When He Pulls Away Avoid This Mistake

So you’ve been talking to this guy for a little while. He seems cool, interesting, attractive: the whole package and it seems like you two are really getting along. But then you start to notice that he’s not reaching out to you as often as he used to. It seems like you always have to be the one to text first and you’re seeing him less and less. That’s right...he’s pulling away.

Today I’m going to tell you what to do when a guy pulls away and how to avoid the MASSIVE MISTAKE that so many women make when a guy pulls away that completely ruins their chances with him and drives him away, never to return.

Hi, I’m Amy North, author of The Devotion System and Text Chemistry. My mission here on Youtube is to demystify dating for the average woman and help them create healthier, longer lasting relationships. Subscribe to my channel for a new video every week and stay up to date on dating.

So before we dive into the major mistake that many women make when a guy pulls away, let’s take a step back and talk about what makes guys pull away in the first place. There are actually a few reasons that men will pull away and they can vary greatly depending on how seriously the two of you have been with one another. Let’s start with guys pulling away early on. Like super early on, when the two of you have first met and just barely started talking.

At this early stage, I hate to break it to you, but there’s a good chance that you’re not the only woman that he’s talking to. So it could be that things started progressing with someone else, he’s not noticing there’s chemistry, or he simply forgot.

The biggest reason that men tell me they pull away, or disengage with talking to a girl on a dating app, is that the women just don’t seem interested and don’t make any effort to further the conversation. You may be just trying to play hard to get but there’s a good chance that he just reads this as disinterest.

The other option, and one that is actually pretty common in ANY stage of your relationship, is that he’s just busy. Revolutionary, I know. But oftentimes when men pull away it’s just because they have too much going on to be able to keep in touch with you the way they’d like. This actually ties in big to the mistake we’ll talk about later.

So, moving on to the reasons that guys pull away from talking to you when the two of you have been on a couple dates. These reasons can be more difficult to pin down as they can vary from one guy to another.

I want you to think back to your last date. Did things go well? Was he talking about another? Did it seem like the two of you were hitting it off? If your last date was a bit lackluster and he started pulling away after that, then chances are that that date was the culprit.

Oftentimes men (and women) will avoid being honest with someone they’re dating, when they’re just not feeling it. Unfortunately, there’s not a lot you can do in this situation. If spending time in person didn’t create chemistry, then text messages will rarely do the trick. I’ll tell you what to do instead in just a minute.

If the date went really well but you found him pulling away afterwards, when the two of you started talking, there’s a chance that you either said something that put him off, or, and this is one of the more common reasons guys pull away, you overwhelmed him with too much contact too early in the relationship.

This brings us to the mistake that many women make when a guy pulls away, that actually causes them to lose interest in you EVEN MORE. And that mistake is, continuing to reach out and trying to “fix” things with more conversation.

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[rubendepoortere]

I'm a man, and the best advice I can give you women is: don't overdo 2 things.
1) Don't be clingy (have a life)
2) Don't believe that the more you play hard to get, the better things will be going.

[Miss-zrrv]

This is funny, all advises about what you should do when dating a man. There is no guideline, just be yourself and react how you want. If he is pulling away then it is his problem, he was not meant for you. Two people who are talking or dating should never playing an act or being tactical, if you match each other then everything goes smooth. If not, the two are not a match. If you are playing tactical then you will have problems later or you should stay tactic the whole (relationship). Then you will loose your own identity. Are people that hopeless these days? Dating with a plan😂. OMG, take it or leave it, simple. If you match each other there will be no irritations between the two of you, if so then your characters don't match. And there should be no big irritations from the beginning, imagine if the two get into an relationship later😰 Making dating that difficult, it's just

[parbattiesingh]

Ms North Indi Singh Here You are an amazing Relationship Coach Iknw you really appreciate my comments and you are there to guide me when it comes to MyRelationship Thanks Ms North

[JazzGaming]

This happened to me. We started talking a lot at first and hung out a few times. Then once I started really liking him the messages stopped to where I have to message first every time. As painful as it'll be I'm going to back off completely and whatever happens happens.

[mayab]

what i did when he pulled away is i waited for him to come back of course' but after that i told him that i was a bit dissapointed by his actions, and these things really turn me off. well ladies, that worked like magic he now knows not to repeat and disrespect me again (:

[lucyfunnell]

Thank you so much for your video I find it really helpful and it really helps me out I love to drop by and watch your videos thanks again. Lucy

[ameyct]

The last day we were good but after that he just act like he want to pull away, but I think it could Because of he is in emotional addition. Or it could because of I less text to him,

[summary-oneminute]

You so sweet, and so educated, I love listening to you Coach! 👑❤️

[marymarseglia]

So if I sent too many texts of sorting it out. What do I do ? I'm an alpha female always wanting answers

I already stopped texting but the other texts already had gone to him

you just said to let him go. Ok I'll try

[afrahmegha]

Amy, where is the quiz? Can you help me about it?

[Purrlow]

What happens when...you’ve been on dates with a guy but the chemistry was a bit off for you but his keen on you (saying all the right things etc etc) so giving him the benefit of the doubt and just going with the flow as it isn’t all about chemistry when they take all your boxes otherwise, right?!?!

But now...his stopped messaging. My last message was a “good morning” one and nothing...we both talked about being high value etc etc and I feel we’re both waiting for the other one to reach out as his sent me messages before and I’ve taken a day to get back to him and can’t help but think his testing me ?