5 Things Christians Need to Stop Saying

We mean well. But sometimes the things we say as Christians are just wrong.

They're theologically inaccurate.
They're not found anywhere in the Bible.
And sometimes, they're unwittingly insensitive.

This week, learn 5 things that Christians need to stop saying - and in some cases, what to stay instead.

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[nanaable]

I don't like those sweet messages on FB that end by saying "if you love Jesus you'll share this" or "if your not ashamed". I find those offensive even if I like the saying or message.

[winnie]

Perhaps modify “I’ll pray for you” to “can we pray together right now?” And the saying, “let me know if I can ever help you”…how about, what day this week can I bring you dinner? can I watch your children during your next doctor apptmt? I would love to drive you to your next apptmt…I’m headed to the grocery this afternoon, please text me a list of things I can get for you, and I will drop them by your home…turn that vague “let me know if I can ever help” to actual, practical ways to help.

[neurocadence]

Another is "God never gives you more than you can bear". I'll tell you truthfully I have been totally broken many times. Once was just recently when someone I grew up with, my very best friend and family member, died suddenly. I was shattered. I have days I feel I will collapse from the grief. I'm not bearing it because there is one set of footprints in the sand. I'm being carried right now.

[Pdblee]

When on Facebook someone has lost a family member and everyone puts these 🙏🏻 and says I’ll pray for you, I instead will write out my prayer for them to read. I enjoyed your video today.

[Pfrazier]

I have made it a practice to pray when they ask, In person or on the phone, if at all possible. Then they know I prayed for them. Not only that, but it helps keep it in your mind to do it later. Works for me, I'm almost 79. That's saying something.
Love your insights. I am unable to sit in church. I get a lot of feeding on the internet, and it still gives me a chance to witness, for which I am grateful.

[mystique]

Our premature baby boy only lived 32 hours and people told us he was to good for this world. Thinking back now, My question is, how bad is my other son cause he is now 19 years old? We really have to be careful with our choice of words

[GeorgeJohnsonxainem]

How about: "the spirit told me..." As a mechanism to enhance the personal credibility of a person's own thoughts...

[lynda]

Thanks Brandon for reminding me to stop saying, "I'll pray for you, " unless I mean it.
Godbless you Brother. 🙏💜

[raysperle]

I agree with your comments on the 5 things Christians shouldn't say. Our responses to a situation should be heartfelt and sincere, that's what Jesus teaches us to do.

[johannapops]

Yes!! Thank you for saying it. The one I would add is the “god told me to” about something like breaking up with someone. Better just to own your free choice and not use God as an excuse. It only makes the other person not trust you and dislike God.

[suetrublu]

This is so good Brandon! I'm rewatching some of your videos today as I'm without a parish right now due to all the political polarization and me supposedly not being a "real" Christian if I don't go agree with their views Yet I still earnestly desire to pray and be with other brothers and sisters. Thanks for offering such godly counsel this stubborn would be grandma can trust!

I too am convicted of the sin of promising to pray for others and then not. Realizing that I do this a lot but have not yet made the shift today I make a new commitment: to stop what I am doing and pray immediately for someone when I say I will. So that first person is you! So here goes:

Thank you Father for gentle, faithful men of God like Brandon whose love for you and for others shines through like a beacon into my weary soul! Thank you SO MUCH for making Brandon and for creating a way for him to get these vital messages out to us Christians who do not feel welcome at in person services. Help ALL of us who know and love you find a way to share the Gospel with this sick and broken world! Help me do this too Lord!

Lord, please also strengthen Brandon personally and give him the material and emotional support he surely needs to continue this great work. May he strongly feel your presence with him today.

I ask for this in Jesus's precious name AMEN.

[tracykarol]

Thank you so much for including “everything happens for a reason.” That is so untrue. God gave us free will. So if someone murders your loved one (this happened to me), God had nothing to do with it. That person chose to do evil. I believe God was watching and weeping for that event. But like a parent, He let us go out into the world with our own will. What we choose to do with it sets in motion good and bad events. So I never blamed God or was angry with God when my niece was so brutally murdered. I knew exactly who to blame. The people who did it, and the evil one who influenced them because they turned away from God. Free will is a wonderful gift. We shouldn’t blame God for what happens because of it.

[pattynoel]

When my life was going thru a painful time full of anguish and people would tell me "God won't give you any more than you can handle." This would make me feel that I was lacking in some way. I found no solice in those words. It is true that I was lacking in my understanding, I was being broken down so that I could finaly see that I had no control of the things that happened and that trusting in Gods will was the only reasonable option.

[jonikellyl.m.t.]

A while back I was convicted not to say, I’ll pray for you, if I wasn’t prepared to pray right then. I have since made it a habit to just offer a prayer or ask permission to pray for someone right when I see the need.
I cringe when I hear of a person who has died being referred to as an Angel or that they just gained their wings. We never were and never will be angels.
Your other points are spot on!

[pilargracia]

You are a good teacher of His Word. May the Lord bless you even more!!

[jonna-licatrini]

I dislike people saying that your loved ones are looking down on heaven or to talk to your deceased loved ones they're looking down on you. The Bible states that it's only God Alone who can hear our prayers. The Bible also states that our loved ones, and ourselves included, don't enter Heaven until the last day. I completely agree with so much of what you said especially the fact that we don't become Angels. Angels were created at the beginning of time. I love your videos and I share them with so many people

[stephenspacagna]

It makes me alarmed when someone says, " we now come into the presence of God, " God is always present and with us.

[ecysmith]

When I lost my beloved husband to cancer, many well-meaning people would say to me that “he is in a better place, now”, I disagreed with them, in my mind, for his “better place” for David to be was with me, but I understood that it is very awkward to say one’s felling when death is involved. In such case, I believe that it is more natural and comforting to hear “I do not know what to say, in such painful moment for you”.

[africanconservative]

That’s why I say to believers or not “I prayed for you & added you to my prayer list”. That way, I didn’t lie to myself or other person bout doing later & more importantly there’s always half a smile or full given back to me that this guy won’t forget me!!💯

[paulai]

Totally agree with you, Brandon. I also do not like the phrase " have you accepted Christ as your personal savior? I think it makes people feel judged. Your relationship with Jesus is not, I believe, to be judged by anyone.