This is NOT a easy dynamic to shift! But if it is a priority for you, it is possible! We tend to

This is NOT a easy dynamic to shift! But if it is a priority for you, it is possible! We tend to value work based on different metrics…how much money is made, how urgent deadlines are, how high profile a job is…but this can bleed into starting to value our time more or less than our partner’s which can create a feeling if inequality of a power dynamic that doesn’t sit well for everyone involved.
Shifting the dynamic takes accountability, discomfort, willingness to set boundaries, willingness to try and try again when things aren’t working.
You can do this! Let me know what has worked for you in the comments!

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[DWargs]

I really don't know about this. Life is too messy, and an unwillingness to compromise can easily lead to resentment. This example really didn't help either. Sick kid and an important meeting seems like pretty good reasons to consider being a little flexible about the schedule. I know parent B is supposed to come off as the correct one, but it honestly came off as a little patronizing.

[chloevasquez]

Woah this video has gotten some weird comments. In this skit both parents are working parents even tho they may both be work from home parents and one parent is pushing their agreed upon shifts unto the other parent. Also alot of people are assuming one parents job is more important then anothers? Implying the mother is the defult parent. Ill give you an example of how this skit applies in my life. I am the defult parent 90% of the day, but when my husband comes home from work, to the point he goes to sleep, i shift the role over to him so i can have a break. After he goes to bed i am the on call parent through the night so he can sleep for work. But when he says, can you do this or help with this because im tired/you didnt work as hard as i did today. Or when he says he cant change a poopy diaper by himself? I do all the parenting by myself 9:30pm to 5:30pm everyday and even more when my husband is on call

[cecynay]

Oops, you accidentally called your husband "teammate" 😅

[thesingerintheshower]

Thank you for illustrating this dynamic with this skit. It's really eye-opening.

[ilzeberzina]

We have 3 kids under 4. When my husband comes home he does the dinner for the toddlers while I care for the baby. He used to put the toddlers in bath, but my little girl is yelling at the top of her lungs for me the eldest boy also craves my attention. So I do have to be there for all of them even though my husband would take the burden off my shoulders if it was possible. So he does the housework as it doesn't whine and yell that I must complete it.

[Xe_None]

This example is toxic. Nothing to do with which parent it is, a meeting beats “cleanup break”. The healthy thing to do here is for the parent who does not have a meeting to support the one who does have a meeting by dealing with the kid even though this was “meeting parent’s day” by agreement. And this should be the dynamic both ways. If “cleanup parent” had a meeting and it was their day, the other parent should have covered as well.

In summary:

Dynamic partnesrhip > strict agreement > one default parent

[hannahbunny]

Hmm I mean yes but what if the breadwinner gets reprimanded for missing the meeting?
They don’t miss the meeting then the kid has to wait in the office for the entire duration of the meeting?

Respectfully black and white things don’t work when the world is full of grays.

[DN-kfgg]

If my kid is sick, I’m getting them no matter any stupid rule you set up. 😂

[jacquelinefitzpatrick]

This is so silly! Im a momma, and im going to pick up our sick child. It's not an issue. Im the primary caregiver in my family. We dont share parenting dynamics 50/50.

[LocoDesignerBoutique]

if I was a guy, I’d leave someone acting like that😅. Your boundaries sound like you hate being a mother. I hope these videos are jokes lol

[marenbeck]

boomers not getting it in the comments in