You Don’t Deserve What You Want | Stoic Philosophy

Society constantly reinforces this belief, convincing us that life owes us many things. When we don’t get what we want, we become outraged, offended, and blame others for our misery. Fortunately, the ancient Stoics provide clarity, effectively debunking most (if not all) modern forms of entitlement.

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00:00 - Intro
03:25 - You’re not entitled to what isn’t yours
06:23 - The wealthy Roman senator
09:10 - Enjoying the minimum
12:17 - Limbs of one body

[maryanngarcia]

In the last few years, I’ve lost everything. Husband, house, furnishings, jewelry etc. etc. Now I’m slowly dying of cancer, and realize that absolutely nothing is forever, just borrowed. All that matters these days is giving and receiving kindness.

[Eternal.Stoics]

*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson

[ReynaSingh]

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus

[thatguy]

nobody deserves anything we are born with nothing and we leave with nothing.

[MustafaKulle]

I remember Slavoj Zizek saying something like this; "There are two tragedies in life, those who don't get what they want, and those who get what they want."

[yank]

Everytime I watch your videos. I get to realise how much work I need to do in my unconscious. Thank you

[YourThoughts.]

“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realise how unnecessary many things are. We’ve been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.”
- Seneca

[kiaram]

I have always knew this as a notion. Until the earthquake hit to where i used to live in Turkey. The next two days was a shock to me, seeing it crystal clear that this life-my life was never mine. The fleeting nature of everything i have, my friends, my job, my students, my school, my home, the ground i put my foot on to. That anything can happen any time. Yes we survived,   but there is no guarantee something else wont happen tomorrow and take everything else that is left. You cant possibly remain in this mindset more than 2 days, then you cant live. We have to do both. Which sounds impossible to me. Now i am living as if i will not die someday. But the understanding of certain things remained. For example i always thought that i will regret for not going to different places for not being brave, for not being outgoing etc when i am in the deathbed at the end of my life or something. But i never thought of those things. I was suffering mostly when i thought about the hearts i ve broken. For the times i couldnt hold myself and got angry at my students, even yelled at them sometimes. Saying mean things to the people i love just because i was depressed or tired. The very clear fact that i cant take any of it back. And everything is buried under ground, there is nothing to do anymore. I made peace with that. Because there is nothing to do except applying the lessons i learned on the future lies ahead of us. I hope you guys can grasp it without actually living it. Thank you einzelganger :)

[Jhawk_k]

After nearly 6 years of feeling entitled to not being single, letting go of that concept is actually proving to be more productive than chasing the "perfect partner". Thanks for the reminder that our partners will almost definitely not check all the boxes. We settle constantly in life in so many ways, and it is part of joy

[MtnGirll]

I've practiced and studied religion my whole life. It has always fascinated me. In my opinion Stoic philosophy is the most meaningful and useful for the modern era and our clearly terrifying future times. It's just perfection.

[liafuentes]

I've met many people who feel entitled to people or things without deserving them. You should be careful, there is an inmense greed and hunger in the world. Being away from attachments is a blessing!

[CamoGuy]

I am often overwhelmed by my emotions, but your videos have helped me through the years to deal with them appropriately. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the stoics.

[danielschmidt]

Going throughone of the hardest years of my life, brain tumor, and now my fiancee of 5 years going behind my back even during my surgery. This is so true, everyone eventually leaves you no matter the reason.

[johngeiger]

Makes a lot of sense. Do make choices, do put your effort but remember that nature is alive like an organism and since we are part of nature it helps us to learn to dance to its motion.

[BNJMN]

It always drove me crazy when I went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and people told me "You deserve a good life." I knew this wasn't true. The world owes us nothing. Not even if we are good people that make good decisions.

[madnessbydesignVria]

"Everything in this world is borrowed." says it all. Thank you for this... :)

[michaelshorten]

I needed this lesson today. Was feeling jealous and hurt and sensitive. this really helped put life in perspective

[wernerbuitendag]

Just remember if there is for example a narcissist in your life causing you pain and suffering being with toxic people and getting rid of them isn't entitlement it is taking control of what is in your control and that is by getting the toxic out of your life as much as you can.

[ttocselbag]

For me, stoicism is the only method I have found that allows me to be at peace and satisfied with my life. Chasing wants, and “I deserves” is counter productive.

[Clearlight]

Awesome presentation, thank you! I like the following story, which I believe is attributed to the Jewish tradition, but could apply in any tradition: a man went to see a Holy man for advice. While he was there in the small lodging of the wise teacher, he couldn't stop thinking about the fact that the room was almost completely bare. Eventually he blurted out: "Where are all your things? Your furniture, your possessions?"
The Holy man replied, 'Well, where are yours?' .. the man responded: 'But I am just a guest here, I'm only here for a short time.' .. the wise man said, "I am too."