Hitting Rock Bottom as a Narcissist

Surviving rock bottom with a narcissist

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[janedoe]

Had to laugh when you said, “your lies don’t even make sense anymore”. It just amazes me how they can alter the truth to fit their narrative, even when it’s preposterous. I even said to her once, “you actually expect me to believe that? That’s bullshit”. This was closer to the end of the relationship. It took me a long time to admit the truth to myself, but now that my eyes are wide open, I can’t unsee it. I know what I know now.

[brandyschroeder]

When a narcissist is a "victim" they appear weak, vulnerable, and look pathetic

[emmamonroe]

Especially not with coverts. It’s everyone’s fault but their own. Saddest shit ever. I think rock bottoms happen over & over again and they chose never to learn. They run into circles time and time again expecting a different result. The results always end in failure. Open your eyes narcs like this guy has! He’s brave, be brave for once in your life-

[rebeccaroman]

This is 💯% right. I didn't know about narcissim before I was discarded & cheated (multiple times) on from a 25 yr marriage. I believed him. He had me convinced everything was my fault. I am healing. The trama bond is no joke. They will never change. Why would they? The only thing wrong with them is you. 🤦‍♀️

[ebonyhector]

I am currently going through this exact situation with my husband of 8 years! Cheating, stealing, living a double life, multiple relationships throughout the marriage, hiding money and bank accounts, slandering me to his friend’s & family, allowing me to provide for almost everything, sending women 100’s of dollars through his Cashapp, and using other women for their money, abusing me physically, punching holes in the walls, screaming and yelling, knocking things over punching the living room window out because he was exposed (found out about all of his women and sending them money) when I defended myself he called the police on me and acted as if he was the victim, we both went to jail, and our children were taken away that night for 5 months (he bailed out the same day, I was left in jail for 5 days) he was living his life while I was locked up for those 5 days. I finally got a hold of my father while in jail and he bailed me out (the same day I was released, that night my husband came to the house with 3 sheriffs to enforce a restraining order on me) I had to leave my own home that night once again that I’ve worked hard for) For two weeks I had to stay in a hotel while I wait for the hearing to dispute the restraining order against me. I now have the children, full/sole custody. I filed for divorce, he then started stalking and following me wanting to work on the marriage, threatening me. Drives past my house everyday all day, poisoned my husky (he died) broke into my home stole our children’s social security cards and birth certificates. Then the following week I would get flowers, teddy bears, & chocolates sent to my home from him, emails with love songs attached, pictures of us and scriptures. Then he would go back to stalking, calling threatening me. He would go from one extreme to another. I finally had cameras installed in my home, got an restraining order, made reports and purchased a Glock. Even after all of that he would still stalk, follow me, drive past all day, call me from blocked numbers, text from other numbers pretending to be his attorney. He even followed me in the grocery store and our 3 year old spotted him and he left (made a police report) on my birthday I was out at a restaurant with a friend, I look up and guess who’s walking through the door and had the audacity to approach my friend 3 times that night, we just got up and left (made a police report) This situation went on from March 5, 2021 up until now. Just two weeks ago I packed my children and my two huskies up in the middle of the night and went to another state, changed my number, blocked him on social media, and blocked his email address. He is now playing the victim telling everyone (all of his friend’s & family)I left him, I put him in jail, I just took everything from him, I ruined his life, how could I do this and he provided for the family (I was the provider) he’s lost everything because of me. He’s telling everyone (all of his friend’s and family) I caused him to lose his job and truck (still has both) and his life is ruined, I put him in jail for no reason (he called the police on me for defending myself, we both ended up going because they saw the holes in the wall from him, my lip was busted from him and everything else he had damaged in the home) He still has his job and his truck and he has 4 other new supplies now. He’s actively trying to find out where the children and I moved to, he calls around, but I haven’t given anyone the new address. I am now seeing a psychologist and psychiatrist, I was diagnosed with PTSD. Now that I’ve moved I am currently starting my new journey and my healing process. I just want to say your channel and “Mentalhealness” channel has helped me tremendously!

[autumnsand]

You mentioned rape. That is the first time I have ever heard someone besides me say that word in regard to a marriage. Thank you. It is so detrimental to the victim....

[katherinekrueger]

My husband ran away to Europe. Abandoned me and the kids. He has seen his kids once in 2 years, but everything is my fault...

[janetplanet]

So true. The narcissist will “run game” until their time is up and exposure become inevitable. That is when they will flip the narrative and play the victim, a new type of “game” they run. It never ends.

[kellyferguson]

The crazy thing, the narc I know has a tattoo that says, I suffered, I learned, I changed. He Never changes he just keeps dumping more abuse on everyone. I just exposed him publicly, he is reeling, but he won’t change he will just find new victims. I’m done but a feel for the next victims.

[patty.teeferraro]

Your platform is brilliant. I’m in separation from my husband and now after 7 months in separation I want him back. I’m definitely in a trauma bond situation. But this video makes it very clear, there is no rock bottom for a narcissist.

[autumnsand]

I've been divorced for 12 years now. I see so much clearer now and I have confidence I've never had before. I come across as strong personality, but I'm clear on what I want or don't and I don't have time for abuse or games. I still have triggers but I'm still in therapy and working through it every day. Very aware of my emotional responses and I'm much more logical than I used to be. I also learned the more intense my anger response, the deeper the pain is.

[paulaharris]

I am married to one and left 3 years ago. He was covert and convinced me I was the problem. Escaping the toxicity has made my life SO much better. Everything you said is true. Biggest liar I've ever known!

[Ivy-uxwq]

That was devastating, every word was spot on. I just sat and cried. 8 years of my life gone. I see there is no hope for him, the man I thought I knew was never real.

[mistybrandt]

You just gave me that last little push to TELL MY STORY. Thank you.

[shortgiraffe]

This is unbelievably accurate. After 20 years, I thought rock bottom would be losing his wife, his property and a daughter refusing to speak to him from the criticism he had of her over the years. Nothing has changed! Still tells me that he doesn’t understand, he is a good guy and if I had just loved him better.
He is a master manipulator!
Thank you Ben! You have helped me rationalise it all in my head and start to focus on my healing and my why in the world!! 🌻

[julietrempe]

It's never their fault. Always someone else. They never take accountability for themselves. my ex boyfriend . And he wonders why things never get better. Round and round the situations go. He just changes people. Girl friends. Friends. Jobs. I've tryed and given up. Trying to heal myself from the negativity and abuse. Creating a better life.

[lizetbosch]

This is THE TRUTH! get out, move away, farrr away!!!

[Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

Actually I think they cause a rock bottom for others and see that as motivation to become a new person. They see devastation they cause into others as more of a attack on them because they have to see others suffering and that makes them guilty or Insecure.

For me it's been exactly a year but, I'm scared to say anything and I'm a writer and a Jewish woman who hid for a year after being discarded into homelessness. I feel lost and scared of them everyday. Everytime I go to a light switch I break down and cry in fear of being scorned just for existing.

[ammj]

The narcissist I knew liked to tell a story of how he hit rock bottom in his PAST. Lots of drugs, alcohol, motor vehicle accidents, trouble with the law, etc. He tells the story pretty good as to garner empathy because he quit alcohol and stopped wrecking cars. But the real story is he switched from alcohol to other drugs he finds acceptable and his behavior towards others remains reckless. I believe he is married to another narcissist and that business is crazy. They are in competition with each other (to the point that I know she goes behind his back to manipulate circumstances/people), she has endangered him with her drug use, she has talked openly about their troubled sex life, she puts down others and him in general within ear shot. I think they triangulate each other and the people they know because they want to see who achieves the empathy card- him or her. This chaos is their "normal". So what the heck is rock bottom for them?

My guess would be losing supply/people, losing money, losing each other, losing material things. But whether or not that changes those types of personalities for the "better" is lost on me. No matter what they say, do, or display on social media- I can never see these people as "happy". There is a ticking time bomb hidden somewhere. It grieves me that this is their reality and how ensnared I was in it.

[lydiabritton]

Yes. Everything you are saying sounds exactly what I’ve been through. It’s sad. You don’t really understand what’s going on until you leave the relationship

Then you can see clearly