Exposing the Influence of Toxic Guilt

A major aspect of my healing journey has involved learning to discern the workings of guilt and allow myself to walk free from a lifestyle entangled with toxic guilt.

When you think about your spiritual journey, has anyone ever taught you how to discern what guilt means and how to work through it? Do you remember anyone telling you growing up, “That’s guilt and you do not need to feed that guilt?”

There is often very little emphasis on how much toxic guilt influences people’s lives in a way that is toxic and unhealthy.

While guilt can be a normal emotion that arises from our sense of morality or your compass of right and wrong. It often works as a signal that something needs to be amended or repaired. Many believers are realizing that guilt has gotten out of hand in their thinking and emotions. Guilt has become toxic, where it is excessive, continual and even irrational. In fact, many are realizing that much of their life is actually driven by toxic guilt.

In this broadcast, I want to talk about what guilt is and what it looks like when it becomes toxic in our lives.

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[oyinkana]

“I don’t know how to love because I did everything out of guilt, people pleasing, or I feel bad”

[jerrys]

It actually makes me angry that no other Christians talk about this stuff. I’ve been struggling with this for years and been unable to find any help. Thank you so much for your channel. Once I overcome this stuff in my own life, I’m going to start my own ministry to help people with these kind of issues.

[ladyesther]

This was for me. I just want to be free from toxic guilt. This has made me so vulnerable to being manipulated. Please pray for me. Today has been rough for me emotionally. Thanks.

[chloewikstrom]

This is good. I believe Holy Spirit highlighted your page for me when I searched "healing from spiritual abuse" and I can't get enough of your teachings now. They are helping me so much! Thank you! God bless!

[pamwatkins]

Sobriety slows us down and leads us into change

[godsdaughter]

Talking to me. Over 50 yrs of guilt. Religious church growing up, so I feel so guilty for choices I made as a teen. My sister continues to stir the pot bringing up all dumb things I did .any yrs ago. Telling my adult kids has them turned against me. So I still feel guilty for the past. Have said I am sorry over and over again. I was not a best parent. I messed up. But I raised them with what my young self knew to do. I was a very sheltered child. Never taught things cause mom had severe depression.
I am 69 and tired of feeling guilty for my past.

[favoriteone]

Wow wow wow! I have battled this poison my ENTIRE LIFE...with no breaks on this guilt monologue unless I was completely wiped out from working all night and being extremely sleep deprived... or in other ways to cause myself to malfunction ie workaholism, drinking too much wine, sickness etc the list is endless. All in the attempt to escape this madness which I was taught WAS GOD HIMSELF.

I will never be able to thank you ENOUGH! I am going to listen to all of ur videos on toxic guilt now. I HAVE STRUCK GOLD HERE! ❤

[dinelia]

Toxic guilt creates a hostile relationship with mistakes. It keeps me in self-hatred and makes it difficult to forgive myself even after God has forgiven me.

Driven to fix things based on guilt. Relationships based more on guilt than on love. Guilt is the glue for codependency. Its not about you and me loving you... it's about me feeling better. Doing everything out of "I feel bad". Not setting boundaries out of "I feel bad". These keep you in unhealthy relationship patterns.

I appreciate the distinction between normal guilt and toxic guilt.

[spiritman-emqr]

In my upbringing I was taught to be guilty for even existing. My mother "sacrificed" EVERYTHING because of me. My mother "sacrificed" HER LIFE to take care of me. I was THE reason for all of my mother's struggles, hardships, and hurt. TOXIC guilt was my constant state of being, and my narcissistic mother even guilted me for feeling guilty.

This teaching was very helpful. Thanks, Mark 🎯

[Leannot]

Yes this pattern is tormenting, and Thank you for this, makes a lot of sense!! Yes I think there is some churches, or other believers, in them that mean well and don't realize they're doing this, because we all fall short.. Jeesh I wish I started my YouTube about this long ago, but I don't think I'm fit for that yet. This is a great YouTube channel and helpful thank you again. I would appreciate prayer if anybody could for me and my loved ones, thank you so much, I'm so glad I found this channel ✝️🙏

[Hanadigital]

I don't know if anyone else has experienced this but I'm not seeing a 'like/thumbs up button' on this channel. All I am seeing is a 'thumbs down button, This is troubling and I thought I should point this out. I'm having to revert to liking positive comments about your channel!

[kimmiebowers]

Thank You Jesus 🙏
For using Mark to help us all with our mental health ❤

[drewcummings]

I just love your teachings. Lord led me to Elijah House prophetic prayer counseling and then to your videos and man.... I am so at peace and excited for the future. God bless you Mark. You're gonna transform the Church.

[turnjesustoday]

This video was a great great blessing to my life, I thank God for that revelation shared in this video setting me free for who I truly am in Christ without toxic guilt and shame and condemnation. Wow, I feel finally free in Christ! Thank God. Thank God!!!

[pamwatkins]

Emotional neglect makes you feel lonely there's a. In life it's just a part of life that just brings about some feelings that you don't really don't know what it is just acknowledging it

[Mama_Moosh]

Wow, wow, wow! I can’t tell you what a blessing this is to me. I am dominated by obsessive guilt and have been subconsciously searching for some tools to free me from this. I was in a toxic guilt-ridden, codependent marriage for 16 years and undoing the that condemning nature I carry within myself takes a lot of prayer and reprogramming. Thank you so much for helping me on my freedom journey. My family and I love your work. Thank you for allowing God to use you. ~In Christ

[charlabarnett]

Yes! That is what Legalism does! Uses God as a weapon. How? Through "The Law". We are no longer under the "The Law" we are under GRACE. Paul taught this exact message in Romans 8: 1-17. Paul even struggled with it in Romans 7. Thank you so much for this much needed teaching!!

[christine]

Thank you so much Mark. Always spot on and so relevant!

[charlabarnett]

Thank you for creating such a great "point of reference" Now that I have that I can live a much more productive life with My Lord and Savior. You are right, the church does not teach this grace and love message. Oh they do but it is "passive aggressive ".

[leandrahackwith]

I learned at an early age that guilt shame and manipulation were the trifecta of control from my mother. If she hadn't been so chronically ill I would have told her off decades earlier.