Toni Tone and Taiwo: The Reason Why Men AVOID Confident Women

Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong.
Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations.

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00:00 Introduction to the Episode
03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK
05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories
06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles
11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story
16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call
16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?
18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship
20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach
25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship
29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating?
30:55 Shopify Ad
31:54 Huel Ad
33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love
35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact
38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men?
49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together
54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul
56:59 Tinder Ad

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[jess_isblessed]

They seem like they have such a healthy relationship. I pray God blesses their marriage union!!

[feliciawalker]

I love when she woman is a filter itself. Filter out men who Likely have toxic traits & ego issues. When i understood & accepted that, i was ok not being approached

[RiseupNation]

The interviewer is top tier. From tone to wisdom and skill in asking them questions.

[iAmNaomiTamark]

the way she's tearing up speaking about his love for her right in his face I love that !!!! Sooo beautiful ❤

[wendytiwah]

As a first born daughter from a West African background I’m so glad she found her soulmate, I can relate and have been inspired so much from her wisdom. Taiwo is so awoke. She’s a blessing to him and he is for her. A great example of a fruitful relationship. Everything in this footage is a gem. 💎 ❤

[ogbonnaalice]

So far here’s what I learnt:
Invest in yourself. Be that person you wish you to see in others.
There’s nothing as beautiful as knowing you have flaws and others do too but giving yourself the grace to improve and heal is all you need.
We all want to experience the love story of our dreams but the question is, are you really that man or woman in your story?
Don’t go into relationships with unhealed trauma so we can stop damaging healed minds.
And lastly, I love their conflict resolution style, which I find brilliant considering they’ve were into LDR.
I hope we all get to experience the love stories we want and imagine, wholesome and pure.
Thank you Paul, I’m definitely staying glued to this channel!😊

[locksylocs]

"The goal is not to be right.. it's to understand each others perspective" love this conversation

[ifende]

I’ve ALWAYS said I’m Demisexual!! That’s why there’s no pattern to my physical ‘type.’The character of a man is his most attractive trait ❤️

[la-pruenlightenment]

He is definitely emotionally intelligent. 😊

[Nuellalove]

Wherever I see Toni, I stop and listen!!
Infact, I search for new.

[michellewanjiru]

Here for our sis Toni and soon to be brother Taiwo.
Toni really deserves everything good.
She has leveled us up in soo many ways by her content. Personally, as a firstborn daughter she's been soo instrumental!!

[joangordon]

I understand EXACTLY what she is saying....when you find someone who never has you too question their love for is absolutely amazing

[la-pruenlightenment]

As a 1st born daughter, I felt what Toni said. I'm so Happy to see her experience such love😊❤

[ElaineBuchananArt]

Gorgeous couple not just looks, but the more important things on their communication style and appreciation for each other, a lot of Tawo sayings are also very beautiful, wishing them the best 🙌🏾 love wins 👌🏾

[ntombi-yensimbinarrates]

Finally being loved the right way or when your partner is 'out loving' you, it truly feels like an anti-venom coursing through your body🥺🥺🥺. It feels so strange, but so good. May our bodies be flushed with good love. Thank you to chocolate and caramel for sharing themselves with us.

[shereeoats]

This was a really great interview. The questions, the flow, the breakaway segments explaining a word, major shout out to the interviewer, very professional journalism!

[hanifabsadiq]

Toni is highly intellectual. Damn it ❤ Taye is so demure and mindful. What a duo 🥰

[LucyI-lll]

Things I learnt:
8:12 - Your partner can change your attachment style
13:14 - You do not have to be sucessful before looking for a relationship
27:08 - An attractive person is not always a cheater

46:45 - Words of wisdom: Life does not always workout the way it should and sometimes it's for the best

55:04 - Healing from past relationships is the foundation for the next relationships that follow

[Rantitoutloud]

Not me crying at the end. Thank you for such a great conversation. As a Yoruba girly, love to see how our upbringing makes us sound adults.