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[BunnyTheCat]

Absolutely!! Thank you for describing it so well it’s something that’s literally part of us so ignoring it or “not seeing it” is absolutely unhelpful. Respecting us and our disabilities is the way to go because it’s not like we *chose* this way of life it’s just what we are!!! Our bodies are all vessels for our souls and yours is beautiful 🥰

[livewellwitheds]

this is an amazing explanation. my disability is a huge part of my life, my past, my future etc so it is not really possible to completely separate myself and my disability. ❤ it can be a hard balance of wanting people to see more about me than my disability, and wanting people in my life to actually acknowledge my disability and the impact it has on me

[gappylulu]

You explained this so well. My parents still whisper ‘disabled’ as if it’s a bad word. 20+ years of this. It’s not what defines me but it is an important part of me and I wouldn’t be me without it.

[autismworldtravel]

Well said. I always hated, “I don’t see color.”

[liz]

Love it!

Reminds me of Paul & Matthew, and how Paul’s blindness is something that *adds* to their relationship because of Matthew’s fondness for pranks, and how having a blind husband opened up (healthy!) prank opportunities.

[salem-]

This is such a good explanation. Reducing somebody to their disability is bad, but so is ignoring it. We are shaped by our experiences and they change us. It’s impossible to seperate somebody into their parts, being apart of someone’s life means taking and knowing all of them

[x.s]

"i dont say disabled. Its differently abled"
Then ask me to "act normal" when i stim Because im autistic 😂

Im just disabled please. 😂

[jannahmuhammed]

I have an invisible disability which I feel the same way about, the way you worded it, captured exactly how I feel ☺️

[clownshrooms]

EXACTLY. without my chronic pain, chronic illness, adhd, & autism, I wouldn't be the same person. Like, my disabilities aren't as visible (unless I'm using a cane), but they are so central to who I have become as a person.

[mcvenne]

When people tell me that I pass as a normal person, it bugs me so much. I'm autistic. I own it. It's an integral part of me. I work hard to adapt to society, not to become someone else or to be "cured". Not being me is not a compliment. Being autistic is not something to get rid of. It's just one of the many parts of me.

[May_]

exactly!!!! thank you. im chronically ill and throughout my life I've learnt that the more i accept it, assume my pain, disabilities, NOT ignore it, and the more proud i own that title, the more healthy I'll feel.

[yvonnemccullaghward]

This is like me when I first went to ‘the States’ in early 90s and had to learn NOT to be colourblind. I am now disabled and have learned again just what this woman is explaining. Life is full of lessons. We all think we have no prejudices I guess!!Thanks Cassidy, live your best life x

[runa_]

pretending someone doesnt have a disability can be so disrespectful imo. for a lot of us, its a part of us we cant just IGNORE, and it affects our day to day life without question. if my so just IGNORED it and never even asked about it/how to properly act just screams fake to me. you cannot ignore it forever just to seem like a good person, if we are going to be partners, my disability will be there too

[Ice-Apostle]

So true, although some people think its good to ignore it and see just the person, it has history and is apart of what makes them who they are. Also your dog is so cute, they look like my dog, but hes a great dane so hes A LOT bigger

[Lja]

Just like " I don't see color" foolish statement.
You have expressed this very well. Tgank you

[nivilla]

Beautifully said. I experiences daily seizures. Its frustrating when folks want to pretend that I don't. I need accomindations in order to be independent despite very dehabilitating symptoms. We all need our partners to see our strengths and weaknesses, jncluding our disabilities :)

[purplelilly]

Why is this so comforting and reassuring to watch? It gives hope that someone can actually love your soul.

[emilywalkerawesome]

I love this and I agree, this is exactly how I feel about mine and others.

[DynamicWhispers]

This reminds me of "love is color blind" as if you can love them out of a history of discrimination. I totally agree, to ignore my blackness is to ignore important context about me as a person. It's not all of me but we don't have to pretend it doesn't matter. What they are saying is, someone who has a disability is lovable to the degree their disability is able to be overlooked/has been normalized. Which is an unfair standard and the opposite of what they might be intending to say.

[PheobeKate-]

I commend you on the respectful and beautiful way that you chose to address this!!!

I learned something today, thank you.