DRAMA (How to Avoid Drama and Drama Queens) - Teal Swan

Drama is a word that originally meant, "to act". This is why the word made its debut in the world of performance art or theatre. As it relates to emotional life, drama is a state, situation, or series of events involving intense conflict. Put these two things together and you have the definition of a person who is dramatic. A person who is dramatic is a person who acts as if they are in a state of intense conflict.

So, lets get this out of the way right off the bat... When it applies to the human emotional experience, there is no such thing as drama. And when you make the judgment that someone is creating drama or is a drama queen or is being dramatic, you minimize and shame them for their feelings, which I assure you are very real.

No one overreacts. There has never been a person on earth that has ever overreacted. People react exactly in accordance with the reality that they alone perceiving. And our perspective and realities are not the same.

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[leefontaine]

Teal, this almost brought me to tears. Thank you so much for making this video. It is very, very Buddhist and awakening enlightenment in others. You are an amazing human being, never stop this videos. This video was harsh, but needed to be harsh and thank you from the bottom of my heart. My family has accused me of being a drama queen my whole life and now I see and realize, finally, that it's not my fault. Thank you. You are a true Bodhisattva of this earth. 

[fullofmoochabeans]

Do people not listen to what she is saying... All the comments are disagreeing stating that they create their own drama, yet she explained that it is from their perspective and caused most likely from something from their past... Even if they do create their own drama to achieve what they want, its still from their own perspective... Kind of like the opinions in the comments i guess... I found this video enlightening and it really helped me to see someone else's perspective and not only my own...

[sphianva]

Thank you Teal. In my previous relationship, I was told I was a drama queen constantly. I have been conditioned to believe that about myself even though I know it's not true. I was going through the hardest time of my life when I was with him and suffered from severe stress. I have left him since. This video has made me feel validated. I can't thank you enough.

[AtlanticRaven]

Awarenes is a wonderful thing but should never be an excuse for other people’s bad behaviour. This is where boundary-setting comes in. I disagree that it’s OK for people to act as they please with no consideration for the people around them, “because it’s in accordance with their interpretation of reality.” Feelings are always valid in each and every one of us, we don’t have control over our feelings, but we DO have control over our ACTIONS. So how we feel about things is not an excuse for us to act as inconsiderate a-holes.

[tomvargas]

What comes through for me is that it is a learning opportunity for me when my drama is invalidated by others. I find all drama comes from identification of the ego and when my drama is invalidated, it gives me the opportunity to go to my truth, which is, there is no drama, or no need for drama when my identity is that of Source. When I feel myself as a victim, or in drama mode, I know I am on the road to hell. 

[GeckoHiker]

People are responsible for their own feelings. The real truth is that we do not need "their drama" in our lives. It is perfectly appropriate to let those who continually act out in our presence to understand that we choose not participate in co-dependent dramas that we both didn't write and can't finish for them. I don't give drama and I don't put up with drama. I'm a real girl in the real world.

[saraenglish]

the only comment I have is that there ARE people who love to cause trouble, and love to involve themselves in drama... and it's not always an option to cut those people out of your life, aka co-workers. 

[johnsoutside]

Wonderful video. People around me are starting to learn this. To change their friends and partners etc, they must change themselves. For example; just how many abusive/crazy/mad (always the same type) partners do you need in order to learn this? The question that I now have is - are any of these friends real, do any of them really exist? Just how many trillions of parallel "physical" universes exist? Synchronicities are so damned unbelievable that its not possible to believe that any of this "reality" is actually real.

[AlicitySherie]

There are emotional manipulators who play off of others emotional frailties and these predatory manipulators are commonly referred to as "Drama Queens". There are also people who deliberately cause trouble in order to cause an emotional reaction, these are also referred to as "Drama Queens". Recognizing toxic people is an important step in healing. Of course take accountability for what is causing the occurrence of recurring trauma in your own life but don't guilt others for recognizing that there are toxic and predatory people causing "Drama".

[JenniferRefinnArt]

What a "coincidence"... that's what I just needed.... right here, right now. Thank you Teal for putting dramatic situations and people in the right perspective. <3

[Teakai]

I deliberately used to overreact and dramatize in order to control others or make them feel guilty driven by my own sense of lack. 

Glad I got that sorted out.

Truth isn't a perspective experience.  Ego reality is a perspective experience.  It doesn't help people to support their insecurities it just keeps them trapped there.

[sarah]

This is about communication. drama is about how people choose to communicate.

[madelyntoday]

There's a lot of people who over act for manipulation purposes. They do it for attention, to make other people look bad, etc.

[adawong]

Some of this is true, but I could say that some people actually really do use drama to get attention.

[zabelicious]

I think drama people have developed this way of reacting like a bad habit and mostly because this is how they get attention. Over-reacting is just irrational or impulsive  but normal at the same time. People often just need an explanation because they misunderstand what is actually going on. I tend to avoid drama situations/people but if it happens, I just deal with it by offering alternative possible explanations or some comforting words.

[jeffchisamore]

And... nobody is to blame for how they act. Compassion is great and all, but people's inability to control themselves is - you know - their responsibility.

[ObeyBunny]

What are dramatic people like when they are alone- when they have no one to blame their problems on? Do they mellow out, stay the same, or something else?

[kevinwilliamson]

Your right perception is everything**
People believe and react the way that they want to see, the problem with society is they dont understand there is no right or wrong way, its how each individual fulfills there OWN journey. Thats why we see the sheep following each other.

[hollyhunter]

Phoenix, the message is not what you would assume from the title. I was so pleasantly surprised! This video helped me a great deal. Perhaps you were not the intended audience, but for someone who was in shadow and tears feeling that their feelings were not valid and wondering how that could be, this video cleared up my questions and helped me to trust myself and recognize that knowing because I do not have that strong connection now, and this has brought me closer. THANK YOU SO MUCH TEAL.

[nikkisix]

This is the first time I disagree with Teal, drama is a way of manipulating people, it is acting. Being upset is something completely different.