Six reasons why you struggle to let go of the Narcissist

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

Also I try to help people with or abused by narcissism. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too.

If you are interested in talking with me one on one grab a time with the link below.

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[dancingbrooms]

Does a narcissist actually think about each stage they put you through? Like ok now I'm gonna do the devalue stage. Like is there that much thought into it.

[td]

You're not or didn't love the narc, you are or were in love with yourself, you fell in love with yourself, the narc was inky mirroring you back TO YOU !

[classystyle]

When I finally accepted the fact that I was being emotionally abused, I read his book "Whole Again". It was after I finished that book that I turned to YouTube to see what videos there were about emotional abuse. That was when I came across videos on narcissism....which explained EVERYTHING that had happened in my relationship. I'm glad you're promoting great reading material for many. Seeing things in print helps to realize the terrible treatment that we tolerate....and helps to shut down the self-blame.

[Justjessej]

I’ve been displaced from my home and from our beloved pets for the hundredth time and that is pretty accurate, and it’s not any easier and I don’t know how I’m still alive, my family is so sick of the same stuff because of her that they think I’m crazy and even had a family member tell me they think I’m a narcissist. I can’t take anymore, it’s the same cycle with my narcissistic abusive wife. Then when I get a little bit of strength and she doesn’t hear from me she pulls me back in after blaming me after initial incident and blaming me for our problems. Honestly I can’t take anymore and this time just want to run away from everyone. Anyways I could go into more but will have respect for this video and say how true how all of this is, and it has very good information. I do know I can not go through this again and need to think of myself and my pets. I hope I stay with my mom who is wonderful, get a new job, and actually set the goal to get my own place, so when she crashes again when she realizes I will not go through this ever again with her or anyone else, she may actually follow through with killing herself, and I need to have a place for our pets, so they are not displaced and who know what’s if they can’t have either of us. I’m at a loss and so weak this time I don’t know if I myself can hold onto life. I pray and pray and pray and am planning on reaching out for more support this time. If the psycho abusive narcissist never gets help then they will never change. I’ve tried everything over 12 years and if the narcissist doesn’t get help and stay committed, I promise no matter what they say or do, nothing will ever change and it will go right back to where it always is. Good video and thanks for doing what you do, this is my stepping stone and awareness.

[AlwaysHope]

This book was well worth getting
definitely a book to keep forever to go back and use this reference
Very clear exclamations
Thank you Ben for the recommendation

[greylizard]

I definitely have to get the book, thanks for the recommendation Ben. The only thing that's brought me any closure after being discarded was learning about narcissism and finally I understood what had actually happened. Every single piece of the puzzle has fit together, even the things that I thought might mean that he wasn't a narcissist. He truly made me believe that he was the one and I thought that I was important enough to him that even though we fought we could work things out. But he started ignoring me without blocking me or removing me like a normal person would. I cried every day for 7 months and would still be crying now if I hadn't found these channels. It was getting to the point of being ridiculous. The chemical bond is particularly potent with them, I think it might have a lot to do with them rationing sex and affection in order to control their partners. When it's cut off completely during a discard, it really is like going through recovery from an addiction. Thank you for putting out so much insightful content, there are little details and nuggets of wisdom you are able to share that we wouldn't be able to get from even an expert. It's good for survivors, and if the topic gets big enough it will hopefully get more narcissists into therapy like Lee always says.

[ssing]

Thanks Ben. I suggest that book for anyone. Dude not being a doctor he hits the nail on the head every sentence. Felt very validated every second listening to the audio book. Dude is a genius …

Then please get his other. I’m sure it’s just as good.

[Libbyloukrtc]

This video has really helped me thank you soo.. Much!!

[haleygee]

Is it possible for a person to have more than one of the six reasons?

[mirandabrunskill]

Excellent video and book recommendation.