Autism Social Skills YOU Can Learn EASY

Autism and socialising can be difficult, it is hard to understand social communication for autism and many of the social interactions that happen involve non-verbal social gestures.

For an autistic adult these can be super confusing and very difficult to know how to socialise and to keep up in a social situation.

I have created 3 simple steps to understand this, and laid them out in this video to make it easier for you.

If you have issues with autism and social skills and you'd like to add anything to this conversation please, pop it in a comment :).

0:00 - Intro
1:18 - Understanding Cycle Of Communication
2:00 - Practice Makes Progress
2:30 - Find Groups Online To Talk In
2:52 - Be Your True Self

FOR MORE FOLLOW MY SOCIALS ⬇️

[rdoubled]

The reason I find it difficult to ask someone how they are is because it is a meaningless question. Most of the time no one even cares what the response is. I'll just assume they're doing fine which is what they will say anyway 99% of the time.

[ilovecats]

After I started college, I started learning some social skills myself. I still have the same social anxiety I've always had, but every time a really nice class mate starts talking to me, I always respond every time. The majority of being in college always helps give me more things to talk about and that can be helpful on my social skills somewhat.

[Yabadabadoo]

These videos are extremely helpful and they make me and many others feel less alone ❤

Thank you for creating your content

[dcarbs]

Personally, I found it more difficult with more social interaction. Social interaction is too draining and takes too much energy. Takes longer to recover from than a heavy gym session.

[benicioaviles]

Today is my birthday & I have autism ADHD too!

[wendyheaton]

The trouble I find is that being a late diagnosed female I genuinely don't know who the real me is.. In social situations I just fall straight back into efficient masking followed by looking for an escape route!

[jasonrayhill]

Thank you, Dan. This another great and helpful video. Thank you for the awesome content here and on TAW on Facebook.

[witnessofchrist]

We don't really like to socialize bc ppl like to play mental games and bully due to indifferences in thought processes. I'm good. Like your videos though. ✌🏾

[jamee_maree]

I would love to hear from anyone here! I have many friends and also students (I’m a SPED teacher) that are diagnosed with autism. Clarifying that bc I know how it’s frequently misused. My superpowers are typically able to pinpoint the things that I’m going to ask below. With this though, I can’t seem to put my finger on it - or maybe my subconscious isn’t wanting too. Because that ultimately means, I would find out his behaviors were related to potential autism or if they were more of a mental health struggle.

I just have a deep love of autistic individuals and their autonomous thinking. Honestly, I seem to have some sort of magnetic field that draws other autistic adults to me in daily life. 😂 or individuals that seem to reflect a lot of the traits.

MY QUESTIONS:

Ive been dating a guy since beginning of the pandemic,
so three years. I’ve had many fleeting thoughts about him possibly being on spectrum. However, I’ve always quickly dismissed them because I knew he’d never 1) believe me, 2) go to a dr for evaluation, or 3) research it to consider the possibility on his own.

I share all that because have a few questions on some relationship/social things. I’ve only had friends and students with autism, so while I know most of those traits - I have no idea how those translate into adulthood because I’ve never wondered this with others I have dated & are with daily. If they aren’t common traits for others here, then I will assume it may possibly be an unidentified MH disorder.

MY QUESTIONS:

1. He’s ever shown emotional response nor action when I am having feelings. Anxiety, sadness, crying, positive or negative. Just always goes about his day as if nothing was going on.

2) He will fixate on a topic and talk about it for long periods of time, which I know is common. Would it be safe to say that it is common to not show any interest in things others want to talk about, passions, projects, etc?

3) Noticed just recently that he never has asked how my day has been, or how I am. To most it would come off as he’s just selfish, and I did at first, but it truly seems more than that. After 3yrs, one would think there would be, at minimum, subtle changes to things that don’t work in our relationship. (Or possibly the struggles would be fixed and gone after such a long relationship)

4) One example from this weekend that does frequently happen: He’s been super sick for a few months and has a procedure tomorrow to identify what it may be. I knew he was very anxious, on top of sick, so I text him and asked “How are you? How are things?” His response: “I just woke up from a nap.”…. Nothing more. Disclaimer: Maybe it’s just me but I kinda expected more detailed response than I got considering all that we are dealing with regarding his health.)

5) No way in hell has he ever, ever, ever sat and talked about harder uncomfortable things.

**Oh, another trait I do know aligns is his extensive level of knowledge of all things, and also just extremely intelligent.

There is so much more I could share but I think these are probably the largest, most frequent ones. I am on the fence whether i am hoping you will say they are common or if I’d rather prefer to hear they aren’t 😂😂

Last thing, and I know I’m being a pain in the ass with this huge long post!! 😂😂I just don’t know where else to ask.

If these are indeed common traits, do you know of any place, channel or specific videos that I could learn to understand ways I can to be a better partner for his needs, things that would be beneficial/destructive to this unique type of relationship, and so on. I have just found this channel so not sure what all is here yet. Albeit, I’ll be binging these at work today and may come across one here. But figured it’d be worth asking - 😊

If you made it this far, you are a damn WARRIOR! I apologize for being so wordy. ❤🎉

[danielfoster]

Everyday is a learning curve to me im always practicing on working on my social skills

[leif]

How do you become yourself if you don't even know what you're like? And what if others hate you for who you actually are?

[chaosfiredragon]

love the video, not sure if you have covered it recently but would love if you could do one on some of the online groups that can be helpful to someone on the spectrum to go join and try out

[ThroughTheLensOfAutism]

People often say I should be the real me, but I worry the real me is selfish and dangerous.

[ZetSumi-ir]

'Be your true self' - I said nothing as my mind was blank and I had nothing to say. This has not been helpful at all.