How Victorian Men Were Supposed To Treat A Lady

[Lightice]

Related to this, Victorian maidservants had to stop what they were doing and leave the room if the man of the house entered. The reason for this was that it was extremely impolite for a gentleman not to help a woman with her tasks, but it was also entirely beneath a gentleman to help a servant with their duties. To eliminate the contradiction, the servant had to leave the situation altogether.

[riskigost]

The walking in the same direction thing explains a lot about movies I've seen that take place during that time, always thought the women were either in a hurry or being rude lol

[niriop]

“NEVER turn your bum to her!”

But it’s the money-maker…

[sparklefairykitten]

I found an old etiquette book in my grandmother's house that said, among other things, that its inappropriate to smoke in someone's hospital room "unless the patient is also smoking"

[Gingersnap]

My husband, born in 1979, started out a roadside walker when we first started dating, but I'm deaf in my left ear, which means anytime traffic was on the left, I had a hard time holding a conversation with him. Somewhere along the way we got it sorted that he's always on my right side now, but it was a habit he had to intentionally break.

[robertromanul]

The "having to walk with someone so you don't stall them if you simply want to chat" rule would honestly bring society to a higher level if it was considered and applied more vastly today

[RachelRhiarti]

Given the length of skirts, I hope the manual also made clear to ensure the cigar was fully extinguished?!

[blinddeadmcjones]

Walking in the direction of someone you want to talk to instead of stopping them is a great idea

[zygmuntthecacaokakistocrat]

When visiting a prostitute (which a lot of them did), it was customary to recommend her to friends, as a form of gratuity.

[friendoffrancis]

All those poor Victorian woman, hoping to see some bum but getting none

[Xosidhe]

Only help a lady you don’t know into her carriage, but if you already know her, sip your tea and think “Good luck with that, Charlotte.”

[MarfTheUnbearable]

"Never turn your bum to a lady" makes perfect sense. Always point the barrel away from people, even when you're reasonably certain it isn't loaded.

[zamuy]

That second one is VERY reasonable, you're the one who wanted to talk, don't delay her

[DocAcher]

The "walk next to the street so she doesn't get splashed" one makes sense because think about how hard it'd be to wash a big gown back in the day vs some trousers

[kaamn]

throwing my juul in the nearest bush to show respect when the homie's shawty drops by

[AvatarPrimus]

In Mexico, "The Manual of Urbanity and Good Manners" popularly known as "Carreño's Manual" is still sold and is still in use, written by the Venezuelan ambassador Manuel Antonio Carreño in 1853. The book contains lessons and advice on how people should behave in public and private places, such as home, family, school and work, hygiene tips and etiquette.

[nathanlane]

I walk on the side closest to the road when I'm with my wife an kids.

I didn't even notice I did it till my wife pointed it out, she said it was nice.

[spooky]

The "walk next to the street" thing, my grandfather taught me that one, who knew a hispanic man was so well versed in victorian etiquette

[zerdda]

My dad always walked on the street side. I can just picture him quietly crossing behind my mom to walk on that side of the sidewalk. I found it charming.

[hhattingh]

We were taught that when a lady entered a room the first time or left you got up from your chair. Irrespective of who she was or is to you.