a priority in your life and put as much energy into learning your social skills, learning how to flirt, learning how to date and getting that experience as you would in other areas of your life.

Reason #5: You Feel Entitled to a Perfect Love Story

Yes, you may have the perfect job, but you might not find the perfect relationship.

Why, because perfection doesn't exist in relationships.

You will find a relationship that is great, that is healthy, that's going to make you so happy in life but, no relationship is perfect.

No man is perfect.

Although you might be a perfectionist in other areas of your life, it's really time to open up and be able to explore other opportunities with people.

Don't be so quick judge when you meet people for the first time.

Realize that the men that you meet may not be as smart as you but they may have other attributes that are really, really important and great.

Loosen up your criteria a little bit and explore other opportunities.

Explore other people.

Don't forget to have a little bit of fun. That's what this is all about.

[magonzo]

You hit the mark on everything. I find men who are more intelligent than me very attractive because I enjoy intelligent conversation and I enjoy learning; but I don't come across very many men who can keep up. I'm also an INTJ (MBTI) so it's been quite a lonely path in dating.

[AzucenahVillarroel]

I noticed that highly smart women find intellectual and career activities exciting and stimulating but sometimes they can't find the same level of thrill on average persons or standard relationships.

[nessa]

Being smart Ts also hard to find Best friends.

[stellapolar]

I usually get bored and lose interest when meeting new people and that's really frustrating. I am a mathematician.

[Crayistaken]

I feel this on a spiritual level lmfao, these were legit all going through my mind.

[SHlove-uskp]

It's never a good idea to find someone to "complete" you. I think a better word (and what I think you meant to say) is "complement"<3

[cristinamarquez]

You've described me on such a deep level, and you don't even know me. That is so amazing, you've helped a lot

[lady]

It is not being smart that one can hardly find someone. But being smart to find the good person.

[MsBeyourbest]

Love this! As a psychologist myself, I find that I struggle with some of the things you listed!! I'm so analytical and "trying to stay ahead" of the other person so that I don't get played that it's hard for me to be "in the moment." Great video!

[LaurensHazelEyes]

single and happy instead of married and miserable!! yes!! my thoughts exact

[LoveStrategies]

Is dating harder because you're a smarty pants? :P

[slumbermaster]

Hit the nail on the head. I'm a 21 year old guy. Currently doing research at a prestigious university trying to uncover the neural mechanisms about autism on the genetic level. Have goals to become a orthodontist. While my life is filled with a ton of school work, I do find time to go out and keep myself in shape with various activities. However, when it comes to friends, this is a department I fail in even though I offer to hang out and attend social occasions. For years I've contemplated if there was something wrong with me but I couldn't find any. This video mentioned intimidation, I never thought people would be intimidated by me because I'm just doing everything necessary to land my future safely and securely while trying to have fun. It's life at the end of the day, people have admitted they find me intimidating because I can function perfectly under stress and nail a ton of tasks without showing any wear and tear, its just conditioning. While others party and have great time, I spent my time researching, reading, and just exploring myself and seeking knowledge. It has landed me in places where I'd never imagine. I do hope I can find someone one day as being up here is fun but it gets awfully quiet and lonely. I have people in my life but they just can't connect with me even when I try to lower myself. It just doesn't work. I guess I'll just stand by and wait for someone to come along while on the meantime, become a orthodontist and keep to myself.


For many intelligent people to find happiness is to seek an environment that provides them the necessary "emotional, mental, and physical" nutrients for them to thrive.

[sarahdiamond]

This video is basically my life. Thank you so much for the video..it came at the right time! I do need to stop over analyzing when it comes to relationships. Dating for a smart woman who is career driven is def hard. Also every man I dated is not as smart as me..which am okay with but sometimes there's a disconnect/misunderstandings in communication because of it.

[jennifercollins]

Have been told so many times I intimidate men. Have tried so many times to not be my true self, but can't and refuse to be so anymore! (too many bad experiences) I now try to hold back at first, but still be true to myself.

[JohnBrown-ugty]

I think I need to start focusing more now on my flirting and relationship skills.

[gqasemi]

Story of my life!I've been always drawn to smart men. Even the kid version of me was hanging out with the most intelligent group of the class.Despite the beauty of these girls, the social skills suck and we all found ourselves single in mid/late 20s jumping from one to another to find perfection.

[annablendermann]

Preach! Everything this guy says is true. Many of the guys I come across are less intelligent than me, which frustrates me because I want good conversation and I enjoy learning. I spent most of my high school and early 20's focused on my college and career, and I now have a kickass job, an apartment, and a dog.. but no stable relationship. I'm nearly 24 and struggling to figure out whether I should just give up or not. This video really put me at ease, thank you :)

[HedwigDesign]

Haaaa so now i don't know if i should laugh or cry. This video is so accurate, i find myself checking every box. Also, i am an ENTJ female, making things even more complicated. I am attracted to alfa-males, but since i am alfa myself that probably isn't the best idea.. oh well, i will just continue building my empire.

[gavinreid]

I had a relationship with a very intelligent analytical woman. She was so analytical that she never laughed at jokes or comedy, instead she tried to work out why it was supposed to be funny. She decided to use a formula to find a husband, focusing on earning potential and malleability.

[amandajane]

i like to call myself a "jack of all trades" im not a smarty pants but i process and over analyze like one and for the first time ever i finally can make sense of my love life from this video. THANK YOU.