Comfort is ruining your life. Here's how to get it back.

A video about complacency, overcoming it, and not dying with regrets - featuring The Cup List.

Enjoy :)

[struthless]

I just wanna add!! My mum is making a quick recovery - she's gone from wheelchair to walking stick, and her aim is to be able to dance at our wedding :)

[LantraAntero]

Thinking about my "potential" gives me axienty. I don't want to think about huge goals, I want to feel rested for once. I want to learn how to rest without feeling guilty about not doing something "productive". I want to learn how to enjoy life. I don't want to base my selfworth on how much I produce or achived.

Ex-gifted kid.

[cielline]

Honestly, I was just getting all comfortable and then this popped up.

[anakrajinovic]

I think it's also important to recognize that sometimes what is considered "full potential" is what society normalizes as being what everyone should want. For example, complacency about the wedding could also be a sign you want a smaller, more intimate, wedding. But it's often hard to draw strict lines between these two notions. Trust me, I had a smaller wedding and it turned out to have all the problems of a big wedding!

[jesssvalentine]

“I don’t have a chronic illness” THANK YOU SO IMPORTANT. The Casey heist at lifestyle made me feel so bad about myself. This disclaimer means a lot more than you might think

[Rina]

I love your disclaimer about the fact that you don't have kids, or a chronic illness or aren't taking care of someone. So many people give generalised solutions forgetting all the different struggles and issues people could be dealing with and making them feel even worse for not being able to reach that one-size-fits-all solution. 👏

[whatwhale]

This dude is just so relatable. I feel like hes a male version of future- me explaining how to get my shit together

[morganprynne]

I really love how you mention other life circumstances like chronic illness. As a lifetime chronic ill person, I really appreciate you taking the time to mention that. We are all able to achieve things, we just take a bit longer and might require more help or flexibility, depending on our particular situation. Awesome work on the channel.

[Fiyadara]

I just wanted to say, I found your videos after typing in "how to stop self sabotaging." Firstly, your energy and personality is incredibly relatable and comforting. Secondly, Your content is refreshingly valuable and helpful. I literally found you like an hour ago and already watched several of your videos. I was experiencing a moment of complete frustration and dissatisfaction of my life that made me feel like I was in a deep dark hole. Your videos are like the rope being thrown down to help me climb out. I know, corny. But thank you. Keep doing what you're doing.

[splitpeas]

I’m not sure achievements mean that much on your deathbed. Most of the time people regret not doing things that are comfortable or spending time with people they care about. I know of a miserable heart surgeon whose the head of an entire ICU and he could care less about anyone dying anymore. I bet he’s going to the grave with regret. It is meaningless until you find self love. Achieving goals doesn’t always equal self love. Accept yourself now and you will die fulfilled. Much love and wishes of healing to those who need it.

[nikolatotev]

The best part of the video for me was the disclaimer. I think that it is one of the most important parts! It takes into account the situation someone is in.

[TokyoBlue]

This honestly could be a TED talk. I like the “easy path = hard life, hard path = easy life” part. That really is making me think about where I’m taking the easy path too much in my own life (staying at my boring job, not working hard enough to get in shape, etc.)

[MxMTechno]

You are like the older brother everbody needs.Honest and real people are rare these days.

[benwrex]

I feel like I'm actually working on living up to my potential and it feels great. I meditate and journal, and I've started exercising. I'm sober now. I'm a cartoonist, and I'm working on a comic that's actually being published. I'm in school. I have plans for the future. I'm disabled and have mental health problems so it's been an uphill battle and I know it's not always gonna be easy, but I feel like I'm actually working on things in a way that will make future me happy.

[mirandacraig]

The fact that you make the disclaimer about your capacity and that we might not all be able to do this is so self-aware and just shows how much you understand how human beings work. Thank you so much for your content.

[GOPGOP]

I have a small trick to help overcome that initial bump a lot of us experience when overcoming complacency. I call it "No Option." When you find it hard to do that thing you want or need to do, imagine a worst case scenario of you not doing that thing. Once you have the worst case scenario, tell yourself that "this is not an option" and immediately do it. I've been doing it for a couple of months now and it has been a lot easier to get things done. Give it a try!

[TinHeart]

I love all this advice but what I love even more is that you started out acknowledging that some people will have different barriers/obstacles to action and that's okay! So much "live your best life" advice is given in the tone of "all those things stopping you are just excuses!!" Which is so tone-deaf to anyone with differing life circumstances that it just sours the whole concept. I like how you said "there's nothing wrong with you" because little things like that really do make the difference.

[juliafcmc]

Honestly, If you wrote a self help book I’d live by it

[Katalystic]

Ahah, as someone with ADHD I’m constantly looking for tutorials on life, this is in my top 3 and I’ve been seeking life tutorials for almost a decade!

[saiyaness]

I actually avoided watching this video for ages because I KNEW it would be about me and I didn't want to deal...

It wasn't as bad as I thought. It was helpful. Thank you.