Why So Many MEN Suffer From ONEITIS

In this video we talk about why men suffer from the special one (oneitis) and how to get over it.

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#Men #Women #Oneitis

[tdot]

Cure for oneitis isn't just having options. It's having options while simultaneously being okay with being alone

[Sketch_Sesh]

You make a good point. Women are encouraged to date around, explore themselves, play the field, spin plates etc… men are told to simp, drop everything for the “one”, play the traditional role, commit, provide

[norbatdepaname]

Remember guys she is not one in a million but just one of a million.

[ElearningDigest]

I can attest that the cure for one-itis is other women. After she “needed her space” I found other women who were willing to take her place. I spent Christmas with one girl and New Years Eve with another one. It was just what the doctor ordered.

[frozen]

I think it goes away with age. As young you believe in bs because you don't know women. When you get to know them you realize they have very little to offer.

[cameconomou]

This topic is discussed in great length in your book. Too many have been conditioned by their families, culture, society, MSM institutions, to adopt the belief of a soulmate, whilst being oblivious to the female primary social order

[cliffymac]

Man i had oneitis .
It was pure hell.
It took a couple years too shake it off.
I think she was a demon

[kurtsmith]

The key to ending your “oneitis” is to understand and accept WHY she left you. She left you because YOU were demonstrating a low value trajectory. Once you diagnose and take responsibility for your own low value behaviors, then you will realize it’s not her, it’s YOU. Fix yourself and move on. That’s what helped for me.

[bgrim]

The main and probably ONLY reason I ever had "oneitis" is because I DIDN'T HAVE ANY OTHER OPTIONS! at the time, and/or made myself "exclusive" to 1 woman. If I knew I can easily court other women and have other women I can contact anytime I want, I'd never have oneitis. It's a scarcity mindset which is compounded if you struggle to get women in the first place.

[FreeAgent]

Trust me, after the heartache you will find someone who makes you think „wow, I cannot believe somebody like her would ever exist! She’s way better than this other chick I almost wanted to delete myself for!“

[MiguelGutierrez-vszu]

Been there. Having options is the best way out of oneitis for sure. In my case, I got out not only with the abundance of options, but realizing that the "version" of the girl I fell for long time ago is gone. People change, and making the comparison of the "version" of the girl I fell for with the one she is now, it helped a lot. It does not matter if she's prettier or is in a better position, it for some reason you make it with her is highly probable it won't last. The one you fell for is gone.

[fugitife]

Guys, don't you find that falling in love with life brings more passion than falling in love with a girl.

[WOODY-REBEL]

You'll reach maturity and realize it doesn't matter what society thinks. Just do you. Concentrate on being your best self. Keep educating yourselves with positive male content such as Rich's book The Unplugged Alpha. This stuff will get and keep you on the right track. I found this stuff later in I'm so happy I found it regardless. I'll be ripping it up with Rich in my own Maclaren soon enough.

Respect Mr. Cooper! You're blazing serious trails for all men.

[davida.taylor]

Regarding oneitis, I have to think that because this is a universal male phenomenon, that there must be an evolutionary biological reason for it. Maybe it was because in our evolutionary past our options were very limited and we could only ever have a scarcity mindset and having oneitis kept men faithful to our mates. I really don't know, that's just a guess. But now that options have exploded so tremendously, this oneitis phenomenon no longer works on our behalf. I recently experienced oneitis where I knew in my head it was a fantasy but my heart refused to accept. I experienced oneitis as an addiction and a very strong attachment. Just my thoughts really. Great conversation!

[jacobwinn]

Who was it who said 'men are romantics masquerading at pragmatists; and women are pragmatists masquerading as romantics'? Was it Rollo or Peterson, I can't remember, but it is exactly true.

[JoArtsDev]

Man here's my honest opinion of why onetis will always exist (based on my personal experience).
Onetis It's rooted in scarcity that's for sure, but say you find someone who "fits the bills" in terms of compatibility with you, or your personal requirements at least.
Then you browse around for other candidates and you find that the bar for being a quality woman (based on your requirements) is so fucking low, like so stupidly low, yet they just fail to qualify and you can't fathom how that's even possible.
Most men will be ok with just a couple requirements: be attractive, have something going on, anything aside from being glued to you, and don't be fucking insufferable and create drama out of thin air.
Simple right? compared to the "six sixes" that men must have to qualify for a woman and list of other absurd demands.
Yet MOST ladies can't cover for those 3 basic elements.
So when you find a woman that does fits the bill, you get onetis because you dont want to skim through a whole pile of straight up trash that are modern women.
It's mind boggling really, women have it so easy yet most can't just qualify and scarcity is created.
We'll all fall into onetis at least once in our lives, even the most alphas out there, simply because society doesn't push women to be quality in the fucking least.

[LifeTheExperience]

Spent 10 years with my ex-wife -- she was hot when I met her. 160 pound Latina. Married her and she ballooned to 200 - 220 pounds. I loved her no matter what weight she was. Later on, as we're going through our separation and eventual divorce, she somehow manages to get herself back to 160 pounds, and then goes after her high school sweet heart. What the fuck? She was my one no matter what, but g'damn. Guess she got under to get over me.

[sarahconal]

My husband and I love watching your videos. Please keep talking about this. You are not being selfish putting yourself first over someone who treats you like an option.

[edmundlubega]

As someone who grew up in a Christian family in East Africa I have come to realise that Christian culture/grooming is definitely one cause of this. Our Muslim peers were not only allowed to marry more than one wife, they were/are encouraged to do so from an early age. They are able to do this without any sense of guilt or apology. An abundance mindset is groomed and inculcated into them from the get go and the women know this. Christianity by default puts us men into scarcity mode.

[DanaDane]

My parents were married just shy of 68 years before my mom passed. They raised me in the church. I am still a Christian, but have abandoned my early teaching- that God has a woman for me! I spent years looking & dating, failing at every turn. I still believe in love & even marriage, but have come to understand that it isn't for everyone. Whether you believe in creation or evolution, I think we can all agree that men & women have many different purposes on Earth. We aren't created or evolved w a cookie cutter, so that we all look, sound & operate the same. "Oneitis" was a dissolution for me. Fortunately, I have come to understand myself & human nature better now that I am over 50, and have made a good life without a partner.