Things I don't miss about my abuser

This is not an exhaustive list. I could go on endlessly about things I don't miss. What are you loving about not having to deal with anymore?

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[mariagore]

Lady finally someone that hits the nail on the head

[Sillylittekittys]

I am so thankful for where I am today and thats all behind me. 😊

[TransformativeParadigm]

We need more of these. Helps us not second guess our decision of leaving an abusive/toxic person.

[davidcole]

His loss, you are a beautiful Queen, keep living, keeping shining Queen

[lt]

“Doing everything for our family and being made to feel like it was never enough” resonates with me, especially if you add “while he smoked pot and drank beer”

[ninasvocalcoach]

My ex was sadistic and a habitual cheater. Anyone else ever been introduced to the people they are cheating on you with? You can tell by the diabolical matching smiles they share and the awkward sexual tension. Yuck, they never deserved you, get out, stay out, move on and thank God for the wisdom gained.

[emiliaa]

Yes to all of it! Been there and dealt with most of it. I can see clearly, getting out of the mud that was slowing my stride. Getting stronger and learned to detach and not engage. Putting my energy where I need to and planning my exit away from this dark cloud I am married to. Will be free soon.

[rosieE]

I love myself by loving who I am and not being afraid to be who I am.

[tryingsurvive]

I totally agree with you, I don't miss having to be coerced into having sex with him after he put me down again and again. I don't miss being constantly told off for everything that I did/ said. I don't miss him using the bathroom with the door open or having to clean the bathroom floor after he missed! I am free 🎉❤ and I had to rely on myself to get me to this place. I left a month and a half ago, and I feel so at peace!!

[Mags]

At first it hurt me as if i was doing something wrong for standing up for myself and wanting to leave but 3 years later I am in peace! My time and well being is priceless! 🙌🏽

[juliechildress]

While in college, I dated this guy for a few years. He make all these elaborate dates then ghost me for weeks. We saw each other maybe 3 or 4 times in a month. Most of the time, he would have a "chaperone" join us when it wasn't even necessary since we were young adults. He even promised marriage etc. He was an expert at lies and stonewalling. It's been almost 14 years and I still question every male I encounter including family members. He got physical with me one time in a public place. I ended things shortly after the incident because I wanted off the damn rollercoaster.

[NonjabuloNtshingila]

Wow I can't believe you went through all that
That guy was a real demoniac and didn't deserve you at all.😢

[MasonLobo]

The lies and the Betrayal and a whole lot more, I'm healing now I feel good mentally but financially I am struggling she took everything I lost everything it's hard but I'm happy I don't have to deal with her anymore

[JuliaLovesTrashTV]

I'm so happy that i'm free to be me.

[flowers]

Yep never doing enough. Told were selfish.

[PeacefulChaoticGoddess]

Ohhhh. Yes. This this this. This this this. His family would participate in gaslighting me bruh!!!

[pjmrees]

I don't miss the pathological lying.

[robertbaird]

When does the 'happy' start?

[noslraclwehttam]

My radar says this message is loaded with blame. I would avoid this message. I will avoid this type of messaging going forward.

[allentempleton]

The sad part is having to pay a huge financial penalty just to have basic human rights and having to be judged by people who have no idea what really happened. Leaving isn't as easy as it sounds. It's almost like you continue to get abused after you leave. It's still better than staying. The best thing is not to put yourself in the situation to begin with. People who allow themselves to be chronically abused (like me) must understand that they too have a psychological pathology and must accept responsibility for the consequences of it. It doesn't mean your abuser isn't evil, it just means that you need to know you have a tendency to tolerate poor treatment and need to be on guard at all times. In order to heal we should not view ourselves as victims. Victims are powerless. We are not powerless.