The Dangers of Blaming Your Parents for Your Problems

[Chrisspru]

one can blame ones parents, but not use them as an excuse. forgive them, do not forget, and grow up to who you are better as.
a cause is seldom a reason

[wauliepalnuts]

I blame everyone in the comments section.

[Pan_Z]

Basically, blame is not an excuse. And the excuse gets more tenuous the longer one is into adulthood.

[JDog]

I don’t blame my parents for all my issues, but to say they never had any impact would also be incorrect. I’ll own up to my end if you own up to yours.

[astrolord]

Question most adults in these situations of hating their parents while npt makimg a chanhe themselves, never ask themselves is: Does it excuse me from changing myself now, right here and moving forward?

And for those who say yes and excuse themselves for their bad behaviour, pointing at their past. You will be the source of your own misery moving forward.

Making a change is hard. Like everything worth fighting for is.

[fugazishoegazey]

Your parents were just doing the best they could at the time. What accounts for the people that had it worse than you but are now doing better? Taking full responsibility for yourself is what it means to be an emotionally mature adult.

[untenableposition]

Is it nature or nurture?

Who cares, parents are to blame for both!

[jokerpilled]

Parents, economy, and a toxic society are mostly to blame. Give people the right motivations and vast majority of people perform well.

[E_tk]

Depends on the context, while this is a positive and hopeful message, it doesnt apply to everyone, i wish it did but it doesnt. the dismal and unfathomable failures of my parents has done irreversible damage and cost me far too much to the point where i am no longer entitled to a life worth living and that fact wont change whether i blame them or not. i will make the most of what is left but it will never be what it should be. hope nobody relates but thats my side of things

[blablablayahoo]

Your brain is very impressionable and neuroplastic when you are a kid. When you become an adult you can't just change your personality. That is not how the brain works.

[MartishaSooDivine]

I think what’s missing with this “idea” is that SOMETIMES people have parents who deliberately and STRATEGICALLY do things or carry out plans to maintain control or sometimes even sabotage their grown adult children well into them “moving on” and creating a new life. Overall and as a whole, no, you can’t blame your parents for your childhood but in many cases, dysfunctional and narcissistic parents know no bounds.. well into their children’s (no matter how grown) adult hood.🤦🏾‍♀️

[fisicogamer]

this is true, but it is very hard to do, since a neurotic kid will have problems to live away from their parents due to financial distress. Thus, parents will keep causing neurosis in their kid. Once this distress is solved, they can see better their own neurosis.

[TheRebelliousMeatPuppet]

Don't forget, it's what father & mother does that wires the child's mind. THAT becomes the baggage heaped up developing children, thusly suffering the sins of thy father and thy mother.

[catcat]

Idk man, abuse caused a permanent physical illness/nerve disorder that causes me constant pain and major health issues. That's what's standing in my way, and it's their fault.

[whoopdewhoop]

"Success has no apologies and Failure no Excuse" - Nipsey

[Willem]

The one above 2x, the one above that 4x,
Example: client 1x, employee 2x, the employer 4x, manager 8x, director 16x their fault because they hired those.

[animoetprudentia]

the bonus feature included with everything we experience is the opportunity to grow.

[belialacrid]

Man, I could have heard this 20 years ago, but now I'm careworn, unfixable.

[marilynschmidt]

Just be grateful that you've unmeshed yourself from their lives in order to heal, move on and unapologetically live your own ☮️

[farrider]

Jung again put an insufficient proposal here. Check for the term "priming" in this context.