Husband Committed Financial Infidelity

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[kara]

Financial infidelity is a strong word for buying household necessities.

[jet]

Obviously the husband doesn’t make enough to support a household, she needs to help in some way. And obviously, she didn’t notice that they were living on more than he makes. You don’t enjoy an extra 50k without noticing! She is in La La Land, too.

[_CPerk]

So she manages the household budget but didn’t know they were $50k worth of additional household/everyday items entering the home over the last few years? 🤔

[Trecool]

How does the husband spend $50, 000 on household items and the wife not realize? Where is the rest of their money going? We know what the husband did, but we need to know why. Did the wife lose or quit her job, but they were still trying to live the same lifestyle? Did they start eating steak and lobster every night and taking vacations (and the wife just ignored how they were paying for it)?

[jenniferannfox]

Obviously they can't afford the "stay at home mom" situation. If she is the "stay at home mom" why is he the one buying all these groceries that add up to 50 grand? She probably doesn't even know what his real income amount is. He probably lied about that as well. The sad thing is that now she will become the financial police and he will get really tired of that. He is not going to change his spending behavior most likely. Without trust, relationships die fast.

[e.goldstein]

He earns the money. His wife stays at home. He overspends to buy things that she benefits from. And yet she takes zero responsibility and he is completely in the wrong. The framing of this is sickening.

[jill]

If he’s being totally transparent now, I can’t understand why he wouldn’t just say “hey, we’re spending more than we make every month just by buying basic necessities and something’s got to give.” If he has nothing to hide, just be honest with her and find a solution before this happens. Weird.

[mamajojovegan]

Why is she a stay at home mom? Sometimes stay at home moms are a burden. Why was he hiding all this from her? Why is she not helping this man? So all the babbling she is doing she did not know her husband income and how he was paying for things. Let her go and get a job at night when her husband comes home from work to help this man. The kids are in school. She needs to get a job.

[mpeugeot]

He should divorce her now... No joint accounts, bet he's the primary bread winner and she's the jail warden. He would be happier without her silly ass. She's committing financial infidelity, she's bringing in NOTHING... Why does she even need a checking account, she makes no money, she's just a liability - nothing more than a depreciating asset.

[christinebutler]

If shes a housewife, doesnt she do the grocery shopping and buy for the kids? How the hell did he do this?

[catchingupproductions]

In her voice you can tell. She so happy it wasn’t fuelled by something dark.

Cause the money part is easy to solve. When it’s fuelled by something dark. Different game

Happy they heading to peace 🙏🏾

[TheChocoboWhisperer]

She said she saw the statements and knows what it is, but John tries to sow doubt and make her think he's an addict or adulterer. Bizarre.

[stevenporter]

This shouldn't be a surprise to her if she reviewed the budget as much as she claims. How did she think they were living well beyond their income? He shouldn't have hid it but she sounds like a Monday morning quarterback.

[datboiashy]

If you don’t contribute any financial assistance to the house, you don’t deserve a voice in the finances of the house. Let the man make his money and stop nagging him to an early grave

[mustangthings]

3:46 Dr D is clearly annoyed that the husband isn’t cheating or doing drugs

[tugboat]

If the main reason they're in debt is that he was paying for necessities and things they both benefitted from, that is NOT financial infidelity. That's bad budgeting and lack of communication.

[noconsentgiven]

She has to go to work. Marriage is a partnership and she bears some responsibility in my opinion. How do you not know what is your spouses salary? How do you not know how that lines up with bills, especially if its only one income? I just dont get it.

[jimmymcgill]

A couple hundred here, a couple hundred there. Had to be happening for years.
This just didn't come out of nowhere.
It sounds like it was just household things and groceries.
Maybe it's time for her to get a job. So they can have more money.

[RCGuitar]

Shame on these guys for putting that nonsense in her head for no reason. He was trying to keep up with the joneses. He feels inadequate and he needs her support. After she gets furious first bc she's definitely within her rights to do that first and foremost

[foreveranuj]

Why isn't SHE working? why not HELP HIM by working yourself? Get a $50K job (there are plenty!) & pay off the debt in a year or less.
You can't handle household money if you're not contributing yourself - i guess you can, but that'd be awfully weird in my household.