How the Spartans raise fierce warriors

The Agoge was Sparta's unique system of education and military training, foundational to its renowned warrior culture. Initiated at the age of seven, Spartan boys were subjected to a regimen designed to mold them into elite soldiers and disciplined citizens. Beyond combat skills, the Agoge emphasized endurance, stealth, and survival, often pushing youths to their limits. While it produced fearsome warriors, it also fostered deep bonds of brotherhood. For Spartans, the Agoge was more than training; it was a rite of passage, integral to their identity and societal role.

[LancetFencing]

is the word “torn” appropriate since it was a consensual custom of their society?

[wzbmitbbs]

Still be beaten by sacred band of Thebes

[MrWogle]

There's no evidence to support the notion that the Agoge was anything more than typical public schooling. This included singing, dancing, pottery making, and all the other typical stuff you might have children do in classical greek schooling.

It's only in the modern era that we like to pretend that Spartans were these mythical battle-hardened people.