HEARTLESS And HARSH PARENTS Of Adult Children In A Toxic Family

Coldness and callousness can happen in a toxic family where the parent is showing some signs of antisocial personality disorder (or psychopathy).

Cynicism tends to be at the core of those who have traits of Machiavellianism which includes the personality traits of cold indifference, resentment and anger, manipulation and deception, and lack of internalized morality.

In this video, I discuss the psychology of toxic family dynamic and having parents with the traits of Machiavellianism.

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#trauma #TOXICFAMILY
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DISCUSSED IN THIS VIDEO:
0:00 intro
2:30 parenting style & common characteristics
3:42 CONTROLLING TYPES
4:21 antagonistic behaviors
5:58 MACHIAVELLIAN CHARACTER (deep dive)
8:40 HOW THIS IMPACTS YOU

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Mentioned In The Video:
1. Cowan N, Adams EJ, Bhangal S, Corcoran M, Decker R, Dockter CE, Eubank AT, Gann CL, Greene NR, Helle AC, Lee N, Nguyen AT, Ripley KR, Scofield JE, Tapia MA, Threlkeld KL, Watts AL. Foundations of Arrogance: A Broad Survey and Framework for Research. Rev Gen Psychol. 2019 Dec 1;23(4):425-443. doi: 10.1177/1089268019877138. Epub 2019 Sep 19. PMID: 33967573; PMCID: PMC8101990.

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[tigress]

This is just the knowledge I need to move forward. When I was accepted to grad school at a top university in the USA, my mom's exact response "OH". I could not believe it! No support! Only jealousy. She has been competitive with me all my life, "stormy encounters". She is argumentative, she does de-value me, and has no respect for my life. I am so tired of her! On top of this, I am an ONLY child with no support. She is extremely judgemental and manipulative! Your words of wisdom always help me. When I am ready for a new therapist, if they choose not to discuss these issues I will make my exit early. THANK YOU! 💫

[myfriendschmeeda]

28 years … It took me 28 years of searching to understand the issue with someone I know, but your video finally brought it all into focus—clearly and succinctly.

[stellasole]

Antagonistic is 100% the right word thankyou 🙏💕

[calebereid]

Please talk about this more, this helps a lot and please explain more about the terms if possible.

[ChildishCOBBino]

Oh boy, you just diagnosed my Mother. She has everybody in town fooled but me.😢
I was in a wheelchair for 1.5 yrs with my baby girl starting her Senior year and she and my siblings wouldn’t help me and in fact, 2 weeks after I was learning to walk again, they asked me to move out of the house my now deceased father bought for us when we survived a terrible house fire that happened ironically while my two littlest were missing bc of a husband and his parents hiding them . They had a whole narcissistic fueled plan in process and something really bad happened about every 3 days for 24 days. My 3 children and I have experienced a lot of trauma. My Mother has hated me bc I was my dad’s favorite . They scapegoated me the day he died and have not honored his final wishes. They have left me out of my inheritance AND wouldn’t help me
I had to get a lawyer and they just can’t see how their behaviors are self righteous (sister inlaw who kept my dads books), narcissistic (my only brother) and my mother, (the Machiavellian)

There is so much more to this story but I’m still unpacking it all, myself. 😔
I can’t thank you enough for your wisdom ❤

[rubberbiscuit]

Actual healthy parenting is not going to happen with these people as parents. To keep up appearances, they may do things that benefit their children as a side effect, but raising their children in a loving, stable, and caring environment is never really on the table. It's a mind eff for the children, who will be expertly gaslighted and divided from each other. Some of them will get completely caught up in the family narrative, and others will not, and still others may get free of it at some point, in childhood or adulthood. It's a horror story, and a lot to take in. 🙏 for children dealing with parents like these.

[Kimberly-nfd]

That was my pops old way explicitly and I thought he was getting nicer; turns out he was just scheming and no one has a solid spot with him.

[teesyinnyang]

Missed this live. Watched replay thank you for this post I don’t feel that alone being a grown adult with diabolical parents

[leialuminous]

The really ironic part is, unless you're a sociopath, psychopath or psychotherapist yourself, you won't spot the correct ones. Healing is possible humans and otherwise, get out, inner child healing, a good psychotherapist, cbt and multifold therapies can help. You are not broken, you are breaking the cycle, you are not your mental health conditions, you're learning, healing and growing away from something very difficult. Breathe and maybe lean into those antisocial tendencies with some healthy mindset books.

[AdamantlyAdams]

I ❤ the content that you deliver. Thank you Dr. Tamara for another wonderful lesson.

[calebereid]

Thank you so much for this, is there still online therapy options with you?

[MomTube-iw]

Oceans of blessings y'all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[garybennett]

What sort of child disobeys their parents request. I worry for my neibours who allow young girls to dominate the decisions the parents make.
Can it be cultural or the result of toxic family genetics resulting in the siblings being in gangs and raised by gangsters.
It is an issue worth raising as too why many teens/ young adults are carrying knives and hanging out in gangs. Parents are responsible for those in their care and need to realise children only follow the standards set by the parents/ primary care providers.
Great video.

[MsInoccence]

Hi. Im finally starting to save myself.