How Covert Narcissists Sabotage Their Own Lives

How Covert Narcissists Sabotage Their Own Lives//Most people think of narcissists as confident, successful people. But what happens when a narcissist's false persona starts to crumble? In this video, Rebecca Zung explores the dark side of narcissism and how covert narcissists sabotage their own lives.
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[sunnyday]

It’s so true, they are absolutely obsessed with impressing strangers but will treat their own family members, who love them, like trash.

[Red-Iceberg]

Getting away from the narc in my life was the best decision I ever made in my life.

[scorpiolove]

Biggest red flag to discover a covert : they ratchet up your sympathy/ guilt for " not helping THEM enough" even though they do ZERO for you and you have been BEYOND generous with your love, time and money.

[anneyoung]

"They underestimate you. They overestimate themselves. Allow their ego to be their downfall. As long as you give them rope they will hang themselves."
How we hope this is true-reaping and sowing manifest.

[nezlover]

Narcs truly are already living in their own hell. Under their false self they are self-loathing and miserable.

[mommaboombam]

Let them dig their own grave and don't look back. Move on with your life and stay strong. They sow their own seeds so don't give them any water.

[loneyhearts]

I have been around narcissistic people all my life. I walked away because of their toxic attitudes. I keep moving on and look to better times ahead.

[KVille]

What's sucks is that we find this information and help after the damage is done. The aftermath of their actions is the worst....so painful and destructive.

[sarahpigott]

They will destroy their own lives and anyone else in their path who they blame.

[terrywade]

“Never interrupt the enemy when they’re making a mistake!”


3/7/23 - Now that I think about it, I think Peter O’Toole said it in “The Lion In Winter” when he played King Henry II, Plantagenet.

[stardustsparkles]

I'm so GRATEFUL for so many things. I refused to be a victim. I thrive anyways.Despite being villianized, and bullied, and shit on. I'm still grateful, and thankful and I still dance, smile, and laugh.

[MonicaGunderson]

I have experienced the tantrum after telling a toxic person I no longer wanted to be their friend anymore because they told me they would no longer respect my boundaries, and I was tired of all the emotional, verbal, and gaslighting. They went into a rage, told me they unfriended me first. Ok, whatever. The very next day, they were acting like nothing was wrong, and they are "Ok" with Nope. Did not reply.
If they see me as the "bad person", that is on them. Not My problem. These boots are from walking away from toxic people and situations.

[alexwiseman]

I felt sorry for this person for 50+ years. Then I got sick. Boy, did I get kicked in the face by the emotional abuse.

[elaineeofficial]

Don't tell a narcissist you are leaving or confront them. It's a death sentence.

[PacificNorthwestExtremeVideos]

I agree, they are THE WORST! Like an enemy that pretends to be a friend.

[katecham]

I am moving on!
I so relate to this. I used to ask him why he sabotaged all the time. With lying or deceit or secrets something would always come to the light and then he’s the victim. Apologizing and hoovering. I’ve never experienced anything like this before. The emotional abuse is unbelievable.

[marlenebrennan]

I’m moving on… what is painful for me is that others don’t know or see the narcissism they’ve seen the false self that was presented and I look like the angry bad guy!

[grantaugustyniak]

The saddest part of them is when they get old & they see that everyone around them has moved on in their own lives & they’re still stuck in a particular time period. They look around & see that they absolutely have nothing - no family, friends, money, etc and that others have successfully secured their future. I’ve seen it in many of my friends as time went on. They would rather live as a victim- then come clean about their poor judgement & take responsibility for anything in their life. That my friend is SAD .

[marymelville]

I can’t thank you enough for the help you have given me in understanding the way I’ve been demeaned and demoralised by close family members many years of my life. Due to your advice over the last three years, I was able to listen to this video retrospectively and realise that no contact whatsoever has given me both strength and peace without regret.

[Mac-sbdr]

This is all true. Especially that they are genuinely shocked when you leave them.