That on-hold jam tho

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[judithbamber]

God luv ya, Patrick. You came out of your crap with a terrific sense of humour!

[FriskyDingo]

I do enjoy that on-hold jam. Gives me nostalgic 90's feels for some reason 🤔

[lisam]

I've "been on hold" since 1998, too 😂😂😂

[DawnSelby-kw]

Lol! My family believes they're FINE 😂😂😂

[iriswalzak]

Ah yes the old hopeful. My song for about 40 years. Mums passing snapped me awake. And now putting self through a restructure 😊

[StarBitt]

I went to eating disorder hospital…they asked my family to come…my Mom said no. They always said no. They have all passed away now, and I feel such relief!

[Meemee-moit]

The VA's hold music. Literally added to my PTSD! 😂

[jessicaaudate]

OFF TOPIC: That's my most favorite hold music.
I got off the phone with Amazon today, and they had a cute little jazzy number 🎹

[RowanRiven]

Lol The one time my mother got into therapy because I told her I'd never speak to her again if she didn't and meant it, they diagnosed her with NPD, she went into a rage, and never went back again. My father flatly refused.

They're both dead now, and I did go NC with her in 2017 when my father died. Best decision I ever made. My only regret is I didn't go NC with both of them decades ago.

[RoyalPurpleStar]

I stumbled onto a "short" of yours just two weeks ago and now I'm completely hooked on your channel (totally subscribed right away, which I never do), and have really come to understand just how your "Class Clown Award" from when you were 12 was truly well-deserved!!! Watching all those comedians late at night as a way to cope when you were a little boy really helped you get through those incredibly tough times and evidently, really cultivated your awesome sense of humor. You are so funny! Kudos!

[missteedub]

Have you noticed that many of us developed our humour through a sort of survival necessity? I remember feeling that if I could make my mum laugh, I'd be safe for a bit. This continues today (I'm now 66) around others who's behavior is triggering. Believe it's called Sad Clown Paradox. Many people both friends and strangers tell me I am "hilarious" and I want to tell them I have been honing that shit since I was five years old 😕

[be_here_now]

This is the hold music that the VA uses. I get anxiety whenever i hear it. Thank you for waiting. Your call is important to us. Please stay on the line for the next available representative. You are caller number...3. Your estimated hold time is....11 minutes. You are caller number 1. Your estimated hold time is 27 minutes. 😮

[CorinthiansChVs]

Oh, my mom goes to a therapist... But every time they try to get her to dig into the past and actually process things, she gets upset, claims they are making things worse, and stops going. Every. Single. Time.

She just likes having someone to vent to about how everyone in her life is against her and she's the victim. But as soon as there's a hint that it might be her fault... "I can't help it, it's my mental disorders that make me this way. It's all because of my trauma, I can't help how I am. If other people weren't so mean to me, I'd be better."

She only goes to one because her psychiatrist makes her go to one to continue prescribing meds, and I think my mom believes there's some magical medication combination that'll make everything better, despite how many times I've tried to tell her that's not how things work... But whatever, not my circus, not my monkeys.

[radicallamp]

I was working on my dad to go get a therapist before he retired & lost his insurance. My mom talked him out of it. She believes that therapists brainwash you & make you stop believing in God. Both of them need help so bad & she took it from him. Threatened to divorce him if he went. So now, 2 years later, my dad & I aren't speaking because him & my husband got into it about womens rights & he acted like a 4 year old telling me he's never coming back to me.
All I wanted was for my dad to talk to someone. I could see this coming and I couldn't stop it. Sometimes I feel like I could have done something different, but people make their own choices & I'm not responsible for that. (Have to remind myself.)

[christophermcneela]

The true way out is mourning. Grieving, crying.
These parents sucked, were unavailable, cruel, abusive, neglectful, self-involved, invalidating etc. My life doesn’t have to.
Cycle-breaker.

I am not them.

[daniellfourie]

Nice applause 👏 sinthy sounds! For those with CPTSD from childhood in the 80's, even stronger in message!

[lmoorelawpractice]

😂. At some point we have to learn to let hope go. Sad but holding onto it is exhausting! Yes? No?

[sad_doggo]

Ah sorry Patrick, but I think the number you have dialed is no longer in service...

[christophermcneela]

Victims have truly suffered at the hands of people. They truly have, often parents. There’s no but, yet, or however. Instead I formulate my words thus: AT THE SAME TIME, victims are asking to be restored by someone not themselves. Often asking the tormentors or inflictors who did it in the first place. It’s hard and difficult. But if the victim wants justice, they must get it from within. If they want peace, it must be established within and not asked for from without.

I’m still asking my father for justice. The literal man is actually dead and deceased. So, who am I really asking? A phantom, an internalized father. He didn’t give me what I wanted and needed. He never did. Now, since he’s deceased he literally cannot. So, who can give it to me? Me, myself. The adult man. Who eerily and uncannily is now older than both his mom and his dad when they had authority over him. So, I must have authority over myself.

Nom-attachmemt to the past. The power of now. There is so much good here now if my mind will lay down and let me see what is in the actual present.

[AprilMayShine]

Any hint of self-help and I would be met with this glazed look. Sometimes you just know better than to even ask. Flashbacks to my technical support days lmao.😂