The Truth About Gender Dysphoria!

Gender dysphoria, for many, is an invisible handicap full of challenges not visible to others. This presents a special challenge for family and friends around you.

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Hello Friends! I'm Dr Z, and this is a channel where I help you break free from dysphoria!

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[daviawyliefinch]

Very perceptive video. Can't argue with anything you said. I spent about 30 years trying to un-trans myself because I knew passing would be an obstacle for me and finally gave up. I came out a few years ago (in my 40s), but nothing much has changed. I haven't looked in a mirror in about a decade. Haven't taken a selfie either. I have no money for transition and no support network. I can't afford to even buy clothes let alone get surgery. My biggest problem is trying to keep a roof over my head. Not easy when you have as many problems as I have. So it's all about the distractions for me now. Always happy to see someone who makes it out of this living hell though. You're doing a great thing with these videos, Dr. Z!

[chocobonbon]

Wow Dr. Z, it means so much to hear you talk about this. ❤

My dysphoria had started as a child, as mild. There was no way I would get support from my environment for that feeling though. I pretended I didn't feel it, until eventually I was unable to access it. I even felt like I wasn't trans anymore, and that I could just manage living like my assigned gender. Even though I really wanted to be trans, I felt like I should still just MANAGE, and like I couldn't feel anything.

This past year, I finally was able to move away from those people who were very unaccepting. All of a sudden, my dysphoria became extremely clear and more present to me. It was painful. Excruciating and overwhelming for the first time in my life. But it felt so important to really begin to face it. Because somehow, it felt like I was moving rather than stuck. Like, the anger made me wanna take action.

Your videos are like a light in the dark, they help me have hope and take action.❤

[dextergreener]

Greetings, I am Cassandra, and I started transitioning in August 2020. I agree that the anger issues you have provided in a previous clip are exactly what I went through all my life. I am 4 years into transitioning to a female, and I am 70 years old now. Once I accepted who I am now today, my anger issues and insecurities abated significantly. My wife is really enjoying who I am, and I found that I really like creating poems since the start of my transition. Thank you very much.

[ma-sa]

Thanks for making this video Dr. Z! There is so much truth here and I dealt with everything you mentioned… I have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria 3 times in the past 15 years, the first time was as a part of a very intensive psychological “test” for a career when I was only 20 years old, I laughed off the findings at the time and thought the incongruence I had (gender envy and assigned gender disassociation) was normal and every guy felt the same way.

It was only when I was 35 and had my 3rd diagnosis that gender dysphoria became so bad that it was all I could think about, it overtook my life and was literally killing me. When I came out to my wife about my struggles and need to transition I was met with exactly the same spousal question you mentioned “if you have been dealing with it for this long, why can’t you continue to live with it without transitioning?”

Unfortunately I haven’t been able to explain it to her… it’s so hard to describe dysphoria and how I am feeling to someone who never experienced it nor even thinks about their gender. The depression from dysphoria became so bad that I felt that I had no other choice other than HRT. It has helped tremendously! But now I’m at the point where I’m “male failing” but since I’m not out to anyone, it’s becoming pretty frightening and giving me social anxiety that I’ve never experienced before due to masking my insecurity by acting extremely outgoing.

Sorry for the novel, but I feel like I’m at a breaking point in my life where I am happy with my progress from HRT but terrified with social transitioning and telling people that I have been medically transitioning for the past year. Also, how do I answer my wife’s question about how I could not keep burying my dysphoria like I have my entire life?

Thanks Dr. Z!

[Jackie-clqe]

Me, avoiding to sit with my feelings and thoughts at all cost 🤡
I knew that a lot of my issues come from not feeling at home in my body, and i knew i was nonbinary, for some reason i didn't connect the dots until very recently. I kinda thought being afab high femme, feeling like this was normal. Thinking about going on t. Thank u for talking about this ❤️

[sukulmati]

I'm 43 and I started transitioning a little over a year ago. I accepted that I was a trans woman about 3 years before that but had decided that I was too old and transitioning wasn't something I could do for a host of reasons. On my 42nd birthday the "static" (my term for the swirling mass of depression, anxiety, and misery around my gender) in my head had become so loud and overwhelming that I could no longer ignore it. After that first appointment the static vanished and for the first time in a long time I could hear myself think again. It is still amazing to me how much I had distracted myself and put myself through so much pain for so many years. I'm still struggling with aspects of transition but I have no regrets about beginning.

[timmy]

I’m still in the closet.

When my egg cracked it caught me by surprise tbh, I didn’t think I had dysphoria. But then I started to really think about it, and I do, quite intensely at times.

I thought that my disgust towards my body was because I’m very overweight at the moment. But then even when I was younger in my teens I was a pretty normal weight and even then I would hate having to take my shirt off to go swimming or get changed afterwards in the changing room. When I started growing body hair I felt equally mortified about it. It felt wrong but I had no concept to work with so I mistakenly blamed that on other things like my weight.

I don’t know when I’ll come out, I depend on my parents for a place to live even as an adult now because I wouldn’t be able to support myself financially with the housing and rental market as it is alone. They might be accepting of it but atm I don’t feel like I have the luxury of testing that.

[Slipperylmao]

Caught me. Started really thinking about it like 4ish months ago and I just want to see if it's a pattern? I feel like I already know it won't just go away, but I've never felt it so strongly before. I've always been online and played games, so distracting myself was a habit that I still hold true to this day. But my current work has me being by myself and almost consistently I feel some sort of way

[SpiffyGiraffeCreations]

I've been grappling with this lately. It seems to come and go in waves – sometimes barely noticeable (which I think might be because I try to suppress it), and other times, like now, it feels quite intense. I've scheduled an appointment with a therapist, hoping that can offer some support. Because I really can't do this another 40 years

[Ginaviz]

Wow! You never cease to amaze me Dr. Z! You have such understanding and articulate it so well. Thank-You! It's as if you know me.

[sdmayday]

Story of my life. I appreciate these videos.

[Mastervoidwalker]

Hi and thanks for all you do. Could you speak on the subject of conversion therapy and when you have detransitioned because of it and now no longer have the strength or courage anymore to transition? I went through it a couple of years ago and Im still in a bad place.

[maartjevandijke]

as always thank you. I yes oo what to do about the quality of the old one? it sounds distorted

[quint]

As a transmasculine person thank you for this video. I find some similarities with that you've talked about, especially about how gender dysphoria is nuisance. I find so many people who can't understand how I'm a non binary man. I am a man but there are times when I am not at all.

[kevinbrown]

What would a little step be? Could you elaborate or provide a few examples?

[macschomo]

Please do something with your audio quality. You sound very distorted. I don't know what software you are using, but your level is too high. You have a too high peak. Never come in the red region. I hope this will help you. Your gain at the microphone seams ok. So it must be your software.

[KalLinux-lo]

Holllo mam I'm 30 and I love to do feminine work, and clothes makeup can It help me becoming trans person Or not?

[chakravant]

How long can you bury it? IDK, I needed to dig it up first. For reference, I'm identifying as NB for more than a decade, but initially it was like "I'm fed with all that gender stereotypes, so I identify as "it" so nobody will be able to say "typical man" or "typical woman"". Why I was fed with that? Hard to remember now. Also, my native language is very gendered, it's not the pronoun problem, it is the whole language problem, it is hard to say anything in first person, past tense without hitting gendered barrier.
I also noticed I'm much more identifying with female characters in literature, media and video games. I started to play female characters in role-playing games, which was a practice considered weird and cringy. I could play an alien, elf, or even a Jamaican, but they had to be male due to fact me being "male". The fact, I'm not an elf, alien or even a Jamaican doesn't matter as much.
But, for some time it's not enough. It becomes worse and worse every moment, and I'm 48 and I'm often thinking it's too late for anything. Not to mention, anything I'd do except doing absolutely nothing, will hurt my family, my lover and probably a few more people I didn't even consider. And leave me alone, because who would want such a heartless freak for a friend? And mind you, they aren't transphobes, probably, at least from their perspective. But I'm old, I have children and life, transitioning is for young people who was kicked out by parents (or not) and they didn't actually started their lives. Or something, at least that's what I could distill from rants of my partner and a few people (who don't know, but they commented some other late transitioner).