My Brother-in-Law Is in Love With Me

On today’s episode, we hear about:
• A woman who thinks her sister’s husband is in love with her
• A man who suffered severe heatstroke, disrupting the career plans he moved his family for
• A woman who doesn’t feel safe in her home after a recent break-in

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[Loosybaboosy]

Caller one: I was in a relationship where I wasn't trusted once. In order to show him he had nothing to worry about I slowly, unknowingly, cut off all my friends one by one until I had none left. Then I realised my life was totally controlled by him and I didn't have anyone left I could talk to about how to safely get out. AND he wasn't a "bad person". Be warned!!!! Do not let him control who you hang out with or when.

[roseesthetic]

In the first story from what I’ve seen in many situations either the husband is insecure or he’s cheating himself and projecting.

[ExpressionBunny]

"Glory doesn't mean everything works out in the end."

A moment of appreciation for the light bulb this turned on in my head...

[cathyh]

1st caller - this was also my situation, him imagining other men attracted to me who are not, and that led to false baseless claims that I 'must be' cheating on him because of HIS feelings of paranoia. He is now using that as an excuse for accusing the next wife along with imagining other men always after her. I found the drawer full of empty condom wrappers in a bedside table when I went to move out and they were definitely not used with me.

[thedavesiknow]

23:18 I am so glad to hear you say this john. It's easy as a person of a faith to not take personal responsibility and understand that life isn't always going to be good and you have to carve your own path.

[joshrees]

Caller 3. First I’m really sorry. Get a dog. It won’t solve what you’re experiencing and working through but for me there is a sense of comfort having a dog in your home.

[mewgiah]

The husband needs to get rid of that jealousy quick or it will push the wife away. I’m happily married 11 now but once had a few months years back where our relationship wasn’t the best.

I wasn’t jealous like this guy. It was more like I was being immature and didn’t give her the full attention she needed. I wasn’t present fully all the time. Even tho our issues only lasted a season it was enough that I started to see how much it was impacting my relationship

She still loved me and was loyal. But I could see it in her eyes the sadness and disappointment. Now multiply that across many years and you can see how a spouse could fall out of love with you.

I love my wife to death so i listened and fixed the problem. Things have never been better. In fact there is more love and closeness over the last 7 years because we fixed how we communicate.

So if this man truly loves his wife he needs to get his act together. I mean at least the caller isn’t resentful and genuinely wants to help him get better.

[ivnehaas]

Caller 3, I had a home invasion where I ended up tied up in my house while the criminal took my husband hostage to the nearest atm. We both had a lot of trauma that got resolved over time, but that meant buying another house and moving out within 2 months. Away with the house went a lot of triggers too, so we started to heal.
Also, "reclaiming your home" did wonders for me. When I was ready I walked in reclaiming a specific room of my house like a momma bear defending her cub. "It's mine and Im taking it back", I said to myself. I felt better.

[LisaLisa-wmvr]

Hi all. Cassie from Denver needs a dog. Having a dog provides so much. Therapy, companionship, security, and love to name a few.

[pburt]

Maybe her husband is cheating and he is deflecting it on her

[helianabanes]

Heat stroke is seriously dangerous condition that needs medical intevention, and can be life threatening. Rabdo is, too, not to mention the pain one goes through as a result of it...that is literally NIGHTMARE fodder for me. I feel super sympathertic to this caller. So traumatic, too!

[ncdougherty]

My heart goes out to that third caller. I had so much trauma from a break-in myself a few years ago. A lot of therapy, inner reflection, and processing later I feel better but it took so much work.

[Dixie]

Let’s stop misusing “paranoid;” paranoid is irrational; fear of a break-in, and more so after it’s happened, is not. 🙏❤️

[prisfiles]

4 years in Tucson taught me to respect “dry heat”. Coming from Central TX, you couldn’t believe how comfortable 100+ degrees in super-low humidity is! BUT it’ll kill you quicker bc all your moisture is wicked out of your body in no time as your sweat evaporates almost immediately.

[nvk]

There’s a beautiful phrase I recently heard: it’s not about making the right choices, it’s about making the choices right

[lovescoobysnack]

My wife is a high school math teacher, and she is ready for education to be about teaching and learning again. The majority of the work she is required to do by administration has nothing to do with helping students learn math. In fact, many of the policies actively impead the learning of math. For example, she is required to provide enough class time for students to complete their assignments in class because not all students have a home life that allows them to do homework. She is required to allow students to retake a test for full credit, which means the students wait to see the test and then are working on learning the material for the last test while my wife is teaching what is on the next test.

[danivynsteele]

Great advice!! Having codes physical, verbal, in any form, with those closest to you is such a powerful tool to use towards better communication. Whenever I get up in the morning and feel overwhelmed, like I’m not ready to talk yet, I say “blanket” to my partner or vice versa and we just get it.

[cy]

Does it annoy anybody else when John tells callers to "call back anytime"? His team doesn't even respond to the vast majority of emails, let alone lying to these callers that he will continue to offer them help.

[peterwilliams]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

[apebitmusic]

Delony humblebragging like he gets hit on the Lol