DON'T do this after a BREAKUP 😢 | Adam Lane Smith | Attachment Specialist

Why do people in relationships get so desperate after breakups? A lot of people do and you arent alone. Don't do these things after a breakup if you want to move on.

It can be a serious problem that will make you stuck on your ex for YEARS.

So why do we act so desperate following a breakup? In today's video, you'll find out why, and how you can prevent yourself from following down the breakup hole.

Want to learn how to PREVENT a breakup in your relationship? Learn more about how I help people and couples work through relationship and attachment issues with the links below.

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[felixthecat]

This is me 100%. She love bombed me and I got completely addicted. Throughout the toxic relationship I became more and more anxious. (I have never been this anxious in past relationships but this one either created it or magnified it, guess that is what you mean by trauma bond)
I am doing a little better now (10 months later) but still have very bad thoughts sometimes... I hope things will work out for me. Thanks for the videos, they help me see that I am not totally crazy.

[taghazoutmoon]

He lovebombed me only 3 months. Then only breadcrumbs for 3.5 years until I snapped! I held on because i was scared to trigger more depth from breakup. Surprisingly, I feel better 😌

[taghazoutmoon]

I was so exhausted after breakup. Too tired to act desperate

[Claframb]

Adam Lane Smith is my Broseph of Arimathea. The saint of shrinks.

[csstudio]

This is a great explanation of this process! I learned a lot. It's fascinating how much of the breakup is a chemical process. If more people understood this, perhaps it would make breaking up a little easier to tolerate.Thanks!

[nadiaadams]

I realized because of my lack of touch and love from my parents I was lacking. The breakup happened and I’m working through the addiction. I knew I wasn’t really craving the person.

[noor]

You’re brilliant. This makes so much sense. Thank you! Bless youuuu

[BruceJC]

We were only together five months and it’s almost been six since we’ve been apart and I’m still a freakin wreck.

[algudboison]

People have rebounds? I left my ex feeling like I'm not worth enough to even try.

[jihadsamarji]

I broke up with my gf after 6 years of love because we didn't know how to proceed anymore.
I survived 2-3 weeks normally but then I became so desperate to come back. I didn't workout because she was already with another man since day one.
I got shattered and became so needy for her attention and never let go of asking to come back. but eventually i made a stupid decision to propose to her and she said no. We could have been best friends but i sabotaged my chances. Things can go very wrong if you don't have experience with heartbreak.

[billyfred]

my mentor did marriage encounter retreats

[jamesrenslow]

How do I find the, How to improve your communication in 9 minutes.

[johnpachkoski]

Adam, i dont know what its like to have attachment issues, but i think another family member does have them, but doesnt want to be open about talking and telling about her attachment issues, is there any difference between having attachment issues, and just being similiar to 'being young and believing in self negativity because you feel like you cant/havent accomplished much in life because you're not aware that you can do much more than you're capable of' or that you just dont have a reason to like yourself and you're thinking about times when you did something you didnt like alot of your time because you dont have lots of positive self past experiences?
How do you know the difference from how people tell you in their behaviors or the way they say they see themselves? I sent her your book, but i dont know what to do outside of that besides what i can compare on the surface when i dont know the difference myself.

[ahmedashkano]

Since avoidants need trust, in case they kinda broke up, we acted almost clingy, but both kept in weird nice casual texting, and then we do no contact (which is manipulation), are we jeopardizing a reconciliation?

Should we try more mature transparency at risk of getting more hurt with shady avoident answer or gaslighting ?