PIES: The 4 Ways To Attract Your Spouse

Is everything you thought about attraction wrong?

Tired of feeling like you're just not attracting your spouse anymore? You're not alone. Most people think attraction is just about physical appearance, but there's so much more to it!

Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares a powerful secret that can transform your relationship. It's all about the PIES of Attraction: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual.

In this video, you'll discover:

Why physical attraction is just one piece of the puzzle (and it's not the biggest one!)
How to connect with your spouse on a deeper level
The surprising way to make yourself more attractive (without even trying!)
A real-life story of how one woman saved her marriage using the PIES method

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0:00 Introduction
0:03 4 WAYS TO ATTRACT YOUR SPOUSE
1:19 THERE IS A PROCESS TO FALLING IN LOVE
2:27 PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
2:38 INTELLECTUAL ATTRACTION
4:11 SPIRITUAL ATTRACTION
4:54 IT COMES BACK TO EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION
8:30 YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOU
9:05 BECOME THE BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE
11:23 ART OF ATTRACTION (PIES) BOOTCAMP (LINK IN DESCRIPTION)
14:29 KEEP WORKING ON YOU

[mavishenator]

Good to see that people value the sacred constitution of marriage and are willing to put efforts to make it work. I respect and pray for everyone trying. I feel marriage is a responsibility and a purification one has to go through. Its a journey of lifetimes

[bugsinourpockets]

My husband told me about a month ago that he fell out of love with me. I have been working on myself since. Ive been going to therapy and been working on my physical and emotional healing already. I'm just glad I am on the right track for myself.

[mminniear]

I have noticed that working out is a good start and gets you on the track to focus on doing things that are good for you. Which is necessary to be happy in any relationship

[AbelSFR]

This video should be required to view before a divorce or before marriage.

[veemafunda]

Thank you for this video. I decided to focus on myself and pray for myself my marriage. I am so exhausted to be honest but I still want to save my marriage.

[DeveronFFN]

Hands down one of the best marriage videos out there.

My summary:
"Work on being a healthier you (in all areas) and and work on being emotionally safe towards them."

That will definitely bring healing to the one that does it, and create the best opportunity for healing between partners.

[HMT-tfld]

I believe this is something every person in a relationship should watch. Change yourself first to see the change you want in others. Sooo good! ❤️

[monalissakaluwa]

I came across this at the right time when I am feeling like my relationship is falling apart, i need to adopt the PIES strategy

[daveleighton]

My wife has met someone on line and she tells me that there is an unbelievable emotional attraction. She has fallen in love with him, even though she hasn't met him. So much so, that she wants out of our marriage to be with him. He has no money and is not good looking, but the emotional connection with him has destroyed my marriage of 35 years. I can't compete with that. It destroyed me.

[forte]

This is amazing. Been married for 32 years. Personal change. Very important stuff to help me hit the reset button

[lindalewis]

This hits home for me. Thank you for the valuable information. I have forgotten how important the PIES are and my marriage has faltered after 39 years. I took it and him for granted.

[SandraFernandes]

This spoke to me- thank you for sharing your story- I am currently in a separation and I noticed I was just sitting around waiting for my spouse to ask to see me or even come back and I stopped doing for me. Now I plan to do things I love and date me.

[solorizzy]

Your story with your husband is exactly what I am going through right now. The only thing is, it's too late. He is with the other woman. However this video taught me that I don't do anything for myself. I will start to do the Pies for myself. For my next relationship, but most importantly for myself

[mylesleggette]

My wife HATES it when I work on my PIES and improve myself. Seeing me improving myself makes her feel bad about continuing to do nothing. Seeing me enjoy my hobbies makes her envious that she has no interests she's motivated to pursue. Seeing me do things for myself makes her upset that I am not doing things for her.

The great thing though, is that when I am doing what I want to feel good about myself, I am not bothered by her negativity!

[nintendo]

When I got home I would sit in my car down the street for 30 minutes and meditate before ever walking in. Because I am also an introvert. Perhaps there's a couple going to work out, play a sport, going walking, anything physical and NOT talking will improve that anxiety.

[brightpage]

If I'm taking care of me, maturing, learning, feeling excited about life and it's opportunities, then he's bound to be re-attracted or perhaps it will become clear that this match has outgrown one another and become time to find a new one - maybe even with myself. Find a refreshing role in my own life as the one I champion and root for.

[TheNurulAmeera]

I appreciate the idea behind working on PIES. Its true but realistically. I think it all comes down to the hearts and its intentions. Realistically too, what if either one of us is mentally ill, sickly and is dependant on the other? Will they only love us when we are at our best? What about in times of sickness and in times of bad? We come into marriage to also love our spouses even in inconvenience. Thats true love.

[ashleyhamilton]

I think this is the best video and guidance ive ever seen. And the first time ive felt any hope in my situation at all. Thank you so much.

[Kickerworks]

Discovering this is exactly what I need to be doing. I've come to terms with things I did in our relationship and know what needs changed. I have a vision of our future if my wife would reconsider. I have learned two emotions that make me tetter-totter. I've never been able to see what these emotions are doing to me and others before. I'm sad and feel defeated with no hope and I also see there is hope in myself to be stronger. I love my wife and want it to work out but also learning to accept it not working out. I don't want to be in a dark place again. My wife also did things and she confessed infedelity. The situation on that end I am forgiving. But I don't want to be brought down all the time for the things that I only did. I just need to be the real me like I use to be.

[regiz]

Shift focus is paramount I changed my life as well being married to someone with NPD... for me the question is: WHAT DO YOU WANT?