Why I Don’t Date For A Relationship - Even Though I Want One

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It turns out that looking for a long-term girlfriend or boyfriend isn't necessarily the best strategy - even if that's EXACTLY what you want!

Dating can be hard and often confusing - and sometimes completely illogical - what I discovered when going on dates and looking for a long term parter will surprise you.

So how do I find better quality women to date? What's my dating mindset?

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School Of Attraction

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[Voidroamer]

i've hated this mindset for a very long time. i think i need to let go of that hate. ive always thought that relationships are not fun, they take work. but they should be fun.. I just hate the sayign that "girls just wanna have fun" .. well, what about when were not having fun.. i want someone whos capable of that

I always thought that having fun's the easy part. but the older i get, the more i realize i think i had that backwards. having a miserable time's the easy default condition

[hardvibes]

I just gave up trying to date all together. It's not about feelings anymore. Women today don't look at you if you're not already an accomplished man. All kinds of women, even thought you might think they're kind and serious. Too serious when they're all about security and money.
Disgusting world we live in.

[rocking]

Would love a video on your take on the differences/similarities of dating women in Australia v/s Miami (or possibly extrapolated to USA)...thanks Damien!

[mfc]

Bit late, but yeah I'd love a video about your experiences in Miami

[KlejakaKlej]

Amen,
I was dating around some people and then one girl after couple months of having fun became more for me and vice-versa. Best approach I ever had. You can look around what's there and don't look needy since you got other options.

[Dan-ufvh]

This is the most important concept in the contemporary dating world. It's such a shame that our views and sensibilities are this badly distorted.

[better_call_sagar]

Hey Damien, I have been on SO MANY COUNTLESS FIRST DATES and am having trouble landing a second date. Either the girl I go out with say "they didn't feel the romantic spark with me" or ghost me completely. I wanted to ask you what I can do to land a second date. It has got to the point where I am starting to feel depressed about it. Thank you.

[drop_messages]

Hello School of Attraction
I recently discovered your channel.
I am trying online dating after years of being single.
A woman and I have been messaging each other back and forth for a week.
I invited her out to a cup of coffee (we have never meet in person)

She says "No really, I am not interested"
I am a bit rusty on my social skills, so I need help interpreting her mixed signals.
Is she flirting with me and what is the correct way to flirt back?

[SinnerFromPregatory]

That's an amazing finding! What you basically discovered is that people are attracted more to a person who is process-oriented (I just want to have fun in the moment) than to a person who is goal-oriented. It gives me a lot to think about.

[zukondis]

Makes sense but don't buy that this is a magical switch to get better matches. I believe since what's happened in 2020 people are sick an tired, and exhausted by all the BS. So if you start having more fun, you will start attracting others who also want to have fun, people likely to be in better mental and overall health but not necessarily a higher quality woman in terms of morals, values and intelligence. Most women on dating apps are very broken, so the bar is abysmally low and they seem great relatively speaking. I think men need to get way out of their way and meet people in the real world, places that attract healthy and high quality individuals - gyms, book stores, schools, religious groups, dance lessons, cooking lessons, meet ups centered around learning or sports, anything that requires discipline and healthy habits. Dating apps and clubs/bars are for lazy people who only rely on short cuts in life and doing the minimum effort

[Sporally]

Thanks for the video.. 👍 I live in Denmark and would love to attend your bootcamp here.. I've earlier been thinking about reaching to you to find out what programs you offer that could help me improve my dating life..

[yourbrain]

One issue with this that I see is that the superficial standards of men and women for long vs short term dating don't line up. Women will want a guy who is more desirable than them, for short term things, generally, while men are fine with women less desirable than themselves if no long term monogamous commitment is required. Only when both are explicetely looking for something monogamous and long term do standards start to roughly line up as far as I am aware and have seen. I have even had women outright admit this. I was traveling with a less attractive friend some years back, and meeting women below my own level and at around his level of attractiveness. I asked them if they'd date him. A few answered to me "well as a boyfriend, yeah, but not for something casual, I need a hotter guy for that, like you". Throughout the years I've had various women admit similar things to me.

[martintheguitarist]

I don't have an explanation for it but in my experience the women who are looking for a relationship all have serious issues and are incapable of being in a normal relationship. I have never met anyone normal like that.

[gionagrace]

Dating has been a crazy rollercoaster! Sad to say, but a large group of the dating pool are already married, engaged or living with someone and unfortunately we find that out after the fact! They will cheat, lie, become a ghost or have an evil narcissistic side to them! WHERE is NORMAL?? I have tried many approaches to dating as well as my male and female friends and we all have this same issue. It's sad that it's so difficult to find someone who is genuine in the dating pool today. That's exactly why dating has to become an afterthought or a secondary mini goal because it will fry your brain if you put too much energy into it so it's best to focus on yourself because YOU (dating community) are already complete & beautiful & awesome. An SO will only enhance that for you! Happy dating and BE HAPPY ❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊

[drallagon]

Maybe after the tour you could do a comparison video on how dating scenes are different all around

[PaulWolfe]

Who's getting advice on how to get a relationship by a 40 year old who hasn't been able to get a relationship? It should be happily married people giving advice.

[pridemyselfwithnontrolling]

We know all the dating scene there with all these red pill channels that live in Miami lol