INTPs and INTJs Are Made for Each Other

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[narasimhavaradhanmadhavan]

An INTJ is a filter. An INTP is a sponge. Hope this is the analogy you've been looking for.
Yours Truly,
An INTP.

[hamzailarzeg]

Here's exactly why we get along. None of us sounds crazy to the other.

[TheHermit]

Here’s the analogy: INTP would spend effort to learn a fictional language like Elvish from the lord of the rings universe despite it having no practical use.

[TUNA.CAN.TOMCAT]

INTP that hates math? Yeah that's me. I'd much rather read the dictionary or an old text book or a tech manual than do math.

[mr.oneill]

An INTP would read the entire paragraph just for the sake of knowing what it says and an INTJ would read until they find the answer of what they want to know.

[murrmightfish]

The INTJ needs the loyalty, patience and love of low-level detail of the INTP. We exist to put INTJs at ease and help them accomplish their goals.
The INTP needs the strategy, discipline and big-picture perspective the INTJ. They exist to snap us out of apathy and actually use our capabilities effectively.
As an INTP, my eyes light up when my INTJ friend has a plan. It really is a synergy where the whole accomplishes more than the sum of the parts would; we know we can bring the best out of each other.
My INTJ friend far surpasses anyone else in ability to motivate me; therefore, she is my priority.

[ds]

Confirmed. Im an INTP. My wife is an INTJ. We've been together since highschool and we are in our 30s now.

[mldiluna]

I'm an INTP with an INTJ husband and we own a business together. Both of us bring different strengths and weaknesses to the table, and we work hard to complement each other. He's my best friend, and we have the best conversations together. Before we married, his brother realized that we were talking for an average of 2-4 hours per day, and became concerned that we might run out of things to talk about. Hasn't happened yet, and he's still my favorite person to spend time with.

[kevsvids]

I'm an extreme INTP, and my wife is an INTJ. She calls me her database. She said my information is usually pre-analyzed and delivered in neater, easier to process packets than a google query. The only problem is that I tend to deliver all the related data I have, along with the information she requested for the purpose of giving that information context. That annoys her for obvious reasons. "I didn't need all that other information!". She just wants a straight answer to her question, but I can't help but dump all the data I have on the subject after giving her the information she asked for.

[stathamspeacoat]

I'm an INTJ with an INTP boyfriend and it's the best. You are spot on when you mention knowing the info is from a good source. I think for INTJ this eliminates some of the necessary skepticism when listening to someone else's "facts" because you know INTP did more than adequate research and is very skeptical themselves. The info has to pass the smell test. Basically, for INTJ this eliminates a step and that's always pleasing. When I'm not feeling well or don't feel like having a conversation but want to be with INTP, I ask him to tell me about whatever he wants for as long as he likes. Once he told me about hurricane category scale for 30 minutes and it was so relaxing.


I know your video isn't about romantic relationships but here is a list anyways:


1. I love that Ne is my blind spot and that when we're looking for solutions, he will come up with this idea that I hadn't even considered because it's kinda wild/out of left field. I'll say, "ok that's kinda crazy but actually I think if we tweak a few things, it's doable."
2. I love how Ti does a lot of the, dare I say, "leg work" and I can just cherry pick the info I need. This sounds lazy but I am a lazy INTJ. Literally there are times I've said, "have you ever looked into and he'll say, "no!" and start googling and I just wait for him to give me a report.
3. Emotionally very low-maintenance but still receptive to issues. Gives us time for more interesting things.
4. He is always game for something new so I drag him all over. He'll give most things a chance.
5. He is fine with me running the show (but I never treat him like his perspective doesn't matter) and is fine that I'm very independent (and sort of a hermit).
6. I can debate him with claws out and no one is weeping or defensive. It's very satisfying. Obviously, we have our rules of engagement but there are very few.
7. Mutual appreciation of whiteboards. We have several throughout the apt.


Thank you for this video. I appreciate the stream of consciousness style breakdown.

[teagieteapot]

As an INTJ who is dating an INTP he absolutely drives me insane. He has a constant need to be right about absolutely anything and I hate it when we argue because I know he’s right, he knows he’s right and he has this look. But I don’t trust anyone more with me and my future than I do him because I know he would never lie to me. So it’s 100% trust.

[RedeemersRoad]

My INTJ husband and I (INTP) have been married for almost 17 years. We met when we were 19 years old and married 8 months later. It’s been quite a journey. My husband is grounding for me and practical in his perspectives and I help him to embrace taking chances and stepping out of his comfort zones. We work VERY well together. We are each other’s favorite company. Our conversations have always been the glue that holds us together because we have always been able to have deep and amazing conversations about such a variety of topics. After 17 years and 7 kids, we still haven’t run out of things to discuss.

[boryman]

INTJ and INTP can really make a ridiculous accomplished pairing. Yet on flip side of the same coin It could also be an Unstoppable force meets an immovable object.

[ThomQuinnHere]

Here is the general 80/20 info rule for each:

INTJ: 80 percent of information is for utility, 20 percent of information is for curiosity.

INTP: 80 percent of information is for curiousity, 20 percent is for utility.

*Individual percentages may vary.

[howzany]

I have always felt that INTJ's have the most use for my information as an INTP myself... they immediately start asking the relevant questions (which makes me less likely to go on a tangent), and then they seem to have something they want out of the information. I also feel INTJ's are more like the "more organized version of myself", like if I had an INTJ to help organize my thoughts I would 100% be more effective. I think maybe INTJ's might feel like INTP's can help broaden their perspectives. INTJ's delve more deeply into topics and get ALL the information about one particular topic while INTP's tend to grasp all the connections between other topics that can have relevance to a topic, and when an INTP talk to an INTJ, the INTJ tends to go "oh, I never thought of this other topic as ever being applicable to my topic, what info do you have on it?" INTP's when we get info from INTJ's we feel like a kid going to school... the INTJ is like the EXPERT of a topic, and is happy to teach if you're willing to learn... and INTP's are Very very willing to learn... and seldom finds people who can actually TEACH them new things. So that is the synergy that I find.

[reecekfn]

As an INTP I really love talking to INTJs. They have dedication in what they want to do and very much want to help everyone around them that want to learn... learn. That’s why I love talking to them I feel like I can just relax and listen to everything they have to say and maybe poke holes or analyze what they are saying. Especially the right INTJ. If you are an INTP like me and want some motivation just become friends with an INTJ. Best time of my learning life was having deep conversations with INTJs!!! Really I recommend.

LMAOO you know your an INTP when you rewrite this 4 times because it sounded better in your head 😂

[danielcronin]

As an INTJ, I find INTPs as the best resource for information because they go into depth, while I just want an abstract for a larger picture. I can figure things out that they can't, and they can know things better than I will ever understand, and I think that is a good balance, especially when we can work together towards a common goal.

[johnhanigosky]

And no there is literally nothing else. Smart respects smart and people who like space like people who give them space

[twentyoneeilishes]

I’m an INTP and my best friend is an INTJ, we’re practically inseparable. INTPs need the discipline, focus, and practicality of INTJs to keep us from completely getting lost in our own worlds, being lazy, or just spending our lives on useless crap. I agree that they’re also an outlet for our crazy thoughts and conspiracies. I think INTJs need us because we can help them relax and learn to just enjoy themselves, we’re a great info source, and we can help them look at things from new perspectives. The only thing is that they don’t always get our jokes, but we have ENTPs for that. ENTPs also make great friends, cuz we share weird facts and also can just hang out and have fun.

[buddhalovechild]

I, an intj, met my wife, an intp, in 1980. She was overweight and cared nothing about how she looked. Yet there was instant attraction. We have survived infedelities, lawsuits, near financial ruin and two children but remain stuck like two poles of a magnet. When confronting a common threat we have always been a frightening and devastating force. There is no one I enjoy spending time with more and the sex remains breathtaking. I doubt either of us will survive the others passing when that time comes.