I'm Scared to Leave My Job...

I'm Scared to Leave My Job...



Do you feel stuck in your job? Do you dread going to work on Monday mornings? Do you want to do work that matters? The Ken Coleman Show is for you! Join the conversation with #1 bestselling author and nationally syndicated radio host, Ken Coleman as he delivers practical advice to help you discover the role you were born to play—and map out a plan to get there. You have what it takes to make your dream job a reality!


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[joemama]

There's also a gamble when it comes to entering a new group of people. You may not fit in with a different office.

[CC-brqg]

Thank you for this video. I'm feeling very lost with my current life situation. I am from the USA and graduated college in a major I hated. It was my only path/escape out of the school, and I couldn't waste my free ride merit scholarship. I went to a lower tiered school to avoid crippling loans. I had amazing grades and I worked my butt off. Like you, I was able to graduate both without student loan debt and with a healthy amount of savings I have built up by working through college. However, I am at a crossroads. I've applied to over 300 jobs (all corporate environment) and even had an offer rescinded during the economic downturn in June 2022. The job market is so tough for recent grads in the USA. I'm so burned out.

Three weeks ago, I started an in-office 9 to 5 in the finance department of a major hotel chain and I absolutely hated it. 9 to 5 is really 8 to 6. It made me so miserable, I dreaded going in to work everyday. The software was from the 1980's and the computers were only a few years younger than me. My bosses didn't give me the time of day and there was no training provided. Nobody would even say hi to me in the mornings, I had to force every conversation. Needless to say, I miss my restaurant jobs from college so badly. The social environment, physical exercise on the clock, interacting with diverse people from all over the world, flexible work hours, being part of a team. Being around a bunch of 20 somethings like me is something I miss while working in an older office environment. I actually enjoyed my day at those restaurant jobs, and even if I had a bad shift, I got my steps in and interacted with humanity. In contrast, I was miserable at my 9 to 5. I barely had time for myself before and after work. The commute ate up 3 hours per day, and traffic is only getting worse going into the fall. I stared at a computer for 9 hours per day and barely got to interact with anyone. I was losing my physical and mental health. My head hurt daily and my soul was being drained. Finally, last week, I called it quits. It was a really hard decision for me, with lots weighing pros and cons. I'm now re-evaluating my goals and life plans. I don't have anything tying me to a job, like loans. I can’t see myself working corporate the rest of my life.

I am so lost because my family is disappointed in me and I feel like a loser for being unable to stick with a 9 to 5. "You're shooting yourself in the foot" and "You just wasted an amazing opportunity with so much benefits, you could have worked your way up the ladder, " my aunt and grandma said. What ladder? I couldn't envision any sort of future I wasn't miserable in working there. I guess I'm lucky I don't need a job immediately, but I still feel so uncomfortable with the uncertainty and social pressure. I feel like a lazy loser. I don't know where to go or what to do. I very much feel like an old soul, and do not feel attached to material things. I lead a simple life and desire fulfilling connections and purpose above money and "success" defined by society's standards. I'm currently able to pick up shifts at one of my old jobs, but it isn't enough stimulation for me. I want to feel productive. I'm a very creative person and used to be a photographer, make music as well as write fiction and poetry but through the years my talents were suppressed in order to excel in school. My heart has been calling me to move out of state for many years but due to college I was never able to. Now that I can, I have a boyfriend I'm afraid to say goodbye to and I'm living at my father's unsure of how to start the moving process given my job situation and lack of connections out of state. I feel like a shell of myself.

Any advice would be appreciated.

[gaxsalgi]

I'm 55 years old and want to leave my job but don't want a pay cut

[damianwong]

Excellent advice. Ken is so good at what he does.

[jamesdevries]

Ken gave me terrible advice before.. but patience is key. Ken good job on this one.

[Jpanda]

Omg this helped me so much rn. I kept googling "how to resign" but it wasn't that I couldn't write a resignation letter, it was being frozen with irrational fear that I wasn't taking the time to rationalize.

[dcabral]

What are you afraid of!? How about ending up homeless! or not as bad, maybe ending up doing something you don't like and regretting letting go of something good, for something that ended up being not so great.

[tlslibertypeace]

My job doesn’t leave me a choice. Right now it’s the highest wage in my area with my skill set and I have only a GED. Paying off mortgage and don’t want to do college cause numbers is my favorite and accounting is my fave. Every place I checked I have to spend 20 k minimum. I’m in healthcare insurance industry and got my training here but I can’t work for this company once we payoff mortgage and husband feels bad that I’m stuck here. He makes same as me and his pay pays principal on mortgage and savings account. Mine pays all bills example utilities and mortgage.

[mridhulachandramohan]

❤this was so useful .. thanks for breaking down the fear aspect..

[MM-lwox]

Not Ken's best questioning. Took a while to get to some important points

[billythao]

If ya had a shitty job I would understand. But ya don't. Some people would die to be where you at. A good job vs hanging with the family.